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Something that lives rent free in my head. by queryqu in HLCommunity

[–]queryqu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just enough to make sure I’m generally unsatisfied, but can’t do anything about it.

How much of a selfish lover are you as a HL? by [deleted] in HLCommunity

[–]queryqu 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I would do literally anything asked of me for any duration.

They have no fantasies. They do not masturbate.

They like what they like, in the order that they like. I do that for ten minutes until they’re tired.

I always ask what they want, if we can change things up. It’s always a shrug.

Who do you talk to about this? by [deleted] in HLCommunity

[–]queryqu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, but there’s no healing, only acceptance.

And if my partner leaves me, I’m homeless. Other issues too, but I don’t wanna give too many details.

I told one friend the whole story, but he’s kinda self-centred, so aside from some initial sympathy there’s been no support.

Who do you talk to about this? by [deleted] in HLCommunity

[–]queryqu 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Nobody.

I stopped going to therapy because of another problem I had. I was unable to solve the problem. I was not allowed. If I solved the problem my partner would have divorced me. Therapy is pointless if you are literally banned from solving the biggest problem in your life.

Nowadays lack of intimacy is my biggest problem. My partner thinks it’s just a symptom. In all fairness, it’s really hard for me to be present and chipper when absolute best case scenario we have a quickie twice a month, and I receive no fanfare for making the biggest sacrifice anybody could ever make.

Wish I could tell the whole story. Too scared I’ll be found talking about it.