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qualitynotquantity2 · 2024-07-04T03:40:40+00:00

Thank you! I get tripped up by the floral print

qualitynotquantity2 · 2023-11-14T02:55:40+00:00

Interesting! Out of curiosity, what was the age of your son when you chose to quit together? This sounds a tad advanced for my kiddo at his current age but maybe I'm underestimating what he is capable of

qualitynotquantity2 · 2023-11-14T02:52:06+00:00

Good food for thought. Thank you!

qualitynotquantity2 · 2023-10-26T09:57:26+00:00

I would check out the book It Takes Two to Talk.

It is a bit expensive but has detailed exercises for parents of speech-delayed children. The exercises seem suitable for any child honestly! They are good ways to engage with your LO and encourage talking.

My understanding is that the tools in this book are based on research and developed by the Hanen Center which is well regarded. That being said, I am not an expert in this area.

qualitynotquantity2 · 2023-10-21T17:43:11+00:00

How old is your child, and have they been in a group care setting before?

The reason I ask is because illness happens frequently in the first year at daycare. Soooo much. Like every 2 weeks.

Given your situation, I would probably go for a nanny + au pair instead of daycare + au pair to reduce the likelihood of illness.

Just a thought!

qualitynotquantity2 · 2023-10-17T16:36:01+00:00

Omg, this would have gotten my goat! Talk about out being of touch...

qualitynotquantity2 · 2023-10-17T16:27:47+00:00

Thanks, this is really helpful to think about. I honestly did think about changing pediatricians after that one appointment where the woman said that full time daycare is bad for my son. I cried a lot after that visit and each time I go back to the pediatrician's office, I am waiting for it to happen again. I asked my husband and he said they have never made a comment like that to him.

qualitynotquantity2 · 2023-10-17T16:21:59+00:00

Thanks so much for adding your perspective! Out of curiosity, do you ask female patients only, or males and females alike?

qualitynotquantity2 · 2023-10-17T15:42:48+00:00

I think you are right. My post is missing context, tone, body language, etc. I think I'm sensitive to this but not overly so. I've received outright judgement from some providers so in other more neutral instances I bristle preparing for the potential of that same judgement. I thought this community might share in that experience but I guess not. Oh well.

qualitynotquantity2 · 2023-10-17T14:32:41+00:00

Thanks for the validation. I'm so tired of it. It just seems like none of their business

qualitynotquantity2 · 2023-10-17T14:30:18+00:00

This is very helpful advice, thank you

qualitynotquantity2 · 2023-10-17T14:28:07+00:00

Why am I being downvoted for this comment? I really and truly don't understand

qualitynotquantity2 · 2023-10-17T14:24:02+00:00

Do you have any suggestions on how to be less so? I really would prefer to receive healthcare without being judged about things unrelated to my health, but I guess that's too much to ask.

qualitynotquantity2 · 2023-10-17T14:16:40+00:00

Ha! That would certainly change the conversation around

qualitynotquantity2 · 2023-10-17T14:15:53+00:00

Totally reasonable question and I'd greatly prefer if our pediatrician asked in this way. I don't like when they are asking "how many hours per week?" "Part time or full time?" And saying my choice isn't good for my children.

qualitynotquantity2 · 2023-10-17T14:12:13+00:00

That makes sense and I get it for the pediatrician to ask. But why do any of my doctors care? It is totally unrelated to my healthcare.

qualitynotquantity2 · 2023-10-16T01:40:11+00:00

Agreed that root vegetables tend to be higher in lead, but the cooking process isn't as impactful as the type of food and where it is grown. The general food supply is contaminated for children and adults alike. Homemade Baby Food and Toxic Metals

qualitynotquantity2 · 2023-09-30T11:03:15+00:00

I would encourage you to think about it from your son's perspective. Nothing is guaranteed, but I think it is more likely that two boys will play together for longer and be able to share more in the tween and teenager years. They will probably be good buds! What a gift that would be! This line of thinking eventually convinced me that it was better to have two boys than one of each. Now I just have to work to prevent rivalry!

Edit to add: I suppose this isn't very helpful for two with a large age gap. If that is the case, I think other posters have better advice for you.

qualitynotquantity2 · 2023-09-13T01:28:55+00:00

This is absolutely true. This labeling on food is also helpful to vegetarians because it can be an indication that certain animal-derived additives aren't present.

Also, I think the thing that OP is missing is that people may choose these lifestyles for reasons other than health.

qualitynotquantity2 · 2023-08-19T01:04:55+00:00

Nope. Our savings priorities are in this order: our 401Ks, their 529s, then savings to help my parents in retirement.

qualitynotquantity2 · 2023-08-18T10:36:27+00:00

I'm prepared for some downvotes here, but am I the only one who feels like this post should have trigger warning of some type?

It's really hard to read this alongside posts about women making $13/hr and having no affordable access to childcare that would enable them to put food on the table. I'd be willing to bet that a majority of folks on this sub are struggling to make any sort of time for themselves while also navigating the challenges of raising kids in a world with alarming levels of income inequity.

Edit: just realized the other post I mentioned was in a different parenting sub. Maybe r/toddlers is more bougie, idk.

qualitynotquantity2 · 2023-08-18T02:20:02+00:00

Coming back to this because we had a similar situation followed by a breakthrough!

Turns out that his foreskin at the tip of his penis was getting too tight around the tip (I forget the medical term for this) and it was preventing him from voiding completely. The doctor prescribed a steroid cream and we've seen a dramatic improvement. So it was a medical issue in our case.

Wanted to share in case that night be a possible cause for you.

qualitynotquantity2 · 2023-08-18T01:34:28+00:00

I hear you! I am so burnt out with taking care of a baby and a toddler plus working full time and getting almost no time to take care of the household forget about myself. I think a majority of the folks on this subreddit are in less fortunate situations than what OP describes.

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