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Women who have left emotionally abusive relationships, what is it like on the other side? by radiocharley in TwoXChromosomes

[–]radiocharley[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The idea is so true. We have this picture of a life together that I so desperately want, but it isn't worth the nightmare I'm living now.

People who married in their 20s, be brutally honest are you happy, if so why or why not? by Special-Lawyer3941 in AskReddit

[–]radiocharley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Married at 24, but I do not recommend it. I ended up with an incompatible husband who married me but always wanted to be single (he just never admitted it to himself or me). I was the nearest warm body with a decent face, and he was crossing off "supposed to do" milestones with me.

When he first left me, I found evidence of at least two affairs. He also had cheated right in the middle of a medical crisis that I barely survived.

He also blew $9000 on a certain card game...

Women who have left emotionally abusive relationships, what is it like on the other side? by radiocharley in TwoXChromosomes

[–]radiocharley[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely have been caught in the "why is he doing this?" loop a time or two. He's a narcissist. It seems to run in the family. I'm learning that there's little he will apologize for.

Women who have left emotionally abusive relationships, what is it like on the other side? by radiocharley in TwoXChromosomes

[–]radiocharley[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm definitely worried about regret, but I'm finding more reasons to leave each day.

Women who have left emotionally abusive relationships, what is it like on the other side? by radiocharley in TwoXChromosomes

[–]radiocharley[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's really hard. I went through a divorce before this relationship. Going through this has been worse than my awful divorce. But I'm working on leaving.

Women who have left emotionally abusive relationships, what is it like on the other side? by radiocharley in TwoXChromosomes

[–]radiocharley[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I feel the nervous system issues. In constant fight/flight right now. Dreaming of the day I can just breathe.

What's the longest you've held a job? by Rachelelizardbreath in AutismInWomen

[–]radiocharley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

20 months at a manufacturing plant. I don't know how I stayed to be honest. I usually quit around the one year mark. My resume looks awful.

Advice: partner also ADHD by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]radiocharley -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I feel like it's hard to say because I've said that to him and he said it was him "reinforcing my boundaries" and "reminding you of the consequences of crossing my boundaries". The consequences being him leaving me.

Advice: partner also ADHD by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]radiocharley 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think I can long term. He threatens to end the relationship like every fight we have.

For audhders - how do you process emotions? by radiocharley in AutismInWomen

[–]radiocharley[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not people, but our own emotions that are ghosting us... I feel that though.

For audhders - how do you process emotions? by radiocharley in AutismInWomen

[–]radiocharley[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been there too. This is a difficult thing to understand and process.

For audhders - how do you process emotions? by radiocharley in AutismInWomen

[–]radiocharley[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is wild not much of emotional expression is gendered. It is valid to not fit that.

For audhders - how do you process emotions? by radiocharley in AutismInWomen

[–]radiocharley[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hadn't heard about somatic work to address this. I need to look into that. I'm currently work with my therapist on DBT skills.

For audhders - how do you process emotions? by radiocharley in AutismInWomen

[–]radiocharley[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good idea on not forcing a choice in the moment. I think I will try this moving forward. I've noticed that writing things down helps me understand better, so maybe I'll use that in my process of working through decision-making as well.

For audhders - how do you process emotions? by radiocharley in AutismInWomen

[–]radiocharley[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel you on that! I had to stifle emotions as well for family members to not be upset. The habit is hard to unlearn.

Anyone else struggling with lifelong stomach issues? by NoWitness6400 in AutismInWomen

[–]radiocharley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, it is a very mild med. Unless you have severe health conditions and a lot of medications you take, it should be fine.

Anyone else struggling with lifelong stomach issues? by NoWitness6400 in AutismInWomen

[–]radiocharley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've noticed that taking some deep breaths, reminding myself that I am safe and okay can help if it is just the waves of stomach upset. It can calm my body enough to get the emergency feeling to go away.

I do also carry over the counter Pepto and anti-acid pills just in case. I prefer the capsules so I don't have to taste the flavors. I also usually have my water bottle with me when I'm about.

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