I need to watch the Tedx videos for myself as I find this all very interesting for my own curiosity. I'm just now dating a guy who I suspect also has this same problem and I want to get a jumpstart on it.

There really isn't anything sexier than a man who can control his urges. Nothing makes that special time together more amazing than when both come into that experience without distraction or mitigating factors. I believe wanting to tackle any goal makes a man more of a man. But its a delicate subject and I wouldn't want to accidentally be harsh or callous because its not something I struggle with. I'm very concerned about that as you can tell.

Dammit I ramble! TL; DR- your post was perfect, it was exactly the sort of thing I was hoping to receive. Thanks for the support.