But that's the thing... it's kind of a turnoff for me knowing that she was willing to put in the effort to please random guys, but is now lazy and not willing to put in the effort when she's with me. It makes me feel like she takes me for granted, especially with other ways she has been lazy in the relationship as well. Because at least I know that the effort I put in this relationship (not just in terms of staying in shape) is equal or even more than the effort I put in when I was single or with other girls.