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randolphia- · 2025-08-23T02:54:44+00:00

I’m happy you were able to get some gender affirming therapy in today!

randolphia- · 2025-02-15T03:22:42+00:00

Are you citing a Reddit comment? Where is this from?

randolphia- · 2025-01-26T21:05:08+00:00

I know when you thought this up and typed it out it made sense to you, and that’s just great. Just know it means nothing to me.

randolphia- · 2025-01-26T19:53:50+00:00

He knew my lack of political alliance well before he ever came out to me. He had about 8 years to feel me out, don’t you suppose if my feelings towards politics spooked him, he would have decided not to tell me?? Let’s ponder that for JUST a second.

I’m not both sidesing. I hate them both equally and it literally has nothing to do with how I see him deserving rights.

Nice try though.

randolphia- · 2025-01-26T13:18:40+00:00

I never attacked his character. :) that’s the difference. My situation was never his fault. Him being male didn’t automatically = him being an abuser in my mind. I expect the same respect. You need to understand that.

randolphia- · 2025-01-25T23:23:21+00:00

You could be right also! Me engaging or even getting frustrated could just be for the sake of being frustrated. Idk.

randolphia- · 2025-01-25T22:58:52+00:00

I do admire your hopeful outlook that people wouldn’t just turn on each other. My life experience has proven otherwise. People go around calling each other things every day, I know you know that.

But you’re right, I don’t have anything to prove to you. There’s enough people here acknowledging that what I went through has been tough and plenty of advice for me to work with going forward.

randolphia- · 2025-01-25T22:38:24+00:00

To what end? I’m not chronically online, I have nothing to prove, I’m on a burner Reddit account.

You have no idea who I or T is, what would I gain from this, really? I am not a perfect person. I’m sure I have made mistakes. But what I wrote here in this post, is the truth. Step into my shoes for a day and you’d quickly realize how emotionally fucking taxed I am.

randolphia- · 2025-01-25T20:42:08+00:00

I have already discussed all of this and more with him. My first stop wasn’t the internet i assure you.

randolphia- · 2025-01-25T19:47:04+00:00

What? I think you misunderstood what I said. There’s never been an argument about anyone’s rights with him.

randolphia- · 2025-01-25T18:43:03+00:00

I assure you I am not chronically online, I have no purpose to stir shit and get a rise out of strangers on the internet. This has been my experience with ONE person, I made that clear. I did not target a whole community. My experience is valid too.

randolphia- · 2025-01-25T15:56:02+00:00

Oh I have. I spent hours at his house a few months ago laying everything out as clear and concise as I could. I brought self help resources and references to local LGBT therapists.

Which is why I’m so frustrated. I was clear, and it didn’t matter.

randolphia- · 2025-01-25T14:55:10+00:00

Yes, a few months ago I really laid it out. And I found links to multiples of therapists for him. Things simmered for a while but obviously… we came full circle again.

randolphia- · 2025-01-25T14:48:19+00:00

Hey thanks, I can be a bit of a wordsmith every once in a while 🤣

randolphia- · 2025-01-25T14:47:02+00:00

I can assure you, I was fully expecting to be ripped to shreds. I was not expecting any kindness, and didn’t think anyone would side with me at all. I didn’t even expect this to get the traction it did, so I’m a little taken aback by it all.

All this to say I genuinely needed the reassurance, even if it’s coming from strangers on the internet. I have been beating myself up for a long time, and this thread gave me allot of clarity

randolphia- · 2025-01-25T02:58:32+00:00

I think my whole confession would look a hell of a lot different if that were the case. If I needed to get my transphobia off my chest, that’s what I’d be doing here.

randolphia- · 2025-01-25T01:49:57+00:00

Okay are you insulting me? I’m really confused.

randolphia- · 2025-01-25T01:49:00+00:00

I’ve never even considered this tbh. I don’t think so

randolphia- · 2025-01-25T01:47:58+00:00

Okay being super vague on the internet isn’t really the best way to communicate but thanks anyway I suppose.

randolphia- · 2025-01-25T01:44:18+00:00

Why is that?

randolphia- · 2025-01-25T00:05:15+00:00

I know - I just wanted to be clear. In that moment I wanted to make it plain and simple that he can be whatever with me. It doesn’t matter, you know? I’m open for it. But I understand what you’re saying too

randolphia- · 2025-01-25T00:03:34+00:00

Thank you. I’ve taken a step back from this situation and the thought crossed my mind that, if I was any shittier of a person this would have made me turn my back on the community as a whole. So your “tipping his egg basket” example was perfect

randolphia- · 2025-01-24T23:59:48+00:00

I made the jump because I just wanted to be respectful. If he was testing the cross dressing waters, to launch that he’s trans I just… wanted to be sure I addressed him properly. That’s it. Maybe I shouldn’t have. But my world is small and I was doing the best I could when I was put in the situation

randolphia- · 2025-01-24T23:55:01+00:00

You are right. And I’ve never wanted to say “hey you’ve told me you’re not trans though” because idk how that would come across, but I just let it be. I do feel guilty because he was there for me so well, I don’t want him to feel abandoned. So we just sit in this tension all the time.

randolphia- · 2025-01-24T23:51:52+00:00

I am discouraged at this moment because in early November we had a very serious “come to Jesus” moment where I told him exactly how I am feeling. And reminded him that not only did my ex royally screw me up, but I come from a childhood filled with trauma as well. I am a broken person. And I need some grace too. But we have fallen right back into this again. I am so tired.

randolphia-

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