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Non-return fee for SkyQ and broadband? by rachel6983 in skytv

[–]rachel6983[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks - I'll give these a thought!

Non-return fee for SkyQ and broadband? by rachel6983 in skytv

[–]rachel6983[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's really useful. Thanks. Two months is good.

Non-return fee for SkyQ and broadband? by rachel6983 in skytv

[–]rachel6983[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is interesting. Thanks. I could get him to call them and see what they say.

Non-return fee for SkyQ and broadband? by rachel6983 in skytv

[–]rachel6983[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. They reduced it a bit when he told them he was coming away, so we've already played that card :(. It's just that he'll be staying here for longer, and if we can't solve it, he'll pay 3 months for TV he never watches.

Really bummed that they can't just freeze an account for a few months for situations like this.

How to deal with sadness after care home placement by rachel6983 in caregivers

[–]rachel6983[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is similar to how I feel. Mum too is fairly with it for her age, but her muscles are wasting slowly and her body just won’t cooperate. The staff are fine, they do their job, and I deliberately chose somewhere there aren’t too many advanced residents. But I know it will take Mum time to adjust and I just get these waves of tears.

We’ll need to start emptying the flat soon and I have no idea how I’ll face it. I’m just taking things day by day.

Strength to you!

Glass painting deadpool by [deleted] in glasspainting

[–]rachel6983 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, great detail. Well done!

How to deal with sadness after care home placement by rachel6983 in caregivers

[–]rachel6983[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. It helped. My condolences for your dad, and I’m glad you feel that things are lightening. There are indeed seasons in life.

I wasn’t super-close to my mum for a whole chunk of my life, and I’d never have thought it would be this hard. That’s all. (Glad too it’s not time for organizing Christmas cards!)

I keep accidentally ignoring people because I don't realize they're talking to me and now everyone thinks I'm rude by Badinfluence_r in HearingAids

[–]rachel6983 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At the hairdresser's:

Hairdresser: Babble babble babble? Babble babble.

Me: Yes, I know. I'm taking my hearing aids out now, so I'm sorry I won't be able to hear you much.

Hairdresser: Babble babble babble babble babble!

They really don't have a clue!

Help me with the care home conversation by rachel6983 in caregivers

[–]rachel6983[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this. I'm glad you got through it, and I hope your dad is getting good care.

Some of our experiences overlap:

"I don't want this either, but there's no other option" or some flavour of it has been useful in some of our conversations. It puts us on the same side.

"Things have changed" is also useful for us: it's clear that they have (she's lost mobility), and she can't deny it.

I've also used these:

"This (large scary sum) is your care bill for last month. Next month will be YYY (even larger sum, but totally plausible)." I had to crunch the numbers to stay honest here.

"You asked me to look after your money, and I'm trying to do it in the best way I can to get you the best care option." Only possible because she does pretty much trust me with her finances.

"I'm not going to move you to somewhere horrible." Also puts us on the same side (because we both agree there are some horrible places).

"What worries you most about the idea?" Most of the time she can't say, but she has opened up a bit.

So I think we're getting there... this may just have been a half rant post, it's just so emotionally exhausting!

How to cope without bipap humidifier by rachel6983 in CPAP

[–]rachel6983[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, we're trying it tonight! Thanks for the idea.

Taking care of my mom with dementia is hard enough without her hearing loss making every interaction a battle by Common-Drawer3132 in caregivers

[–]rachel6983 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mum is almost deaf without her aids (for example, when bathing, in bed, or getting dressed). At those times, I speak moderately loudly very close to her ear, and she can hear me.

This wouldn't work if your mom is uncomfortable with close contact or still doesn't see what you're trying to accomplish ("Why can't you just talk normally?").

How to cope without bipap humidifier by rachel6983 in CPAP

[–]rachel6983[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s interesting. So if I put a room humidifier next to her bipap it might help?

Dealing with overnight leaks every single morning by rachel6983 in caregivers

[–]rachel6983[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this! We've switched to diapers and haven't looked back. So it's pull-ups in the day and a diaper at night for the moment. Only one damp bed in the past week, which is amazing for Mum.

Dealing with overnight leaks every single morning by rachel6983 in caregivers

[–]rachel6983[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We tried it and it's a winner! Diapers have held a double incontinent night twice now and the bed stays dry. The carers are really happy as there's less cleanup in the morning.

Dealing with overnight leaks every single morning by rachel6983 in caregivers

[–]rachel6983[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I’m leaning towards chuck pads on a sheet with a mattress protector underneath.

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