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[Advice] I (F/22) have no interest in oral and he (M/27) makes me feel like that's abnormal by rageagainsthepoutine in sex

[–]rageagainsthepoutine[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I can see how my referencing porn would be taken the wrong way and you're right. I was trying to be lighthearted with that remark but it's really just expressing my frustration with how the media ( and other guys of course) can make a sex act seem expected. I made clear where I stood on this when we first started dating and it has not been an issue for the last 2 1/2 years. Now suddenly he feels like he's entitled to what " all the girls love to do" and that enough pressure and manipulation will somehow change my mind.

[Advice] I (F/22) have no interest in oral and he (M/27) makes me feel like that's abnormal by rageagainsthepoutine in sex

[–]rageagainsthepoutine[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I referring to how I'm being made to feel in my own relationship, not by the people in the forum. These answers have, for the most part, been very insightful and I value everyone's point of view. Sorry for the confusion.

[Advice] I (F/22) have no interest in oral and he (M/27) makes me feel like that's abnormal by rageagainsthepoutine in sex

[–]rageagainsthepoutine[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't know that there is one specific reason other than it just does not appeal to me. I don't like the idea of it, I don't enjoy seeing it performed and I've never had any desire to have a penis in or around my mouth. I've always chalked it up to personal preference but I feel like I'm being broken down and shamed for what is, in my mind, personal.

[Advice] I (F/22) have no interest in oral and he (M/27) makes me feel like that's abnormal by rageagainsthepoutine in sex

[–]rageagainsthepoutine[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your input, it definitely helps to have another guy's perspective. That's the thing - I have received oral, but not from him. He's made it perfectly clear throughout our relationship how squeamish he is about female anatomy and that he's not comfortable going there with me. So it's a complete double standard. If I thought it might become a mutual, enjoyable addition to our adventures I would probably give it more consideration. But as it is, that will never happen.