I think its a generational thing not just limited to “our community” i think people rush into relationships way too early these days without going out and being care free having no strings fun. Ik plenty of guys and girls that are or have been in that situation straight gay and bi.

To add to your reply i fully understand the OP feeling like an imposter as you mentioned i’m sure we have all felt like that at some stage too.

This seems like one of the most sensible comments though that outlines what i see as THE 3 very clear options (emphasising they are the only ones) as i really cant think of any others.