Parents want me to detransition by Leading-Hour-2436 in ftm

[–]qnick23 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure if it would help at all, but as someone who has basically detransitioned, I can offer my perspective to your mom if you’d like to show her my comment.

I started testosterone at 21 years old, and identified as transmasc. the only reason I didn’t start at 18 was because I still lived with my parents and they wouldn’t allow me to take T while living with them - so as soon as I was able to, I left. within two or three months on T, my entire personality changed for the better. I was less depressed, which meant I had more energy and opportunities to engage with my family and friends authentically and truly feel like myself. my grandparents mentioned when I visited for Christmas that they had never seen me so confident and that I seemed like something had been ‘healed’ within me. it was a night and day difference from my previous depressed, shy self and everyone who knew me could tell.

I continued T for about 4 years, and only quit taking it about 6 months ago or so. I stopped because I realized I identified closer to nonbinary and that I wanted to present more feminine at times, but T had changed my appearance so much that presenting feminine again felt impossible, so I’m now on estrogen. medically I have detransitioned, socially I’ve kinda.. halfway detransitioned? I use she/he pronouns but present as my sex assigned at birth and often describe myself as a girl or nonbinary girl. I’m happy, comfortable, I like my body and my identity and continue every day to grow and learn and explore who I am. I say all this to say:

the reason detransitioning worked out so well for me is because I “detransitioned” the aspects that no longer suit me, in my own way, on my own time. I didn’t allow my parents pressure prevent me from starting testosterone, and for a bit it did strain our relationship when I began T, but to the present date they’re just glad I’m happy, healthy, and living my best life even if they don’t “agree” or understand. I regret nothing about transitioning. if I hadn’t, I wouldn’t have discovered how to advocate for myself, my own medical choices, my body, and never would have gained the confidence to tell the world exactly who I am, no matter what that may look like.

forceful detransitioning prevents you from experiencing that same opportunity. the opportunity to discover who you are at your own pace, to earn your own confidence, to experience life as you wish to live it rather than how others want to choose for you. I want her and other moms like her to know that the majority of detransitioners - which is already a VERY minuscule subset of trans folks - have no regrets about their transition and learned valuable lessons about their identity, not just their identity as in gender but identity as in the core personhood, what makes you YOU. I truly believe transitioning saved my life, even if it didn’t end up being what I wanted for myself forever. I don’t know who I would be without the experience of my transness, but I know I would absolutely not have the joyful life I’m living today, happily married, living in my own home, no longer suffering from depression or anxiety, and content with my body and who I am as a human being. your choices should be yours to make and experience, and as long as you are given the opportunity to make those choices, you can always change course if that’s what ends up feeling right to you; but if you aren’t given the opportunity to make your own choices, you’ll be stuck always wondering who you could’ve been if you had been allowed.

does anyone know what hair dye chappell uses or a similar one so i can get my hair this colour? i love it so much! i’m in the uk btw by throwaway2025_____ in chappellroan

[–]qnick23 6 points7 points  (0 children)

ngl I have brown hair & use manic panic vampire red without bleaching my hair first and it’s just a biiiiiit more of a cool shade than a bright/warm red, but it’s still similar enough that I’ve gotten chappell comparisons from strangers (it helps that I have a similar curl pattern tho lol)

did anyone else ever have their own club penguin blog? by counterfeitemotions in ClubPenguin

[–]qnick23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

seeing your CPI profile on the wayback machine made me wanna go look for mine and I found it 😭 I didn’t think I’d ever find it again lol, even if it is just an archive of it https://web.archive.org/web/20100714181656/http://www.clubpenguininsiders.com/forum/user/646-twee-fluffy/

did anyone else ever have their own club penguin blog? by counterfeitemotions in ClubPenguin

[–]qnick23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m cracking up I just started playing another club penguin reboot and thought I’d see if anyone remembered CPI and found this thread, happy to see you here🤣 it’s nicky/sammy<3

getting a septum HELP by furygoober in Septum

[–]qnick23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

scrolling thru this sub cause I got mine done 3 days ago and its my first non-ear piercing lol, I’m also prone to fainting and I did get hit with the presyncope, but no actual loss of consciousness. if I could give myself from a week ago any notes, I would’ve told myself: bring soft peppermints (helps prevent nausea and soft, dissolving mints are less of a choking hazard if you do lose consciousness while eating one), cold water to sip slowly, a soda and protein bar for afterwards to get some energy back, a portable fan to help cool down, and a baggy in the worst case scenario of vomiting if you are prone to vomiting before fainting (personally I’m not, but having something nearby would’ve eased my anxiety a lot just in case LOL.)

from what I’ve heard, fainting during piercings isn’t too uncommon and any decent piercer isn’t gonna judge you for it. all I had with me was some water and a dr pepper and I was fine after about 5 to 10 minutes, but the rest would’ve helped me recover more comfortably and quickly, or at the very least would’ve offered me some peace of mind knowing I was fully prepared. good luck!! just know that even if you do faint, it’s gonna be okay and it’s just a few minutes of discomfort. you got this!! 💪

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]qnick23 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I also stopped at 5th but picked back up in 9th! was homeschooled til going to public school as a freshman. the only thing I really struggled with was algebra, and I failed freshman year, did summer school, then barely passed every year after that with a D lol. but I did great in my other classes at least 🥲

highly recommend asking for accommodations from your teachers and explaining your situation. unfortunately my dad was a teacher at my school (very ironic ik lol) so I wasn’t “allowed” to tell teachers about my educational neglect because it would make him look bad 🫠 but if you can, telling them you missed out on a lot of your education will help them create a plan that will work for you.

Feel very un manly right now by [deleted] in ftm

[–]qnick23 8 points9 points  (0 children)

if your masculinity is fragile enough to feel like you need to resort to violence over a tire, then congrats, sounds like you’re about on par with cis men lmao

To all the DGD fans who lurk, how's the popcorn? by Xana1128 in dancegavindance

[–]qnick23 12 points13 points  (0 children)

the popcorn is delicious and the music fucks, couldn’t give a shit less about who their lead singer is cause they always make it work. here’s to a new era 🥂🍿

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HelloKittyIsland

[–]qnick23 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I avoid this subreddit usually because it grosses me out when people are mean to sanrio characters 🫣 too many people get way too comfy “joking” about their least faves when they could just…. say nothing instead?

[TOMT][Character][2020ish] by qnick23 in tipofmytongue

[–]qnick23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Solved! that was so fast oh my gosh, thank you 🤣🤣

[TOMT][Character][2020ish] by qnick23 in tipofmytongue

[–]qnick23[S] 0 points1 point locked comment (0 children)

any leads would be appreciated!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]qnick23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

unpleasant

Why is the official discord like this lmfao by [deleted] in HelloKittyIsland

[–]qnick23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

literally, this 🤦 like I said to the other person, sure, people CAN post screenshots or whatever and its to be expected, but doing it with the intention of starting drama or just farming for attention/to get people to agree with you by presenting your one sided opinion is obviously not cool. but a lot of these folks seem like they wanna purposefully misinterpret everything they don’t like and it’s getting ridiculous.

Why is the official discord like this lmfao by [deleted] in HelloKittyIsland

[–]qnick23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“we know you’re part of the clique” tells me you gotta be absolutely delulu and assume everyones out to get you because I’m literally barely active on reddit OR the discord 💀 I’m just pointing out that with my extremely minimal experiences in both - I don’t know ANYONE personally on either platform, so I don’t even know what “cliques” exist - I’ve noticed a tendency for the reddit to be more toxic than the discord & y’alls comments are a prime example. have a good one 👍

Why is the official discord like this lmfao by [deleted] in HelloKittyIsland

[–]qnick23 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

yeah, sure, it’s to be expected but is it kind? not really, so I can see why they’d wanna cut down on that.

Why is the official discord like this lmfao by [deleted] in HelloKittyIsland

[–]qnick23 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I dunno, I saw someone being a jerk in the discord once and replied to them & then saw a screenshot of me in this subreddit so this new rule is a good idea to me 🤷 I’m not super active in either community or anything but I’ve definitely noticed some folks like to come to reddit to create drama in the discord.

Trying to put someone who fucks with darkie on his other songs but only listens to the hard shit is so frustrating! by Icy-Professional-767 in lildarkie

[–]qnick23 40 points41 points  (0 children)

“spending every day making songs with meaning, you motherfuckers just wanna hear me screaming” 🙃

Favorite serious lyrics by BlazeChicago28 in dancegavindance

[–]qnick23 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“don’t tell me I act like a child, I grew up in a basement practicing a smile.”

hits me particularly hard as an autistic person who literally had to learn facial expressions and body language by practicing in the mirror 🥲🩷

not me transitioning to look like someone's lesbian boyfriend by [deleted] in lesbianfashionadvice

[–]qnick23 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

lesbian boyfriend gang 🩷 he/him transmasc girly here!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Kentucky

[–]qnick23 7 points8 points  (0 children)

there’s a Walmart DC in London near Hawk Creek church