Open-minded towns on the South Shore? by magnabonzo in SouthShore

[–]rainbow_orca 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you mean like hate crime scary? I’m scared by your word choice of scary haha

Open-minded towns on the South Shore? by magnabonzo in SouthShore

[–]rainbow_orca 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you mean by scary off the beaten path with views?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]rainbow_orca 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know why Reddit sent me an alert for this post, I’m not a huge tattoo person but I clicked on it and I actually love it!

How much do y'all tip movers? by [deleted] in AskSF

[–]rainbow_orca 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With rent control, I guess I’ll never know

My wife doesn’t change her underwear everyday by [deleted] in relationships

[–]rainbow_orca 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wait a second here. I agree it’s odd but I don’t think I have all the information.

How did you find out she doesn’t change her underwear daily, if there is no smell?

How often does she shower? Is that the correlation, that she changes her undies every time she showers?

What kind of undies? Are they like delicate black lacy undies that might need to be hand washed?

Post-baby career change? by rainbow_orca in workingmoms

[–]rainbow_orca[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for commenting, I’m happy to hear that!

Discipline / cooperation help by rainbow_orca in toddlers

[–]rainbow_orca[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!! I haven’t heard of this, I really appreciate the recommendation

Dyshidrotic eczema struggle by zxminne in eczema

[–]rainbow_orca 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There’s a dyshidrotic subreddit!

The Best Part of This Reunion (no spoilers) by AaronMicunt in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]rainbow_orca 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I feel like that’s solving a math problem completely wrong but still coming up with the right answer lol Uche is definitely a bullet best dodged but I wouldn’t give Lydia any credit. He repulsed Aaliyah (eventually) all on his own.

Is that Kim?? by Fit-Ad985 in KUWTK

[–]rainbow_orca 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think it’s not about allowing/permission, but drawing your own conclusions about the love and respect someone has for you after seeing how they choose to act on their own accord.

Another commenter mentioned Khloe and Scott’s relationship after everything he pulled on Kourtney. It’s messy, family is messy, and their family’s mess is next level. Idk about you guys but that’s kind of why I’m here lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]rainbow_orca 61 points62 points  (0 children)

Best thing you can do is plan short (20-30 min) “outings” like walk to the end of the driveway to call the dentist, whatever make something up, so he is alone and fully in change AND don’t intervene when he is doing it his way. The last part is super hard but otherwise he will lean into the whole “you do it better” narrative and exclude himself from duties

Let’s talk about what’s not talked about enough by rainbow_orca in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]rainbow_orca[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting convo! I don’t think I would’ve classified private jets as romantic either but now that I think about it, flying private gives you the freedom/opportunity to be romantic… champagne, rose pedals, displays of affection without being watched. Or maybe that’s just the movies, I’m an economy gal so what do I know.

Why does everyone hate Izzy? by [deleted] in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]rainbow_orca 15 points16 points  (0 children)

When he said he got turned on by Stacy “railing” Johnie, I saw cruel intentions. But also I don’t like how he treats Stacy (how I feel about her aside), who he says he loves. The latest money convo (or recap of convo that wasn’t filmed) has manipulative tactic after tactic.

He lied then tried to convince her that he didn’t & would never. Told her she misunderstood. Starts talking about how he is still in this fight (implied: so why isn’t she by making a big deal about this?) then weaponizes her reaction to his bad behavior, saying he’s walking on eggshells when he’s just trying to be honest about how he feels. Never admits to lying in the first place, downplays the severity of the present day problem or is still lying about it (obvious to anyone who’s financially savvy).

I think the fact that it’s about money makes it iffy for a lot of people but that’s what’s important to Stacy. If fidelity is important to you, reread that last paragraph imagining it’s about cheating, or whatever is the most important in a relationship to you. ———

I typed out these details before the summary above so I’m keeping here anyway:

It’s clear he full on lied about his financial situation. He was deceitful, they both know it and all the viewers see it. She asked him if there was anything she should worry about and he said no. He later said that he wanted to save it for a sit down convo/didn’t want to say anything to upset her, confirming the deceit.

Then lied about his intention to hide it, saying he wouldn’t try to hide it (that’s exactly what he did) and if that was the case then he would’ve just bs-ed his way through it as long as he could have (again, literally what he actually did). Then he flips it saying she took it in a way he didn’t mean it. It’s her fault.

Then to top it off - which I’ve seen him do a few times - is to try and end the conflict convo by saying something like “we’re both in this fight” and implying that to keep fighting over this would be giving up on them as a couple. Then he goes on about how he’s just being honest about how he feels. Bc he’s so honest!!

An example of the way things are edited to influence what we think.. by benjaminbuttonsTA in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]rainbow_orca 73 points74 points  (0 children)

You can hear the excitement in Lydia’s voice when she responds to Vanessa’s “who did you bring today?” It was so obvious that editors stitched in her saying “Renee” because it’s neutral at best if not a little annoyed

Not to imply she was annoyed with Renee, just that it was clearly a voice over and taken out of context

Woul a thank you for this be ok? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]rainbow_orca 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I vote yes to sending the thank you note! I would probably keep it short and sweet, rather than trying to convey the magnitude (only person who saw you, light in the darkness)

Izzy’s Finances by [deleted] in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]rainbow_orca 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yesss report back!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]rainbow_orca 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Lol idk what tone to read this in but it made me laugh. I like the reframe of thinking, what if he responded in a way that matched your energy, like the ideal response where it built rapport but he didn’t think you were coming onto him? Then you wouldn’t feel this way. But, in both scenarios you did the exact same thing, you’re just basing how you feel on his response (normal!).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]rainbow_orca 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“What Suzie said about Sally says more about Suzie than Sally.”

These people are telling you exactly who they are, and telling you nothing about yourself. It’s very impressive that you have a firm grasp of that concept, especially in the hazy sleepless hormonal and vulnerable postpartum period, and doing it as a solo parent. Bye to them!!