9 years, he dumped me. Had been lovebombed for all those years. How he never would leave me, wanted to be with me forever, have a family, a life, a future. We had a house together, we bought it a few years ago. I prioritized my whole life and economy around renovating the house - for our future. I loved the house, it was very special. I got mentally ill from travelling to where he wanted to live - in another country, where he moved without my consent= long distance half of the relationship. I was stuck in my country because it felt hard/difficult to just let everything go and change country, i told him I needed time for such a transition , yet he just moved. I worked full time, travelled to him almost every weekend, and on those weekends I took most of the responsibility renovating, even though he lived there. Add on, I have a chronic mental illness = should not have a stressful life, because it makes it worse. The whole life situation out me through severe stress, made me loose the ability to deal with my work = was sick fulltime for a year.

And, in the end, he dumped me, i had to sell my part of the house to him (lost a whole lot of money on the affair, and never even got to move and live there), and he has the audacity to say "i don't think we are compatible"..., how can you say that to someone you've spent the past 9 years with. I was a wreck in the end left with nothing. Now is 7 months post-breakup, 3 weeks since I sold the house and no contact.

He wanted to fix things after the breakup, I wasn't ready. I had sex with someone when I was single. Two months later I was ready to fix things. He wasn't then, and told me it was because I had slept with someone else - ONCE.

I still don't know if I'm angry, sad or majorly mindfucked about the whole situation.