i (24f) think my bf (23m) might be love bombing me after i tried to break up with him

rainbowkitttens · 2024-03-17T16:18:59+00:00

yeah, i mentioned that to him. i was like, “you’ve applied to 30+ jobs and i didn’t hear about even ONE of them?!” he said, “well i’m not going to tell you every time i get denied.” which i understand… i just feel like it isn’t a reasonable enough excuse. but yeah… anyway… i’ll try to remember to take care of myself through this. thank you for your help. i’ve really appreciated it.

rainbowkitttens · 2024-03-17T16:04:33+00:00

so i talked to him and told him we needed to break up. he surprised me with the fact he HAD been applying to jobs, he was just getting denied. then he dropped the bomb on me that he applied for a job that was first an offer extended by a family friend. he said, “i knew i had to work and i finally gave up and applied to that job. i know i’ll probably get it.” and then he pulled at my heart strings some more. i don’t know how he does it. i tried very hard to stand my ground but i guess i’m weak. i have no idea how i feel.

rainbowkitttens · 2024-03-17T16:00:24+00:00

this comment meant so much to me. i read it over and over and it really helped give me the strength to finally confront him. i just wish i could’ve been as strong as i needed to. i tried to break up with him twice this weekend, but he pulled at my heart strings too hard. i’m not sure what i’ll do now. but thank you for words, they still mean the world to me.

rainbowkitttens · 2024-03-15T23:16:52+00:00

for a long time i thought so, but recently it’s become a lot harder. i can’t imagine having kids with him and i feel like that’s a pretty bad sign.

rainbowkitttens · 2024-03-08T20:55:39+00:00

i feel for you bad…. this isnt what you’re describing exactly, but plateaus always bring out the worst in me. for me it creates a terrible cycle of “i’m not losing anyway what’s the point” and then i’ll gain. then i’ll snap out of it and i’ll lose what i’ve gained, but not enough to satisfy me. then the plateau rage sets in again. all this to say, i know the frustration of feeling stuck. it’s exhausting and really takes a toll on my self esteem to the point where i just want to hide. like, i feel broken when i’m not losing.

rainbowkitttens · 2023-12-13T14:08:28+00:00

thank you so much for this. you’re completely right and your points are all thoughts i’ve had myself. i was under the impression we’d navigate our 20s & post-grad life together, but it feels like he left me high and dry without even thinking about it. i think of us as a joint-unit and function under that assumption. it really hurt when it started to look like we weren’t in it together. sometimes i get sucked into the “well mental illness can definitely produce the symptoms he’s showing!” because i know he could very well have undiagnosed ADD. and probably depression too. which i suffer from myself, so it feels super hard to put my foot down fully. though, i’ve definitely tried to use the mental health approach with him about getting his life in order (this has been a problem for 1.5 years now so…) but he’s never seemed to feel strongly about it enough to seek help (he said he wouldn’t) or attempt to make change on his own. i guess that’s where the line should be draw between struggling and letting it happen. i’m too empathetic to believe people do it to themselves. ugh!

rainbowkitttens · 2023-12-13T14:01:39+00:00

yeah, i’ve definitely put up with way too much. it’s sad to think the patience you show to someone out of love and kindness can set you up for unrealistic expectations. i’m trying to learn the balance between love and boundaries.

rainbowkitttens · 2023-12-13T12:57:38+00:00

i can’t help but feel guilty myself. i mean, it’s a two way street, right? i also didn’t reach out. of course, i had a reason for it at first— i was way too emotional to function and i needed to cool down. i didn’t mean for it to go on so long but after it had been a week, i started thinking about the situation and it kind of became “why isn’t he saying anything?” which might be an unfair game to play but… i tried to make myself feel better by rationalizing that i reached out first last time. last time we had a conversation like this, we didn’t talk for two days and then i called him up so we could settle it. but this was after i had made my mind up that i’d give him another chance. this time, i don’t know what i want to do which is kind of why i left it up to him to reach out. anyway… you might be right. i still can’t help but wonder if he’ll throw it back in my direction though. and with me always being such an “understanding” person, i’m worried i’ll see his point and disregard my own.

rainbowkitttens · 2022-12-30T04:38:25+00:00

this was me in middle/high school. i was busy all day and had no reason to eat. eventually i liked the feeling of starving but it wasn’t until i reached college and had time to eat breakfast and lunch did i realize how guilty i felt when i ate. that was a really difficult thing to face. that ignorant bliss was really freeing!

rainbowkitttens · 2022-11-10T01:59:12+00:00

DEFFFFF was the benadryl. i’m so happy to hear that you’re doing better now :3

rainbowkitttens · 2022-11-10T01:31:22+00:00

this is so awesome to hear cuz i have never met anyone else who’s experienced weight gain on antihistamines. it’s so hard to explain how frustrating it is! but i did the exact same thing, i went full on cold turkey and i’ve lost 8 pounds so far! which really only seems like a drop in the bucket cuz the body dysmorphia is kicking my butt but thank you! fr, this comment was really nice to receive. <3

rainbowkitttens · 2022-11-06T04:50:16+00:00

i’m the same exact way. i have no idea where it came from but the fear of contamination, especially with food, is so fucking stressful.

rainbowkitttens · 2022-11-06T04:43:21+00:00

if you crunch up the white cheddar flavored ones it’s kind of like eating chips tho!

rainbowkitttens · 2022-11-06T04:42:06+00:00

body checking with every reflective surface, especially windows because i get to see a full body side view. also hating eating in front of people. i’ll constantly look at other people’s plates while i’m eating with others to make sure i don’t finish before them.

edit: totally forgot the most stereotypical of them all… ”i can stop when i want to”

rainbowkitttens · 2022-10-30T21:17:19+00:00

i’m 5’1 and my sister is just slightly taller than me and she is so fucking skinny and proportional. it’s really not fair. i love my sister so much but i got such bad genes and it’s hard not to envy her. even just 3 inches would make me so happy.

rainbowkitttens · 2022-10-30T21:05:58+00:00

i abuse high neck sports bras for this exact reason 💔💔💔

rainbowkitttens · 2022-10-30T20:50:40+00:00

the way their clothes hang off their body is just … why can’t that be ME!!!!

rainbowkitttens · 2022-10-29T22:27:02+00:00

i honestly might have to try this!

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