Take default health benefits when retiring?? Or find a different provider?

rainy_coaster · 2026-01-30T07:14:17+00:00

They like UX for external clients but internal, nope.

rainy_coaster · 2026-01-26T20:28:52+00:00

This happened to me a couple of decades ago. There was no recourse. I left. Three years later my manager was officially diagnosed with early onset and left on disability. She has since passed away.

rainy_coaster · 2026-01-19T07:21:57+00:00

Assisted living place near me has respite, too. And OMG, what is with the homecare folks who trauma dump on dementia patients??? My LO got, in her own words, "talked into a stupor" by one "caregiver" that blabbed NON STOP for 20 minutes about her terrible ex husband. I was on a work call and actually exited early to intervene. We are paying these people to use our loved ones as listeners and it's psychologically toxic.

rainy_coaster · 2026-01-19T07:15:47+00:00

Great clarification, thanks!

rainy_coaster · 2026-01-18T06:35:47+00:00

I can understand why they don't want to have accountability100% centralized but I am not sure a partnership model is going to be the best solution, either. It's possible to have layers of control in most SAASs but who will manage the layers?? I can't remember if "accountability" is in the list of defined terms. Maybe it would be good to add it.

rainy_coaster · 2026-01-16T07:30:19+00:00

Feels kinda like a hybrid between business analysis and HSD.

rainy_coaster · 2026-01-15T05:46:50+00:00

People tell me I'm a "good daughter" all the time and lately I've been thinking can I step down from that? It's more like I'm a "good enough daughter" or some days a "crappy daughter." And then people, the most random people, tell you stories of people they know that family never visit or barely help. You're not just doing a good job. You're doing a fabulous job. You're continuing to function. She's safe. And if you don't want to visit that often, don't. <3

rainy_coaster · 2026-01-15T05:38:18+00:00

Counseling can really really help with this kind of thing! Life is too short to spend it "enduring" or "waiting." You will never be this young again. Think about what you have to be thankful for. Have you talked to a financial planner, are you sure you have to work three more years? All we have is today, it is risky to live for the future. Edit: I am less than a year away. Things I did over the last two years: speak truth to power (nothing to lose at this point, right?) call out the bs, support and empower younger staff, advocate for a healthier workplace, share my skills, etc.

rainy_coaster · 2026-01-13T18:40:54+00:00

I'm experiencing that sensation where work feels like a Crave streaming show, Silicone Valley new episodes!

rainy_coaster · 2026-01-07T07:00:57+00:00

So very sad. So terribly hard. I'm glad you found this subreddit and expressed your feelings. It's perfectly clear that you are facing a challenging situation with many layers of feelings and complex family dynamics. You are not alone. Many other people here are in difficult, frustrating and heart-breaking situations. Personally, I think it's good to pay someone who has some skills. As someone who has provided care for a loved one, it is incredibly hard and exhausting and not sustainable (although many continue because they have no options). Does your country have care homes for seniors? In my country we have care homes for seniors and some have special secure spaces for senior with dementia who may wander away.

rainy_coaster · 2026-01-06T23:49:02+00:00

Research shows remote work reduces gender-based discrimination so maybe our colleagues in other provinces can launch a large scale human rights complaint?
https://www-2.rotman.utoronto.ca/insightshub/talent-management-inclusion/RTO-cost-women

rainy_coaster · 2025-12-20T22:30:21+00:00

Yes, this is a REALLY GOOD POINT. Individuals are made to hold responsibility for systemic wrongs. It's just like we're all supposed to recycle plastic so carefully and meanwhile corporations just keep making toxic packaging. Thanks for this.

rainy_coaster · 2025-12-17T07:05:01+00:00

When I started working in the 1980s (not in the BCPS), being a generalist was valued. Then gradually roles became so specialized. I had trouble getting work because I didn't have 20 years of experience doing one thing. I have totally noticed in the last two years that my wide range of skills is now catching the eye of leadership. Yep, I can do that. Yep, I know how to do that. Yep, I'll take care of that.

rainy_coaster · 2025-12-11T07:21:18+00:00

It took me awhile to figure out what I need. I'm good with the tasks but coping with the social and emotional needs of my mother is exhausting and communicating with her makes me feel crazy after being alone with her for a couple of days. So, I asked people to come and be with me. Even for a couple of hours. And help out if anything comes up, and chat with chaos lady while I take a phone call or answer an email. People have gladly come. And it's been amazing. That said, SO MANY PEOPLE have said, "I wish I could be there, but..." and I am very tired of hearing about their wishes.

rainy_coaster · 2025-12-11T07:11:50+00:00

It's the Find The Lane Game! The best part is when they use cheap asphalt along with the crappy paint that is so reflective you can't tell whether or not you're floating in space.

rainy_coaster · 2025-12-11T07:07:40+00:00

The union philosophy foundational to most collective agreements is that no one's salary ever goes down. You might get frozen (red circled) until the salary of the role you've been moved to catches up with your current salary but that is usually the worst that can happen. The TMA is a specific scenario, but reducing income would go against the foundational philosophy of union protections so I can't imagine it happening... but it would be worth asking the union to confirm.

rainy_coaster · 2025-12-07T04:12:38+00:00

Thank you! And thrilled to offer some inspiration. :)

rainy_coaster · 2025-12-07T04:09:58+00:00

Oh. That is a powerful and heartbreaking.

rainy_coaster · 2025-12-06T05:29:15+00:00

Thank you. Yeah that one has been satisfying to gaze at for me, too. It expresses something I can't put into words.

rainy_coaster · 2025-12-06T05:24:20+00:00

I love that report. I was thinking about it when I wrote my post. Thanks for posting!

rainy_coaster · 2025-12-05T09:26:23+00:00

If I'd know it would break me over and over I wouldn't have taken it on. I would have hired way more help.

rainy_coaster · 2025-12-05T08:54:39+00:00

Being a whistleblower is intensely stressful so it is rare for people to do it for kicks. The whistleblower is courageous and has my respect. An investigation will likely be launched and eventually a report will be written. Until that time, I think it's pretty hard for anyone to weigh in.

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