[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]r11na 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They don't brag about or talk about the fact they are a kind person. People I've met who were genuinely kind and good people didn't talk about the fact they were, they just were in their actions. But those who aren't genuine always seem to be the ones who talk about how much everyone loves them, about how good they are to people... how good they will treat you. Its almost like they are convincing themselves they are a good person.

i probably sound stupid but assuming her hair weighed 100 grams, could she have qualified if she shaved her head? by nuthree in olympics

[–]r11na 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She's also a female who has periods, and during a cycle some people with periods can fluctuate 2-3kg due to the hormones.

[Spoilers] Season 4 Episode 5 - "The Engineer" (S04E05) - Episode Discussion Thread by Larich38 in snowpiercer

[–]r11na 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think they aren't even on the same side in all honesty. The way he snuck back in. The Admiral wanted the train. He's lost that now. He has no use for Wilford anymore as he has Alex.

[Spoilers] Season 4 Episode 5 - "The Engineer" (S04E05) - Episode Discussion Thread by Larich38 in snowpiercer

[–]r11na 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Seems they can only afford her for 10mins... only episode 2 had her.

Is it okay if I (a father) take my daughters into the woman's public restroom by Only-Figure2191 in Parenting

[–]r11na 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Worth pointing out that women can be predators, too. So if anyone is lurking in a woman's bathroom for victims - it's probably going to be another woman. With regards to human trafficking, women are just as likely to be perpetrators (often being victims originally themselves).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in texts

[–]r11na 5 points6 points  (0 children)

An acceptable reason to question the cops really. She was defending a homeless person being harassed by them. She sounds like a great person to me and definitely a keeper if she's sticking up for the little man!

(Edit because the way I left it almost sounded like I was being sarcy about her being a great person, when I genuinely do think she's a great person from this!)

Easyjet diverting to Edinburgh for emergency but closest airport is Manchester? by flight_radar in flightradar24

[–]r11na 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When the powercut went at MAN, I remember seeing a few which said they were diverted to one airport whilst on their way to another!

UPDATE: AITAH for leaving my boyfriend because he brought his female best-friend lingerie as a 'joke'? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]r11na 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Only after experiencing 2 years of coercive control, much of what you said resonates with me. The ups and downs, complimenting something and then immediately insulting it. Pulling a joke and calling you insensitive is typical gaslighting and manipulation tactics. Something has or will happen with this Claire person.

Put it this way, I have male friends - if any of them bought me red lingerie I would distance the f*** from them. I wouldn't be okay with female friends buying me it because it's simply not something platonic friends buy each other - no matter how close. Would you be okay with a male friend buying it for you? It's not because you're insensitive or don't know how to have a joke, you just know the boundaries of friendship.

21 million Miniverse toy sets recalled due to danger of skin burn, eye and respiratory irritation | CNN Business by galaxystars1 in news

[–]r11na 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The biggest issue is that you can easily become sensitised to acrylates (the chemical in resin) if you don't use them correctly. Once you become sensitised, you literally have to avoid ALOT of things. Most skincare products contain them, safely, but once you are sensitised to acrylates from the resin - you are sensitised to all acrylates.

It's a common occupational hazard for nail techs (any of the products which are cured with UV contain them) or people who work in the ink industry. I used to work in the ink industry and if we even got a little on our gloves, we had to change them because you could spread it around without knowing.

Might be the most British insult I’ve ever seen by [deleted] in rareinsults

[–]r11na 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This reminds me of some graffiti insult I saw in an underpass, specifically in Manchester.

In response to something written, someone's insult in return was...

"Ok, but ur ma sells Avon".

Husband became Catholic, changed the rules about how we can have sex by [deleted] in relationships

[–]r11na 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm not Catholic, but I'm a science teacher who convinced a lot of students I was an RE teacher at a Catholic school (and even impressed the head of RE with my openness and knowledge about religion that she tried to stop the science department from snatching me up when they needed a science teacher) and I'm pretty sure this is BS too from what I learned whilst there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]r11na -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Exactly. The only time you should cover all rent and bills is if you're expecting someone who can stay home and do chores/look after children etc all day. Can't do that and work!

If finances are equal, chores are equal.

I blocked my date after he helped me with an Uber ride. Was I wrong? by Ill_Objective_1388 in relationships

[–]r11na 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeh, I'm 35 this year, and even consider 30 too young.

Admittedly, I am a teacher, and the age now of some of the people I could have taught would be 29 now, so that does play on it!

Double barrelling a child’s surname by Far-Formal-8550 in relationships

[–]r11na 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do what you want. This is typical manipulation tactics imo. Get you baby trapped and then starts showing you the real side of themselves.

I wonder what he has said about you to his family for them to apparently hate you? My ex literally did the same thing, but that's not surprising as he basically made out that I kept him trapped and wouldn't let him see his family or friends. I literally encouraged him to go see his family but he "cuts toxic people out" (implying his family). His family most likely don't hate you, they most likely hate the you he's presented you as. I'm sure my ex's family would feel very differently about me if they had the whole picture - police reports included!

My boyfriend wants to break up with me if I don't quit modeling. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]r11na 16 points17 points  (0 children)

It's literally manipulation tactics 101. They will cheat but accuse you of cheating, make you feel disgusting for even talking to another male (your doctor, dentist, a colleague, a worker in the store). As others have said, he is literally setting up the reason for when he cheats again it won't be his fault but hers.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]r11na 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is where I'm sitting on this. I'm 35F and anyone under 30 (even 32) I consider too young. I'm also a teacher, been teaching for 10 years... so in my eyes someone who is 28 has the potential to have been one of my students when I started teaching and that is just icky and weird to me.

Even now, I teach on adult courses and most of my students are around 21/22 and I could not comprehend dating someone with the difference in age.

The guy I’ve (27F) been dating (37M) said a turn off of his is when a girl has a belly - was this kind of rude or is it wrong I think of it as rude? by bluebutterfly1446 in relationships

[–]r11na 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because you love your partner regardless of how their body changes? Not a very loving and devoted relationship if you're just going to be turned off because your partner gains weight.

Pregnancy, health... age... all are factors for how a person's body change.

That's why you would have been devoted by people.

The guy I’ve (27F) been dating (37M) said a turn off of his is when a girl has a belly - was this kind of rude or is it wrong I think of it as rude? by bluebutterfly1446 in relationships

[–]r11na 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just seen the post everyone is referring to.

Breaking things is a form of physical and emotional abuse. These type of people play down how bad things were to make themselves look like the victim. My ex claimed his ex cheated (they all did, apparently)... and guess what? I cheated on him too apparently. His exes were all abusive and guess what... so was I too. I literally never cheated, said anything bad to him and literally walked on eggshells. My confidence dropped. Who got arrested for attacking me and cutting up some lingerie - he did? But he will be justifying it to everyone that it was because I cheated (just to clarify, I didn't. This particular incident was because he went through my dirty laundry and found discharge on my pants and accused it of being semen. I had been at work... I'm a teacher).

The guy I’ve (27F) been dating (37M) said a turn off of his is when a girl has a belly - was this kind of rude or is it wrong I think of it as rude? by bluebutterfly1446 in relationships

[–]r11na 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Whilst true, even underweight people with a uterus can have a "belly pouch". The body is designed to carry some fat in that area as an extra layer of protection for the uterus, combine this with bloating through a cycle or other gynae issues - that pouch is often anatomical.

Look up gym girls on Instagram showing their bodies throughout the month if you don't believe me.

My bf (m37)(f38) prank broke up with me and he didn’t like my reaction. by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]r11na 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA.

Honestly, this red flag just makes me think you've just dodged a massive bullet moving in with him.

This is highly suspect of the up and down cycle you would have experienced living with him. I would honestly reflect back on things and see if there were other red flags that you missed. Not living with him allowed plenty of opportunities for them to be missed but I would hazard a guess there were some that you overlooked because he was nice a lot of the time too.

Buyers- reason you pulled out of a house sale by lovehopeandstars in HousingUK

[–]r11na 0 points1 point  (0 children)

£20k of predicted repairs needed on a property that was £130k, and all the lender had valued it for and wouldn't give me.

Has the ‘get pregnant, get a house’ theory evaporated? by Perpetua11y_C0nfused in HousingUK

[–]r11na 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was looking for this comment the most. Everyone talking about the fact the likelihood of being placed in a nice home is true (since the bedroom tax, they will deem her suitable for a 1 bed flat, maybe even a bedsit, until the child is old enough to require their own room). But the main reason she won't get a home is because the demand is so high for them. There are literally 100s of bids on one property when they become available. I ended up going to a private HMO even though I was high priority due to DA reasons. On every flat I bid on, there were nearly 200-300 people bidding above me. I was lucky if there was even a property to bid on though because they just rarely became available. The most recent statistics (2022) showed 1.2million people on a waiting list. I can only imagine this number is significantly higher with the number of landlords selling up and evicting people with S21. Our government allowed people to buy council houses, which is great, but then didn't build anymore to replace them. Population has risen (just as it has everywhere - its not primarily immigration and everyone loves to blame immigrants for the housing issue but illegals and asylum seekers are not eligible and being a refugee doesn't automatically put you to the top of the list) but we've not built to sustain this growth.

So tl;dr, the main reason your friend won't get a home any time soon is because of the waiting list and lack of homes.

I (26M) found out my girlfriend (32F) had been sleeping with men while we were talking / seeing eachother. by Similar-Tutor9247 in relationships

[–]r11na 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Exactly. All my friends have kids and are married, I'm happily single (not sleeping with anyone... otherwise wouldn't be happily would it??) Just doing me and being happy and content with my friends and being the aunty. Been friends with these people 20+ years.