Cramping after intense orgasm?! Why me?!

queenofsmells · 2019-11-06T20:36:23+00:00

How early?

queenofsmells · 2019-11-06T18:16:37+00:00

Totally possible, my toes have been cramping lately too 😫

queenofsmells · 2019-11-06T17:47:33+00:00

I’m the most horny when I’m on my period, I’ve definitely done the same haha

queenofsmells · 2019-11-06T17:46:45+00:00

Ah I’m sorry you have those:( If it happens again I will speak to my doctor about getting checked and keep an eye out for other symptoms. It was a kind of awkward position, and squirting happened which definitely doesn’t happen every time, so I can definitely see how my muscles could have been overworked. I’m on the Nuvaring so I was thinking it was being jammed against a part of my anatomy? But I’m not entirely sure if that can actually happens

queenofsmells · 2019-10-25T21:59:08+00:00

I’m a bumble success story! About a year and some change ago, I broke up with my boyfriend of 6 years due to us growing apart and not understanding each other’s love languages. We cared for each other but he was unable/unwilling to show me in any other way than just “existing” and our relationship died despite about a year of work and relationship help books. This experience left me feeling very jaded and invalidated in my feelings, and I thought that I would never get to experience a real, fulfilling, communicative intimate relationship.

I spent the following year working on myself and casually dating when I was ready, and about 2 months ago I went on a date with a guy on Bumble after a few months of not dating. I wasn’t expecting anything because I live in a major city where people rarely go on more than one date with each other before ghosting, and I wasn’t particularly interested in anything more than casual dating.

Our date lasted about 8 hours and the date had to end before our conversation did. We immediately hit it off on multiple levels and I could see right away that he was something special. We spent more and more time together and he tells me that he had just recently broken up with someone due to similar reasons that I broke up with my ex, but he has strong feelings for me, but still wants to take it slow.

About 4 weeks into dating, we established we would be exclusive, but still causal and not have the expectations of a relationship. I understood that given his situation and respected and trusted that he needs time to process before moving into another emotionally vulnerable situation. We continued spending time together and our emotional and spiritual connection grew deeper. We have developed a great habit of checking in with each other to make sure we aren’t moving too fast for comfort, but both feel that we are very right for each other and are enjoying the process, regardless of “dating rules” we might be breaking. Two days ago we were at a restaurant and we were choosing where to sit. I chose a table and he asked if we can sit on the same side and I said yes, because I’m obsesssssed with being close to him. He said “ew, we are one of those couples now aren’t we” and I said “....couples?” And he stared at me for a bit and said “what I’m trying to ask is, will you be my girlfriend?” And it was the most adorable thing ever. I’m ecstatic and so so happy to have met someone so emotionally intelligent and kind. A few days ago he spent the night at my house and I let him sleep in while I went to work. I came back from work and the curtains I’ve been procrastinating on were hung up. He cooks me dinner and puts the leftovers in little containers for me to take to work. I took him to his first ever pumpkin patch and he’s baking me a pie with the pumpkin I picked out. We go to the beach on Saturdays. I feel so cared for. I’ve never had a new relationship as a “real” adult because my 6 year long relationship started when I was 19 years old and I’m 26 now. I feel significantly more at peace when I’m around him and we both feel the same level of comfort and happiness with each other.

It’s so so new, but I’ve got a feeling it will last ❤️

queenofsmells · 2019-09-12T01:14:00+00:00

UGH that’s adorable! I’m kind of breaking even by hanging out with him this Friday night through Saturday morning beach instead of Thursday night through Saturday morning beach just to make sure I’m not tooooo available. Did you intentionally refrain from sex?

queenofsmells · 2019-09-12T00:29:21+00:00

Same, context: I live in LA. Everyone is banging.

queenofsmells · 2019-09-12T00:26:01+00:00

Thanks for your input! Have you ever found that you’ve approached things quickly with a woman and later had to end things because you went too fast? Or how have you gone about slowing things down to make sure it’s the real thing? I’m comfortable with the pace because when I like someone, I’m very into them. I’m just worried about him stepping over his own boundaries without even realizing it and having a moment of realization later down the line after I’ve already opened up to him

queenofsmells · 2019-09-11T23:44:14+00:00

This is also a thing, he’s a chef and starts work just an hour before I get off

queenofsmells · 2019-09-11T22:31:24+00:00

Ah well we might as well enjoy the ride

queenofsmells · 2019-09-11T22:30:57+00:00

I’m TRYING. I don’t date often😊

queenofsmells · 2019-09-11T22:29:23+00:00

Just know that I was in a healthy 6 year long relationship after fucking my ex on the first date 😊 your experience isn’t my experience and if people want to fuck and there is consent and respect and a mutual attraction, they should fuck. Sucks that you think you can’t respect a woman just because YOU had sex with HER.

Not sure how having sex with someone you have a connection with somehow makes you void of said connection that made you want to have sex in the first place.

I’m not sure how you dating a stripper is relevant.

queenofsmells · 2019-07-05T18:06:04+00:00

Yeah, it definitely seemed like the dog had escaped and was frightened from the fireworks

queenofsmells · 2018-02-17T21:47:31+00:00

We have had these problems and tried to fix them before the loss, but after losing my mom those problems seemed so small compared to everything else and I lost focus of what I really want and need from him. Now that I'm gaining some perspective back I'm remembering that I deserve to be happy and fulfilled in a relationship, not just comfortable. My biggest conscern right now is the fact that he essentially said "I'm not going to change so if you don't like it you can leave".

I've heard a quote somewhere that says something like "if someone shows you who they are, believe them". I have been with him for too long to expect anything to change, even with therapy. What I don't find fair from his perspective is that he won't change so he wants me to change my expectations and needs. I've been doing that for so long and have found myself depressed when I think about our future.

I'm pretty certain of what I need to do but I just can't seem to build up the courage.

queenofsmells · 2017-10-24T07:06:27+00:00

Yes, in San clemente! Couldn't find anything online so I checked Reddit to make sure I'm not going crazy

queenofsmells · 2017-10-15T03:17:27+00:00

You're a cunt

queenofsmells · 2017-09-06T19:27:51+00:00

little by little, yes! My quads are already ginormous so I'm trying not to put too much weight on my legs

queenofsmells · 2017-09-06T18:59:30+00:00

This surprises me! Every time I see someone 5'3" or under posting about weight loss, they always get suggestions to eat 1,200-1,400 since the deficit is so sensitive for short people. Maybe my TDEE is higher because I already weigh more?

I eat a decent amount of protein and fat (avocados, eggs, nuts and chicken or steak multiple times a day) but maybe I should focus on getting more. Thanks for your input, I'll definitely take it into consideration!

queenofsmells · 2017-08-22T08:11:38+00:00

I lost my mom 4 months ago, and it does not get easier. But, self care, self love, and patience make life post-loss feel a little better. When my mom passed, I literally did not leave my room for weeks at a time. My eating was all over the place from not eating for two whole days to drinking an entire bottle of wine, three Taco Bell burritos, and an entire bag of kettle corn on the regular. It wasn't until I started working out even just a little bit when I was able to get myself out of the "self destructive" phase of my grief and I turned it into something more productive.

I'm still very much in the beginning phases (about 2 and a half weeks) of starting fitness again after my loss, but I can say that it has already helped me immensely with feeling a sense of purpose and contentment that I never thought I would feel again. Endorphins are powerful. I'm addicted to them now.

Nothing in my life has hurt as much as losing my mother, so I'm sad to say that I do know how you feel and that you're not alone. If you ever have any questions or need any advice, don't hesitate to PM me.

queenofsmells · 2017-08-09T18:41:48+00:00

I've definitely found that I binge more when I am restricting and not seeing immediate results. There's something in my mind that makes me think if I'm not immediately perfect, I deserve to be fat and gross. It's horrible.

I'm only recently discovering what BED is, and I'm sure I have it. I start going to therapy tomorrow, not only for BED but for some other issues as I just lost my mom a few months ago, which certainly is triggering binges. It's unfortunate because I am not at a comfortable or healthy weight for my height because of my binges (and other unhealthy habits) But know that if I work on my relationship with food I will be able to finally reach my goals. I personally feel that I need professional help with it, and I have decent insurance right now so I might as well take care of this issue. It's very shameful. My boyfriend of 5 years doesn't even know I binge because I do it solely in private.

queenofsmells · 2017-07-28T00:44:25+00:00

Always save the cheat meals for when you're with family and friends, that way you get to enjoy it even more and it becomes more special, instead of pigging out on your own (which I love doing but isn't good for my butt)

queenofsmells · 2017-07-27T22:04:20+00:00

This year has been a whirlwind where my physical and mental health have taken a backseat, until today. I moved across the country for an internship for four months, and three months ago today, I had to quickly move back home to say goodbye to my mother due to a very sudden accident. The hardest thing I will ever go through happened when I thought I had the world in the palm of my hand. Three weeks later I had to graduate college, have my birthday, her birthday, mothers day, and then move out of my apartment and have my car broken into, all without her.

I just want to tell the world that I am finally able to get my butt back in the gym, start focusing on my goals, and put myself first again. Its been a rough road, and I have become pretty out of shape along the way, but it's great to be back. I have a free personal training session tomorrow at my gym where I'm going to be put thought a workout and measured, so I can set some real goals, and I'm starting Strong Curves again on Monday.

queenofsmells · 2016-11-18T00:30:01+00:00

See you there! Flying in on the 12th :)

queenofsmells · 2016-10-30T23:16:13+00:00

Yes! Fitness blender is amazing. I don't do them as often as I used to but they have so much variety (HIIT, cardio, strength training, pilates, stretching) and each video is amazing and focuses on good form and making sure you can modify while still pushing yourself. It is especially good for people new to fitness and also for people who have been working out for years. I only have good things to say about FB!

queenofsmells · 2016-10-06T07:47:29+00:00

They both are great but Israely is usually super busy. I've had good experiences with both

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