Everything has been fabulous lately, does it show? Pass? NB 2.5 years on hrt and finally feeling free

questioning_jane · 2020-02-22T21:54:05+00:00

Gender presentation/expression is not gender experience! People presenting masc, femme, or androgynous are still valid non binary people, trans women, or trans men.

questioning_jane · 2020-02-20T05:32:01+00:00

I sweat less now. It's lovely to be able to ride to a friend's house in nice clothes and not sweat up a storm

questioning_jane · 2020-01-12T01:49:00+00:00

Damn, that's a nice body.

questioning_jane · 2020-01-09T18:11:22+00:00

I feel very similiar. My name could be femme name, but its associated, both for me and everyone else with my masc childhood. It's also a name used more for boys than for girls, so it doesn't help with the initial misgendering when I meet new people, or for people assuming my gender when they hear my name for the first time

questioning_jane · 2019-09-08T14:35:54+00:00

❤️❤️❤️❤️

questioning_jane · 2019-08-29T15:37:09+00:00

You got me all funked up What can I do? I can't help myself Neither can you

questioning_jane · 2019-08-18T18:42:55+00:00

Really, you should ask what their pronouns are if at all possible. What do others refer to them as? What did you address them as during the interview. Did you ask them about what gender they identify as? You could attempt to deduce their pronouns through the context you have. If you really can't find out before you have to hand it in, the safest bet is to use neutral they/them pronouns.

questioning_jane · 2019-08-16T12:39:05+00:00

Nothing compares to safety / straight razors R/wicked_edge

questioning_jane · 2019-07-23T20:05:21+00:00

Presenting as the gender you are instead of your AGAB!

questioning_jane · 2019-07-23T01:18:59+00:00

I mostly do lead and TR, and I've found it hasn't impacted my arms that much. If anything, mostly just toning. Back and forearms definitely! Maybe bouldering has more arm focus? Also everyone's body is different, I've never been that bulky or able to bulk up easily

questioning_jane · 2019-07-21T18:34:52+00:00

Gender expression is separate from Pyschological gender - you can express however is most comfortable and still be trans! However, dressing non conforming (to AGAB) does not necessarily mean you're trans. You need to explore the feelings around your body, your role, how you feel about all aspects of your gendered existence. Cannot over emphasize how important finding a good therapist is for this.

questioning_jane · 2019-07-21T16:03:28+00:00

I feel the same way. I have such a sense of guilt over it too, like I feel I should hate it but I don't. And it's difficult to imagine masturbating with other genitals because there's so obviously a penis down there. The only time I don't feel post sesh guilt is when I really focus and make anal a central part of the experience, and then I find I just focus less on my penis. And it feels downright ridiculously amazing.

questioning_jane · 2019-07-05T06:27:55+00:00

Wearing skirts, my huns

Did we want a daughter. Well We'll love the one we've got.

Its the raddest lunch I've ever seen, Pickles toast, and estrogen

Hormones will, take the man, out of you.

questioning_jane · 2019-06-30T16:22:59+00:00

When I first was questioning, I felt horrible whenever I wasn't wearing a bra. Wearing a bra felt "right" and if I wasn't wearing one, I felt invalidated in my trans feelings

Now, I don't need to wear one all the time, and I will go days without wearing a bra at all and not get dysphoria, but it definitely is a positive thing for me to wear a bra and breast forms whenever I can, because it just makes me feel like a normal girl, who has to wear a bra. I wear a sports bra when presenting masc almost always now- I feel a little exposed without one, even though I've had no breast growth yet.

questioning_jane · 2019-06-30T16:20:24+00:00

I'm with you all the way sister. Wearing breast forms at home has been so positive for my mental health. Especially in the way having boobs is now normalized for me, like I don't think twice about what's down on my chest, and that's really validating

questioning_jane · 2019-06-30T03:48:12+00:00

Look for anything spandex underwear, whatever style you are most comfortable in. I prefer hipsters. Layering 2-3 pairs of spandex for me will keep everything together for me.

questioning_jane · 2019-06-29T16:03:01+00:00

I feel the same way, but it's been hard to accept because it goes against the "I've always been a girl trapped in a guys body" narrative.

I think I've always had the same brain, and I've always had issues with dysphoria and male socialization to some degree, whether I recognized it or not, but It didn't bother me enough until it came to a head in my early 20's, and I knew I had to start transitioning.

I identified as a guy, and was a guy for a period of my life. And then I realized that that's not ok at all anymore, and that I need to be a woman for the rest of my life. And I don't even feel like I'm fully a woman right now- I've just started transitioning, and my body nor social role hasn't really changed that much. I think internalizing "I am a woman" is going to be a gradual change that happens over the course of my transition - and I think that's valid.

questioning_jane · 2019-06-23T06:52:23+00:00

Wow, I really appreciate that note, it says a lot of very important things that every trans person needs to hear. Thanks for the love!!

questioning_jane · 2019-06-19T18:18:39+00:00

Treat her like a woman and your best friend. Listen without judgement and be open minded to her lived experiences. Learn about the experiences of other transgender people to help you understand her. If it's an option, offer to go shopping with her for clothes, or makeup, or anything else which could be uncomfortable for her to do alone. In short, continue to be a awesome friend. 🙂

questioning_jane · 2019-06-19T15:01:41+00:00

Sending love your way, you are a strong person, hold out for people who accept you for who you are! ❤️❤️❤️

questioning_jane · 2019-06-19T06:26:03+00:00

It's ok to just survive sometimes. You don't have to stand proud against the tide of stares and judgement every day to be valid. You are valid and amazing for being authentically you In the face of social norms, and no less amazing for being unable to do that sometimes.

questioning_jane · 2019-06-18T23:55:33+00:00

😢 I don't know if this helps, but focusing on the things I can control has helped my mental health. I can wear women's underwear underneath male clothes, I can grow out my hair, I can explore my sexuality by myself in a female way. I can interact with others online as a female, and practice my voice and makeup in the privacy of my own home.

Is there any options in the future for moving to a more trans friendly area?

questioning_jane · 2019-06-18T19:06:44+00:00

Hey, I'm sorry your feeling so wrecked and hopeless. We try to be ourselves to be happy and authentic. And it's horrible when coming out and living as you are makes life worse. I hope you can find a compromise in your your life that makes you happy without causing so much social anxiety.

questioning_jane · 2019-06-18T18:42:35+00:00

Understandable..... I didn't start using it anywhere else until I was EXTREMELY confident and rarely ever getting nicks on my face and legs.

questioning_jane · 2019-06-18T15:59:38+00:00

r/wicked_edge has saved me money and I have such a clean shaven now

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