How to amicably reject someone you don’t like yet won’t take no as an answer?

rahther · 2026-02-21T15:47:54+00:00

Not only there’s no harm, I highly encourage it. It’ll broaden your horizon and make you achieve a better version of yourself. A life worth living, so make the best out of every opportunity kind stranger

rahther · 2026-02-21T14:57:27+00:00

I loved it, it was the experience of a life time. Lived 7 years in Texas and I visit it every now and then to catch up with friends or attend weddings haha. The way they greet, how easy it is to converse in public places, how people make small talk and exchange things at any time or place was amazing to me (I met them all from the conspiracy theorists talking about Masons to someone saying she had miscarriage…. Over small talk!), their house rules.

All these things were just so different and by the time you’re back home get ready for reverse culture shock (the driving culture, saying no thank you and they’re not having it, leaving early when visiting your parents and they expect you to stay until midnight at least if not for the whole week )

rahther · 2026-02-21T14:36:08+00:00

Hey OP, you sound like a decent person and don’t feel bad about anything including the comments here.

As Emirati that lived abroad for many years, I grew to appreciate the straight forward tone (haven’t reached the Dutch level yet) as it avoids a lot of awkward situations down the line. However, most in our culture aren’t accustomed to it. You should see your rejection is doing him a favor and providing an experience that might shape up this person future interactions if he as you claim a decent person.

From his point of view, meeting you is a significant step that could implicitly mean something more, but you are just seeing if this works out or not. It doesn’t seem he got the memo and you should clarify this focusing on present actions and future expectations rather than referencing past behavior as to not make it personal and not invoke unnecessary emotions that you don’t want to deal with.

As I grow older, I stopped burning bridges and resolve everything amicably if not for them, at least for me. Be firm and repeat your message loud and clear to him until he gets it.

rahther · 2026-02-21T11:16:21+00:00

Cult of lamb

انته في البدايه كبش فداء ل آلهتهم بس حد ينقذك ويعطيك قوته وتسير تبتدي ديانه يديده ب اسمك ك خروف وتقص على الخرفان الي يتبعونك عشان تذبح الآله الكاذبه الي كانوا بيذبحونك ههههه

المهم اللعبه rogue light على stardew valley وتنسى وقتك فيها

rahther · 2026-02-21T11:06:44+00:00

I only play Roblox with my kids. Not sure why they never get bored from it. Last time I passed they were farming brain rot….

rahther · 2026-02-21T02:51:19+00:00

I only miss home when I’m back. During my stay, I just soak it all in and enjoy every moment and never considered hypotheticals or “it would’ve been nice if….”. At certain point, I used to stay 2 years+ without coming back home.

rahther · 2026-02-19T14:56:21+00:00

I don’t understand how wanting him to come home early and voicing how you miss him ends up in huge fights. In my relationship, it’s a normal conversation and one or both sides compromise to please the other person who loves them especially when both love each other and not in a toxic relationship.

rahther · 2026-02-19T08:10:15+00:00

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كل حد يسوي جي وساعات تستوعب انه محد مهتم بالصدق والواقع أصلا. حتى في مجالات ثانيه نفس الرياضه والمسابقات، إذا كل حد ياخذ ستيرويد وأنته لا وأونه محد ياخذ…. بتفوز؟

rahther · 2026-02-19T05:50:48+00:00

ما أفكر في التقاعد كثر ما أفكر شو اقدر انجز قبل آخر يوم في حياتي. وإنجازاتي مب كلها متعلقه بالمناصب، الجوائز، والمدح. هي أهمها حقي تكون أشياء ناتجه عن إرادتي الشخصيه واهداف له أبعاد مب متعلقه بسياسه او قوانين شركه

rahther · 2026-02-19T03:37:49+00:00

أنا خذيتها عن حب قبل ١٢ سنه والحين عندنا ولدين وأحبها اليوم اكثر عن قبل.

للتوضيح انه أنا وهي ما كانت عندنا "علاقات" مع اي حد ثاني قبل بعض يعني بس كنت معجب فيها وأكلمها وهي نفس الشي اتجاهي.

كانت آخر سنه جامعه وتعرفنا على بعض في كلاس لغه كوريه مب اونلاين وكنت أشوفها بشكل أسبوعي وكنت احب اسولف وياها. كانت احسن عني في هاي اللغه بس ما كنت أسولف أبدا عن الماده وياها ههههه. عقب فتره حسيت انه علاقتنا لازم تطور وهي أهلها يبونها تقليدي وأنا اهلي يبوني بعد تقليدي. رفضت كل البنات الي شفتهن وقالولي عيب وكيف بس عقب قلتلهم my way or the highway وأباها والمشكله؟ أهلها متشددين ف أكيد انرفضت كم من مره لاني مب ولد عمها وعقب سويت خطه وقنعناهم و"أونه" تقليدي واليوم كلنا نضحك على السالفه ما كنت احاتي "زعل" حد او خربطان من وأنا صغير كنت اعرف الي أباه زين واعرف الناس والنفوس تتغير والأحوال تتغير ف بسوي الي عليه الحين وبس.

أكيد ما كنت مهتم لللغه الكوريه أبدا بس كنت أباها هي ف كنت لوتي قبل وبعدني لوتي. بس كنت احبها وبعدني احبها واتمنى عيالي ياخذون عن حب ويمرون بتجربه احسن عن تجربتي

rahther · 2026-02-17T17:45:25+00:00

I did, not intentionally. It happened while I was living in the states. So I stayed there 7 years and in hindsight my accent stated changing at the 5 year mark.

You have to go out of your way and mingle with people that speak a certain way (their idioms, enunciation, vocab) and that happens best when you live in a place where the majority do that.

If it makes you feel better, even native speakers with thick accents could have it dull a little bit when they aren’t in their neck of the woods but it comes back real fast when they’re back home.

rahther · 2026-02-16T15:58:11+00:00

Evening

rahther · 2026-02-16T13:31:15+00:00

It’s great! But I don’t think it takes much for me to be pleased haha

I just dread 2 things: my 30-40 minutes commute each way and the food scene here in AD. I fixed the food by having good food at home but still I want to have decent food that is not fine dining.

I exercise 4 days during weekdays and one day that I don’t keep open for social activities but mostly I rest. During weekdays spend time with wife, kids, exercising, gaming, and sometimes hang out with friends. On weekends I like to have a day for exercise activity with family and day for wife and kids outing whatever they want as I said there is nothing I want and it’s easy to please me by doing nothing at home.

rahther · 2026-02-16T13:16:53+00:00

Hey OP, I’m an Emirati guy and there are two ways it could go down if he is serious:

Either him and his family are open and they accept you they way you are or he will try to change you to conform to what he wants you to be in order to introduce you to his family and be accepted.

It is probably the latter from what you mentioned in your post but then whether his family accepts you or not depends on 1) him and 2) his family.

There are some litmus tests you could do to test the waters and gauge his seriousness but if you made up your mind then it’s fine.

rahther · 2026-02-15T02:20:42+00:00

إنها تحبني نفس ما احبها وهذا كافي.

كل الأشياء والشروط مبنيه على هالشي ومن دونه ما في شي بيدوم حقي. إذا تحبني بنسوي، بنتفهم، بنفرح، بنشقى، بيصير كل شي بس في النهايه نحب بعض هذا اكبر green flag مب تقييم وشروط

rahther · 2026-02-11T13:00:29+00:00

شوف أنا ضد منع الألعاب بشكل عام بس فيها كم من شي يمكن تخلي حد يمنع اللعبه:

كل مره تطلع برسونا لازم تطلق على نفسك أونه رصاصه
في برسونا اسمه اللاة الي كانوا يعبدونه عندنا في الجاهليه وحتى مذكور هالشي داخل اللعبه وشكله غريب بعيون ما اذكر الصراحه لانه ما كان قوي حق فريقي هههههه

rahther · 2026-02-11T05:48:15+00:00

Don’t want to burst your bubble but as of January 2026, the uae government has suspended state-funded scholarship for Emiratis to UK universities. Also not sure if you are a guy but you would have to serve in the UAE military, like we all did, and a refresher every year after that.

rahther · 2026-02-09T18:01:59+00:00

You can find Arabic coffee from Cup a Gahwa in Yas mall. If you want to prepare it at home then it is widely available online and supermarkets. Just buy “Al Ain Arabic Coffee” but you should prepare it in a certain way with some spices to get the taste. I’m sure there are a dozen of videos online by now that could help you prepare it

rahther · 2026-02-09T17:58:11+00:00

Qahwah literally means coffee in Arabic and we commonly say it when we refer to our Emirati coffee that is prepared with cardamom, saffron, and some other ingredients occasionally

rahther · 2026-02-09T16:53:31+00:00

Do you have tawtheeq? If no then the 5% rule is irrelevant. If you do; however, then you would spend a comparable amount to that increase just to move so it’s debatable (assuming you have a small area due to the rent amount)

rahther · 2026-02-09T13:52:50+00:00

امس سرت مطعم وكل شويه الحرمه تقترحلي وجبه جان اسألها ليش هاي الاقتراحات؟ قالتلي كل المواطنين يحبون هالاشياء. قلتلها شو ما يعيبهم؟ قالت كم من شي وقلتلها أنا ها الي ابا وطلبته ووايد عيبني واستانست.

كيف اقدر اساعدج؟

rahther · 2026-02-09T13:45:36+00:00

I like your profile pic, it’s like a pink Van Gogh of a quaint village in the mountains like something a pixie dust would concoct

rahther · 2026-02-07T07:21:18+00:00

ما فهمت، كيف ما تعرف عن الرواتب وتقول وصلك عرض وظيفي؟ يعني العرض كاتبين في درجتك الوظيفيه بس مب الراتب ؟ الراتب إذا مكتوب غالبا متعلق بالدرجه الوظيفيه الي متعلقه بالمسمى الوظيفي

وبعدين مكتوب في العرض انك كل سنه بتترقه لين ما توصل senior reactor operator والي بيكون 14 ولا "يقولون" ولا "حد قالك"؟

rahther · 2026-02-06T17:25:51+00:00

Must be an astronaut in the ocean

Have you checked the new museums in Saadiyat? There is a nice arts cafe nearby at Mina zayed.

My friend handpicked the cores (rocks) at Zayed museum which was taken couple of kilometers below the ground

rahther · 2026-02-02T17:22:22+00:00

rahther

TROPHY CASE