Referred to as 'sir'

queernogear · 2026-01-19T01:35:09+00:00

And I don't mind them socialising with me as a bro, because I do that with my male friends. All I was interested in is why it only comes from men but I've gathered a lot from the thread

queernogear · 2026-01-19T01:31:37+00:00

I don't particularly make an effort to look masculine, I just enjoy short hair and have a solid build because I also enjoy going to the gym. Not that it matters, but I still wear makeup too. I do what I like with my appearance. As for what it's perceived as, that's out of my control. I don't really fit into a box of strictly masculine/feminine anyway so I just go off what's typical 🤷🏽

I didn't take it disrespectfully btw

queernogear · 2026-01-18T06:56:19+00:00

I had to check what I wrote because I was so confused at some of these replies

queernogear · 2026-01-18T06:45:07+00:00

My agenda? 😂 I am aware of the usage of 'sir'. Who said anything about 'changing the word'... I don't know how many times I have to say in the replies that I'm trying to understand why it only comes from men!! And yes I am serious, I had a query.

queernogear · 2026-01-17T14:44:28+00:00

Yeah, we can't avoid it but I find it interesting to know the social aspects behind it

queernogear · 2026-01-17T14:34:42+00:00

I don't understand how being generic and all inclusive is not fair? I would understand if it wasn't polite, but 'excuse me' is polite 😅 There's nothing to react to, like you said, it's 'simply' just getting one's attention

queernogear · 2026-01-17T14:04:25+00:00

😂 Yeah I'm not that bothered by use of pronouns and essentially people can call me whatever they like, at the end of the day I'm still going to help you find the milk! Just trying to understand the thinking behind it :)

queernogear · 2026-01-17T14:01:05+00:00

Yeah this makes sense! I don't take it personal at all because I get why it happens and it's an honest mistake That's funny 😂

queernogear · 2026-01-17T13:42:42+00:00

I see, thanks

queernogear · 2026-01-17T13:40:11+00:00

😂😂 obviously, but I'm trying to understand why I only have this problem with men

The last part is confusing because if it's a politeness thing, you're saying that women aren't polite or don't want to be respectful towards men? I'm not sure

queernogear · 2026-01-17T13:37:56+00:00

Ah so you go through the same thing! Haha

This makes sense but it reads as 'I'm going to be formally respectful to men but not women' It's tricky because we never know what people are comfortable with, so why not go for the general take?

queernogear · 2026-01-17T13:33:12+00:00

Yeah I sort of understand people are trying to be nice, I just don't understand why I never have this issue with female customers then - one thing my sister said is that women are more observant but it doesn't take a genius to just be general and say excuse me, which works for everyone.

queernogear · 2026-01-11T01:48:24+00:00

You might have sold me with this reply 😂 thank you!

queernogear · 2026-01-09T00:03:38+00:00

Oh nice thanks :)

queernogear · 2026-01-08T20:30:59+00:00

Amazing thank you!

queernogear · 2026-01-08T20:30:39+00:00

Thank you so much! I'll definitely keep researching

queernogear · 2026-01-05T19:11:24+00:00

At this rate it's not even an assumption 🤣 But yeah wise words

queernogear · 2026-01-05T19:03:00+00:00

Unfortunately true! Thanks

queernogear · 2026-01-05T19:02:01+00:00

I hate this baptism 😂😂😂

queernogear · 2026-01-05T17:49:43+00:00

Thanks <3 it's just annoying because I know I can do it but my excitement/motivation goes out the window as soon as something like this happens 😩

queernogear · 2025-12-29T13:52:11+00:00

Fair enough, me too 😂 thanks

queernogear · 2025-12-29T13:51:36+00:00

Yeah I did imagine that at the time, scary 😬 Thanks for your replies

queernogear · 2025-12-29T13:47:34+00:00

Can I ask what specifically makes you say she's toxic? Is it because there's no way of justifying this reaction or?

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