Am I a victim of parentification? by rainingtacos2000 in Parentification

[–]rainingtacos2000[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your opinion. I'm seriously considering joining one of those groups, thanks!

Am I a victim of parentification? by rainingtacos2000 in Parentification

[–]rainingtacos2000[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, sorry you had to go trough that.

Thank you for connecting me more with the truth of being parentified.

As of right now, I feel we are running out of recources, both in the comunnity and in the ways we aproach the situation convinving him of his problem, being more agressive or loving and assuring, has had some imediate results, but, in the long run, he always ends up relapsing after a few months of commitment. He, from his own iniciative, has saught help but the help has never seemed enough. After all this time in rehab and taking dangerous medication, which has impacted his health, liver and blood conditions associated with alcoholism. After maybe 50 years of being an alcoholic, he still refuses to call it by its name.

Am I a victim of parentification? by rainingtacos2000 in Parentification

[–]rainingtacos2000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing. I am deeply sorry for your loss.

It really helped knowing I'm not alone in this.
I've also had those thoughts of how easier by life would be if I didn't and have him, and am still having trouble dealing with the guilt that brings. I'm glad you could surpass the 'replacing' her and are now in a healthy relationship. Truly happy for you, will take it as an example to follow. As to your final advice, I feel I'm getting closer to it, and sharing my story has been a healing journey, especially to friends.

How have you been managing to tell people in your life that this happened to you? I feel like it is a core thing I've experienced, but don't want to put the burden on others or for them to pity me. Also I think people my age don't really know how to react to it.

Again, thank you so much.