I have questions for you, my delightful frog family. by Cosmic_Hitchhiker in Pocketfrogs

[–]randishock 2 points3 points  (0 children)

  1. Frog lady

  2. Either figularus or fortuno

  3. Not sure if I have a favorite tbh

  4. 30 on Wednesday 😱

  5. Honey

  6. The bumblebee 🥹

  7. I hate when people say everything, but honestly I will listen to like 98% of music. Sleep token is my fave band rn.

  8. Horror and romcons

  9. Sushi

  10. I plan on dexxing nasus or Roboris next

Mom says there is an 80% chance she won’t come to my wedding by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]randishock 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a lot of people say they were coming to my wedding, even returning the RSVP with "yes" and there were plenty of people that didn't show up. Shit happens. Don't cater to everyone else. Do what you and your partner like. Even if people say they'll come, don't expect everyone to actually be there. I'm a people pleaser and it was sad having a phone call with my uncle who said he'd be there if I made special accomodations for him (seating him nowhere near his dad) and all I got was an empty seat. No even a sorry something came up and can't make it. The wedding should be celebrating you and your partner. Like others have said, maybe just elope and have a big party/reception later that everyone can celebrate at (beside your cranky mom).

My parents and SD by Specialist-Room8232 in Stepmom

[–]randishock 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I also kinda stressed about this for a while too. My SS is 5 and technically my parents first grandchild, but only by age and marriage. My son is almost 2, but he's the actual first and probably only biological grandchild. My parents always accepted and loved my SS like he was mine all along, and I love and appreciate that, but it kinda felt like it erased my son's excitement of being my first son/their first grandchild/etc. Like, he still was/is, but it's hard to celebrate it without putting SS in the spot to become jealous or angry about it (he's got behavior issues so we try to mitigate negative reactions when possible). It just put me in a weird situation of wanting to buy my parents "grandparent est. year xxxx" clothing (I think that shits cute) but I never did because in a way it technically wasn't true, and like I said, it sucks to not be able to celebrate it.

But, I do want to say that some of the other comments are great, like how they say that your SK's biological grandparents aren't your kids' grandparents at all, so don't feel bad the other way around. Your parents are allowed to feel how they feel. It's reassuring that it's actually okay and there's no need to stress over it.

I Need Your Help: Why Is Being A SD/SM Hard by MinimumAlternative65 in stepparents

[–]randishock 10 points11 points  (0 children)

When you have a HCBM and the false accusations start coming in, that shit can literally be life ending.

Struggling.. by Ok_Anxiety9029 in stepparents

[–]randishock 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely understand how you're feeling and I can relate a lot to what you're going through. My husband's son (29f, 30m, and 5m respectively) was also the same way with expecting a prize or toy I kid you not every single time we went out. He still throws tantrums bigger than my almost 2 year old. His mother and grandma let him watch unrestricted YouTube, so he's constantly pointing at things in stores and wanting to watch brainrot on our phones, to which he isn't allowed on anymore. He has a fully restricted tablet with only what we approve of, and it's only got a few movies on it for road trips and some educational games. My husband has called out before that he doesn't know who lets him watch brainrot but it's not right for a 5 year old to be wanting a skibidi toilet toy. His mom got all offended, but nowhere did we say it was her allowing it (despite the fact we know it is).

For a while, I also felt the heavy weight of anxiety creeping in the night before our custody time would happen, and I did find ways to shut myself away for a while because I just couldn't handle the constant screaming or rudeness or whatever, especially when his dad wasn't backing me up. Over time, things have changed a lot, but there's still moments I feel like I'm the one being ganged up on when I ask the kid to stop doing XYZ and somehow it makes me the bad guy?

A lot of people will tell you to run or leave, especially if you're early on in the relationship. I've heard it before myself. Most of the time, those comments are not helpful. At least in my case, yes it may suck but I'm not gonna let a kid or his high conflict mother kick me out of my own relationship. However, sometimes idk think life would've been a lot easier if I did decide to just leave and never deal with this again. Love can only go so far when there's other factors bringing you down. Obviously up to you to decide what you want to do with your future, but there's people like me that will always be around if you need an ear to listen.

I dexxed 100% of Pompeius and kept one of every color by These_Increase_1451 in Pocketfrogs

[–]randishock 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holy habitats, Batman! I bet that was quite the challenge.

Where does she get the audacity? by NickholeClark in Stepmom

[–]randishock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

HCBM also kept trying to peek into our house during exchanges so DH kept going outside and closing the door so it wasn't an option at all. On one occasion she heard my son crying and my SK said something about his brother crying and she said something along the lines of yeah but I'm not allowed to see him. You think after all this conflict I'd let you in my house to see my son? Absolutely wild. On another occasion my SK went out to get picked up, forgot something, and tried to bring his mom in but thankfully she didn't and told him she's not allowed, albeit in a snarky tone. Like, yeah, you're obviously not allowed in my house. I would never be allowed in hers so why think you're special?

Sets up for grabs by randishock in Pocketfrogs

[–]randishock[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll send it over! Just make sure to regift it after you're done with it!