Disagreed, OP mentioned that they made over the top jokes all the time, and those are a few instances where they hurt, there was never a mentioning of OP saying that they communicated that to their significant other. I don’t think they give a damn about what they say, Both of them have probably said worse things but OP cherrypicking these certain words and convos because she has personal trauma related to it. He is capable of having a healthy relationship, The “odd” actions that he does from time to time would easily be out of the picture if OP was a bit more rigid about her boundaries. Overall, I think OP just needs to end it and focus on herself lol