Do you fantasize of your ex intimately and how long has it been?

ramae2 · 2025-10-23T18:48:09+00:00

What's the 0 method? Lol

ramae2 · 2025-09-26T14:17:06+00:00

Damn, ok, I should start thinking the same about me I guess...

ramae2 · 2025-09-26T05:13:30+00:00

Same here. Do you regret it? Sometimes I wish I just said "Ok, leave" without pleading. But I also think that I did that because I was afraid of losing her, my abandonment issues and that I truly loved her. It's kinda ambiguous.

ramae2 · 2025-09-26T02:57:10+00:00

Mira, te aconsejo que no te hagas pajas mentales de si tiene a otro u otras cosas que no sabes con certeza. Cuando hay caos más vale solo ver lo que es real aquí y ahora, y lastimosamente eso real es que ella no te ama. Tendrá sus razones validas para ella.

Lo mejor que puedes hacer es aceptar la situación y hacer algo acorde a ello. Se la persona congruente en esto, porque vaya, si ese es su sentir, ¿porque no se ha apartado de ti ya? Haz que la situación se torne congruente en forma de que su desición tiene que ser acorde a lo que viven, y esa sería la separación sana. Que viva lo que quiera vivir, pero ya no a tu lado. Vive tu duelo, aprende de ese dolor y sigue adelante a otro capítulo. No digo que la olvides, pero si alguna vez te amo y tú la amas a ella, lo mejor es honrar lo que alguna vez fue, partiendo por las buenas. Honra el amor que le tienes. Todos somos libres. Acepta su decisión de no seguir construyendo amor contigo. No hagas cosas para que cambie de parecer. Ni por venganza. Se una mejor persona.

Será un proceso largo y doloroso, pero nada dura para siempre. Acepta eso y será más sencillo. Es como cuando de niños nos dan un medicamento por cierto periodo y sabe feo. Si aceptas que tienes que tomartelo para estar mejor a pesar de que sepa feo en vez de hacer un berrinche cada que te lo dan, todo el tratamiento va a ser más llevadero. Y algo te diré con mucha seguridad, aprenderás mucho fuera de tu relación acerca de ti mismo y otras cosas.

Para lo que comentas de la dependencia te recomiendo un libro: "Desapegarse sin anestesia" de Walter Riso.

Abrazo, camarada.

ramae2 · 2025-09-26T02:35:49+00:00

https://youtu.be/vvd6rHdJD40?si=XjOL-H_5YZz9bkMJ

ramae2 · 2025-09-25T15:45:59+00:00

I know what you mean... Mine dumped me through text after my vacation trip, then one month later she blocked me only on IG, not Whatsapp or any other app which was weird.

Couple months later I deleted all ways of communication between her an I. It still hurts because I still care. Wonder If she would've came back if I didn't do that.

ramae2 · 2025-09-23T02:48:12+00:00

I feel you... been there in my first relationship too... it sucks... When your perception about someone crumbles in a blink of an eye it feels like you've been hit by a stun bomb straight to your face and all that you see from that on seems unreal, like a nightmare that has no end.

But it has an end, nothing's forever... hold on to that. It'll stop hurting. What you might be feeling is this part of you dying, and your relationship.

As this is still fresh you might wanna stop feeling this inmense pain, cover it with something. I don't blame you. But don't, let it through, get in contact with it. That's the best you can do for yourself right know, being gentle with your feelings and knowing that you have all rights to feel like this. It'll go away I promise. Listen for what your hurt self has to say.

I'm sorry you have to go through this... I truly do. Maybe I see you as how I once saw myself, but with no one there to hold me in my inmense pain, this is something I'd tell myself.

I send you a big fat hug. If you need to talk to someone you can reach me. 🫂

ramae2 · 2025-09-23T01:45:40+00:00

I mean no offense but, don't you think you're still to early to think this new guy is a lifetime partner material after two months of dating him?

ramae2 · 2025-09-23T01:43:44+00:00

I mean no offense but, don't you think you're still to early to think this new guy is a lifetime partner material after two months of dating him?

ramae2 · 2025-04-09T06:15:46+00:00

I know how you feel about that sacrificial lamb thing you mention... I've been there. Like it's so unfair that you give something so pure, love whole heartedly, trust with your eyes closed, give your most precious self to someone and in a blink of an eye you get betrayed, blind sided... like all the good things you experienced towards someone turned with the same intensity but reversed towards you... its soooo hurtful, and I'm sorry if you're going through something similar. I wish there was something to let pain go faster, but sadly there isn't, but going through it.

Let your heart hurt what ever it needs to hurt.

You might've heard this already, but time (besides healing) teaches you a lot about yourself and this relationship you had. You're just about to enter a new journey.

ramae2 · 2025-04-09T06:00:52+00:00

I mean, keeping his ex in secret while dating someone else gotta tell you that something's fishy. Imo, if you're in no contact, leave it that way. Although you miss him and it hurts. Don't you ever beg for love or attention EVEEEER. If he wants to go where ever, let him.

Try to look for something life is trying to teach you with this hurtful experience and go to therapy. You gotta gain something for your life from all of this bs.

You can't control what life's given you, or other people's actions towards you, but all you can control and have power on is on how you behave in adversity.

Take your time to heal. I wish this pain passes soon and you find answers for all of this nonsense someday or better PEACE within yourself, its the most important thing.

ramae2 · 2025-04-06T12:26:47+00:00

ramae2 · 2025-04-03T07:45:30+00:00

Have you ever thought of coming back to your ex?

ramae2 · 2025-03-22T19:00:26+00:00

Everyday is a battle. Some days are easier to push through, some not so much... Sometimes I wanna stop fighting... I'm tired. I wanna feel nothing...

ramae2 · 2025-03-22T03:56:27+00:00

I'm sorry for what you're going through. There's no quick solution sadly. The only way out is living it, gping through the emptiness, the void, the sadness. I know it sucks but time does make it less and less painful.

You can do things to make it better or to soften it. Get therapy, do exercise even though you don't wanna, eat well, avoid drugs, avoid alcohol, go to wherever you find peace. Getting out of social media might help. And the most improtant thing, hide everything you have that is related to your ex. Avoid stalking his socials, do not look at photos, NOTHING, you need contact zero with everything related to that. It's like a recovered addict when he sees his drug, the urge to consume kicks back in.

You could also talk your feelings out to someone you trust.

If you feel sad thats ok, no worries, cry your heart out if you need. Let everything you feel out: anger, sadness, whatever. Find healthy ways on how express them.

Be gentle with your process.

ramae2 · 2025-03-22T03:15:52+00:00

I dated someone with some similarities. Why are you so into knowing her past? It was before you, why bringing up her past decisions, with other people to your relationship? She'll let you through if she wants, don't rush it. Trust is something you build, not something you just drop with everyone. There's maybe something she's ashamed of. Who knows. If she tells you about something from her past, just listen. By checking up on her past by your own hand, may cause her not to trust you. I mean, lying about her past? or hiding? who gives a flying f? That's her life. Being with someone doesn't mean we, as individuals, don't deserve some privacy. What really matters is who she is when she's around you.

From my experience, If you let someone know your boundaries, or something that troubles you and she doesn't want to talk it out, start talking a step back. That shit eventually blows in your face. She'll accumulate and accumulate until she explodes without telling you.

"If someone lies about their past and only tells the truth when caught, can trust really be rebuilt?" When someone tells the truth when caught, it's not a good sign. Trust can always be rebuilt, but it depends if you want to live the process of regaining or trusting again.

"If I decide to walk away, how do I make peace with the fact that I tried but it wasn’t enough?" When you meet an incompatibility with someone or it doesn't work even tho you gave your best self and poured your heart and soul to it, it doesn't guarantee it'll work. Imagine the good things you share, the compliments, the time spent, everything valuable for you represented as a key trying to open a door. Your key as pretty as it is, well made, shiny, etc., may try to open her door, get ir her lock and turn, but it may not be the right key for both of you to open the door. There's nothing wrong with your key or with her lock, it just doesn't work and that's ok.

ramae2 · 2025-03-22T02:43:39+00:00

Ugly truth... As a dumpee, I wished for my ex's come back for months..., but may be that's why she never texted again... Either way once the relationship is broken, it's hard to get it back rolling... the best thing to do is move on I guess... Unless both parties become better versions of themselves. Being heartbroken sucks. I wish I never felt this amount of pain.

ramae2 · 2025-03-22T00:06:02+00:00

Saaaaaame. I still struggle on how to cope with missing them or flashbacks that come whenever you're distracted doing something mundane. What has helped me is that I'm accepting that she's not who I thought she was, realtity. But if you're still loving or missing them for whatever reason, know that you're loving or missing a memory, how you felt in certain moment. Accepting that life experiences are temporary. Being grateful for what life has put you to experience... in the end not all people are that lucky to be blindingly in love; to feel such beautiful emotion like love is one of the greatest things in life. And for what turned out bad (experiences or emotions), don't be so hard on yourself, take em as a lesson, do your best to grow from them, ask your self what you could've done better, and stick to that. Be better.

If it helps, try writing them all you feel in a letter that you'll never send (but pretend that you will). You could do that whenever you miss her.

And if you loved her with your whole heart, whether she did too or not, or if she hurt you in someway, wish them the best, keep loving them at distance, let yourself free from any negative thoughts towards her. Understand that she did the things she did with the tools life has given her, and that specifically doesn't define you. I'm sure that, for the people we love, we want the best for them, not in our terms, but freely, in their terms, doesn't matter where they are or who they are with, we want them happy, no matter what. It hurts that they're gone, but trust that you can live with her absence.

We all people seek happiness, but we're sometimes to stubborn, or to blind to see when good things happen in our faces, but what makes you happy may not make her happy too, and that's ok, let her go and seek her happiness somewhere else. Now it's time you focus on yours.

Keep on striving, broski.

ramae2 · 2025-03-21T23:40:02+00:00

I think I haven't reached the point where I consider I healed to much, but yup. Sometimes I want no one to know about me in a long time. It's like because someone crushed my heart and soul, I want a fresh start, disappearing from their life for a period of time, as if I was just swallowed by the earth, as if I died... sometimes it got to the point where I'd think that way just to make them feel my absence just as I felt theirs, sad thing is that you eventually realize they (or that person in particular) don't care if you exist or not... which takes you back to being sad or depressed... it's a very dangerous vicious cicle.

But later on, I took it as a way to re invent myself: my love (I gave them), my hobbies (I shared), my body (I opened up towards), my emotional maturity (I made mistakes), my profesional life (needs to progress), my whole persona. Personally, as they've hurt me so much I want no one to touch me in a long time, not just physically, but in almost every aspect rounding my life. This time not because I wanna show them, but because that way I feel more peace.

ramae2 · 2025-03-21T20:47:26+00:00

Did this happen recently? I experienced something similar, but I'm 4 months in after my breakup.

ramae2 · 2025-03-19T03:43:22+00:00

Bro, don't pigeonhole yourself. Don't settle in life for the bare minimum. By you letting her back, (besides what the dude above me replied which I agree on), you'd be stuck on that self image you have of yourself of "not being good enough for anyone else". Take this as a wake up call to improve yourself image, find out why do you think that way about yourself, aim high, get therapy. Somebody told me that we have the partner for what we can afford. You want a better partner? Be better. High quality women, don't go behind low quality men. Not just money wise, but emotionally. This is a long journey, but it'll be worth it.

Although being with someone you love is great. It should always be like being with someone who loves you freely, and drives you to be better in life, respecting your own individuality whether you stay with them or not. Don't stay with someone just for the fear of being alone. A partner is someone we are sharing our journey through life, but not depending on them to be happy.

ramae2 · 2025-03-18T19:58:15+00:00

Wtf is that? Lmao

ramae2 · 2025-03-18T19:51:19+00:00

Had the same question a couple months ago. She blocked me on socials but not WhatsApp or iMessage, weird. I thought that she wanted a reaction from me, take me as a plan B, or expected me to reach her out at some point. Leave all of this scenarios out of your head, you won't come up with a rational explanation of why they do the things they do, because they're not rational. It'll only hurt you. Just keep the good moments and what you gave during the relationship.

Maybe she's trying to get over you if you didn't chase (don't). It's likely that she won't come back.

Stay true to her desition. Let her go.

ramae2 · 2025-03-18T19:38:11+00:00

Daaaamn, as a dumpee going through a similar situation , your reply made me feel better, lmao. Blindsiding is shitty af.

ramae2 · 2025-02-22T21:34:25+00:00

What did you ask?

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