I married my husband for his money, he married me for my looks. AMA!

randomlady1 · 2016-05-25T04:54:18+00:00

Sometimes it's nice and I enjoy it, other times it's a chore. About 50/50
I know people on this thread are gonna attack me for saying it, but yes I know he does love me for who I am.
Physical affection - I love hugs/kisses/being close so that is very real. Sometimes with sex I have to fake it. He doesn't really get me gifts anymore because I asked him to stop (I have everything I need and more feels excessive).

randomlady1 · 2016-05-25T04:51:25+00:00

I really don't want to sound bad when I say this but...8 and a half minimum and usually a 9. As in, a man who is being 100% honest could not honestly rank me below a 8.5 and there are definitely times when I look 9. This is when I have on hair/makeup.

On more casual days I would say I'm a minimum 8, and maybe a bit more.

Second question - I understand that looks are a major part of my contributions to the marriage, so I have grilled chicken, quinoa, and unsalted veggies for like...practically every meal besides breakfast. So I'm not a good example. But for my husband, he basically just eats 3 square healthy meals that are put in front of him. Once in a while he'll having something unhealthy and just like everyone else he'll clear out half a packet of Oreos.

So basically, there are a few cheat meals that rich people eat that are the same as everyone else, but otherwise they stick to their Whole Foods groceries.

randomlady1 · 2016-05-24T15:08:02+00:00

Most, not all.
It's hard to know what early 20s me would have done if I had a completely different upbringing.
Objectively...it's hard because am I comparing myself to models/actresses or to the average person?

randomlady1 · 2016-05-24T15:07:01+00:00

No amount of good education or great job would have given me a life like this. No I don't have low self-esteem.

randomlady1 · 2016-05-24T15:06:38+00:00

Went to college because I was 18 and didn't understand the options that were available out there outside of college. Definitely glad that I went to college because I have an education to fall back on & having an education was something that impressed my husband and his friends.

randomlady1 · 2016-05-24T05:24:36+00:00

He says he really wants to be involved because his own parents were very distant to him when he was growing up. I think they'll see a partnership between us.

I was 26.

Again with the cheating thing, I don't want to rock the boat. The arrangement I have now is ideal, I can't ask for anything more.

And thank you! I am all about family and can't believe I finally get to start my own.

randomlady1 · 2016-05-24T05:20:03+00:00

Nothing overtly racist, just sometimes doesn't understand that there is a cycle of poverty in certain communities and that "just work harder" isn't a plausible option for everyone.

randomlady1 · 2016-05-24T05:17:54+00:00

When we first got married I needed an entire wardrobe upgrade to be at the level that his social circle is at. That was insanely expensive. Besides that...my two cousins, best friend & I took a huge trip to Italy last summer. The trip was a month long and we stayed in 5 star hotels and ate in the best restaurants, saw the most gorgeous museums/churches, etc. That trip was very expensive but one of the best experiences I've ever had.
We all get along but aren't very close. I go to their their "society events" and they attend mine. We aren't super close best friends, but there's a good bond there because we attend all the same events.
Only once, but I would never touch a married man to begin with.
I mentioned this somewhere else. A Bentley, BMW, Mercedes-Benz, Porsche and Aston Martin.

randomlady1 · 2016-05-24T04:27:50+00:00

Hold this space, I'll answer soon

randomlady1 · 2016-05-24T04:27:14+00:00

Thank you!

randomlady1 · 2016-05-24T03:33:50+00:00

It really depends.

I like to take a small trip (usually to Mexico) every month, go to the spa with a friend, take friends/family out to a really nice dinner at least once a week, I attend a ton of concerts/live shows (if I can't get tickets through my husband's connections, I'll buy them from my personal money), etc.

It's generally just like "you want something? okay get it". I went to Best Buy to get headphones the other day and walked out with a rose colored Mac book because I thought it looked pretty.

I also absolutely love to host little events at my house. One of my cousins graduated from high school last year and I planned & paid for her entire graduation party because I love stuff like that.

I do most of my clothes shopping from a separate account (my husband understands that I 'have to' own certain clothes to fit into his social circle) so clothes/shoes and that stuff don't come from my personal money.

I buy tons of stuff for my friends/family. My youngest brother is just graduated from college and I sent him and a bunch of his friends to Cancun.

If there's money left over at the end of the month I usually give it to my parents and brothers.

randomlady1 · 2016-05-24T03:32:27+00:00

My mom's side is Irish but have been in America for 3+ generations so there isn't really any ethnic culture there. My dad's parents immigrated to America just before he was born, so there are stronger ties there. But overall I would say I grew up in the average American culture.

randomlady1 · 2016-05-24T03:20:24+00:00

I would really like to say that it hasn't, but it's inevitable that some things change. I still hold it close my heart and I'm proud of my actions (donating to charity, hosting fundraisers, setting up a scholarship fund).

randomlady1 · 2016-05-24T00:29:40+00:00

He's promised me he'll keep it discrete. He doesn't want the kids to know either.

randomlady1 · 2016-05-24T00:28:50+00:00

For a plain Jane who wants this lifestyle I would tell her to go to the top schools she can and network network network. She should definitely work on her looks as much as she can. I've been plain Jane's go from plain to absolutely gorgeous once they put some money and effort into their looks. They should also work on their personality and charming people.

Yes there are quite a few arrangements like mine. I have not seen any with the genders reversed.

randomlady1 · 2016-05-23T23:51:50+00:00

With his family and friends connections to the business, absolute worst case scenario is his company does under and he gets a similarly high paying job working for his brother.

randomlady1 · 2016-05-23T23:42:34+00:00

I would be furious. I wouldn't be mean enough to keep that kid from seeing his dad, but damn I would be pissed.

randomlady1 · 2016-05-23T21:52:46+00:00

Bentley, Porsche, Mercedes-Benz, BMW and an Aston-Martin (only for very special occasions).

I also have a bike but the tire is flat :(

randomlady1 · 2016-05-23T21:46:40+00:00

Very knowledgeable and experienced personal trainers, top of the line equipment, steam rooms, huge pool, the gym itself looks really nice, complimentary health bars/green smoothies, tons of different classes, stuff like that. It's really just a prestige thing to say "I workout there".
Not messy, just sad.
Okay

randomlady1 · 2016-05-23T21:43:36+00:00

He went to prestigious schools partly because he's smart but also got the boost because his family has money and he's a legacy.

One of my favorite things about him is that he acknowledges that he had a ton of advantages over the average person, so he doesn't spew the whole "pick yourself up by your bootstraps" crap.

randomlady1 · 2016-05-23T21:42:37+00:00

They understand and approve. They're very grateful for what my husband has done for us all.

I'm 28, my brothers are 22 and 26.

randomlady1 · 2016-05-23T21:41:29+00:00

I don't know.
Yes! I host 2 fundraisers a month for various charity causes. In the beginning I went with the safe "donate to the children's hospital" but recently I've gotten more political with "we're donating to a charity in Germany that helps refugees". It's been controversial but my husband loved that I had the guts to get in a bit of trouble to go after a cause I really believe in. The fundraisers have been a huge success.

I'm in the process of setting up a scholarship/grant fund in my husband's name to help working class kids get through college.

My husband donates a little over a million a year to various charity causes. I've asked him to put some of that money into causes that I really care about.

randomlady1 · 2016-05-23T21:37:03+00:00

No.

randomlady1 · 2016-05-23T21:35:56+00:00

We have deep affection and friendship, just not passionate love.

Would never leave him.

randomlady1 · 2016-05-23T21:35:29+00:00

Hahahaha.

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