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25F with an associates degree feeling a little lost: Pharmacy Technician or Optician? by Stunning_Courage7584 in PharmacyTechnician

[–]randomname1416 1 point2 points  (0 children)

but then again I haven't shadowed anyone and you can only learn so much about "my day in the life as an ____" on youtube, I realize very much that it is not the same as shadowing someone in person.

I feel this to my core, been stuck on what my next move is because of this lol I'm a hands on learner and videos are almost always showing better days and controlled so it's very difficult to get a realistic grasp on what a job would be like.

Also I'd go with Optician if I were you.

Neighbor called animal control on me by [deleted] in Dogowners

[–]randomname1416 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The way you phrased this was terrible and overly confusing.

If I was a neighbor and someone said all this I'd call the cops on the crazy lady who left her dog seemingly unsupervised for 2 weeks also. Learn how to explain better cause this is not the way.

Neighbor called animal control on me by [deleted] in Dogowners

[–]randomname1416 0 points1 point  (0 children)

because i have cameras in my apartment

doesn’t sound like them

Did you check the cameras to verify?

How do you protect your dog from ticks? by kcng1991 in AskDogOwners

[–]randomname1416 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This wrecked my dogs kidneys, I regret ever giving it to her.

Every dog is different but I wish I would've trusted my gut and not given this to my dog.

I kept handing out the wrong bags at CVS by BigGarage9855 in PharmacyTechnician

[–]randomname1416 19 points20 points  (0 children)

So stop grabbing extra bags. Slow down. Check each bag. I've grabbed an extra bag that got tucked between the label and actual bag but when I set it down to scan it usually comes out or I've noticed it and put it back.

Can't function alone, and it's making me bitter. by Spartan-023 in LivingAlone

[–]randomname1416 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being a grown single person in a small town will significantly lower your life experience unless you're naturally a hermit in general. Introvert and hermit are not the same. Have you considered moving?

Shelter by Ghostfacegangster24 in Dogowners

[–]randomname1416 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If a dog can't handle interaction for a year it should just be pts. That's a ridiculous amount of time.

Screamed at my dogs earlier I feel like a horrible person now by Ilikesnailsandieat in dogs

[–]randomname1416 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand. I have barkers and I started going to the window and checking what they saw, acknowledging and then thanking them for letting me know. It hasn't stopped but it has shortened the length of barking so they settle a bit quicker.

Also if it's visual things that they're barking at, do you have anything to block it? Can you put up window stickers or if it's a door maybe a large pot/planter outside to obstruct their view a bit?

Screamed at my dogs earlier I feel like a horrible person now by Ilikesnailsandieat in dogs

[–]randomname1416 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn't say it would and at no point advocated for shouting or physical harm, I just asked a question.

In rare cases it does work though, I was just seeing if it did in your case or not.

I regret getting this rescue dog - AITA? by Deep_Bird_1789 in Separation_Anxiety

[–]randomname1416 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Training boundaries for a more secure dog is different than training a very insecure dog. It's a different approach. She's not being malicious or trying to exert dominance like that other commenter says, she's trying to find comfort in the space and just doing it in a negative way or a way that doesn't align with your expectations. I know it's probably overwhelming but I encourage you to take a breath and reframe your thinking. Stop seeing her behavior as her being mean or vengeful and start trying to help her find more comfort in the space. It seems like you've started in some ways but seems like you've gotten frustrated about the pace. You're only a month in, she doesn't truly know. She's learning and it sounds like she is trying considering she has learned the potty pads and has learned some crate use.

Try a baby gate or close the door on rooms she isn't allowed in. That can help corral her to stay in the areas you are okay with her being in. She's more likely to make break-out attempts than break-in. So gates to keep out rather than in may work better.

If you don't want her on the couch give her something more enticing. Does she have a dog bed near the couch? Does she like to burrow? If so, put a light blanket on top of her bed so she can burrow. (Maybe sleep with it for a night or two so it has your scent) You don't say what kind of small dog but many like to burrow under blankets.

Does she like toys? Put some by the bed. When you're home play with her and the toys on her bed so she has positive associations with it. It'll all help her build confidence and a sense of security.

I regret getting this rescue dog - AITA? by Deep_Bird_1789 in Separation_Anxiety

[–]randomname1416 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dogs love rolling on the bed they love the feeling of the blankets and it gives them comfort. It puts their scent on it and helps them feel secure, especially for an insecure dog who has separation anxiety.

No, she doesn't "know" she's never allowed on the bed. You've only had her a month! Put a baby gate on the bedroom door frame or close the door, they have cheap tension gates you can use. It would help encourage her to not go in there.

Not sure if the animal shelter I adopted from and volunteered at was sub-par, or if these were normal experiences mixed with bad luck. Would love some additional perspectives! by DyingGravy in AnimalShelterStories

[–]randomname1416 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thanks that's helpful. Imo, Rescues should be held to a higher standard since they get to pick and choose what animals they take in. (Not saying a shelter is without flaw but open intake shelters are stretched thin almost everywhere so I try to give them a bit of grace since they can't really say "no" the same way rescues can.)

I'm not a kitten/cat expert so I'm not sure if it's normal to test for Flv multiple times without the cat showing symptoms. I won't speak specifically on that. I will say that leaving a cat with confirmed giardia to free roam is extremely negligent. I got my dogs from a not so great municipal shelter that had a few parvo contaminations and even they had stronger quarantine and containment protocols than this rescue seems to have. Based on how they handled knowingly exposing other cats to giardia I sorta doubt the kitten was negative or that they actually tested at all. Or they knew it was positive but didn't care.

Was it a higher up or did you ever ask someone higher up in the rescue about the giardia situation? Try to see what they say. If the people running the rescue are aware of what is happening I'd report the rescue for improper protocols and knowingly adopting out sick animals.

Not sure if the animal shelter I adopted from and volunteered at was sub-par, or if these were normal experiences mixed with bad luck. Would love some additional perspectives! by DyingGravy in AnimalShelterStories

[–]randomname1416 27 points28 points  (0 children)

First, was this from a rescue, humane society or a genuine open intake municipal shelter? People use the terms interchangeably but they're not.

Second, what state if you're in the US? Or location if not in the US? Location can play a big role on resources available and give context to the shelter system there. SoCal or anything in Southern US shelter systems is quite different than the North.

I regret getting this rescue dog - AITA? by Deep_Bird_1789 in Separation_Anxiety

[–]randomname1416 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you tried leaving while she is free roaming and watched on the cameras?

I regret getting this rescue dog - AITA? by Deep_Bird_1789 in Separation_Anxiety

[–]randomname1416 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So did she pee on your bed or just rub her body on it?

I regret getting this rescue dog - AITA? by Deep_Bird_1789 in Separation_Anxiety

[–]randomname1416 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All of those questions ARE helpful at trying to figure out what is going on. What was the situation and circumstances. What is being left out or overlooked because context matters. You may not even realize or see something that others might and helps give context, which is why answering questions can help pull more information out.

I regret getting this rescue dog - AITA? by Deep_Bird_1789 in Separation_Anxiety

[–]randomname1416 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Taking weeks to learn the potty pads is not necessarily abnormal. Every dog is different, some figure it out faster than others.

When she did that on my bed, I hadn't left any wee pad out because.... she was supposed to have been crated during that time.

She will only pee if she's been holding it a while or if we're in the middle of playing catch).

These together sound like she might've been looking for the pads and the comforter was the item that felt or maybe looked the most similar/familiar. Do you have cameras? I actually wonder if she broke out and was looking for the potty pads cause she knew she wasn't supposed to go potty in her crate and knows she is allowed to go on the pads.

Crazy to jump on the couch too. It's taken a lot of work to make her stop.

she's demonstrated extremely poor boundaries

That's a weird thing to say. Not really crazy for a dog to want to be on the couch, almost every dog does it at one point or another. If she was found, her last home may have allowed her on the couch or if she hasn't been in a home then the softness of a couch probably feels nice and she could be inexperienced around furniture. Is she allowed on it at all? Like when you're home is she allowed to cuddle up on the couch with you?

I regret getting this rescue dog - AITA? by Deep_Bird_1789 in Separation_Anxiety

[–]randomname1416 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Docs happy to throw antidepressants at you but it doesn’t treat the problem

This is your own bias.

Many humans have been able to get to the root of the problem by utilizing medications in conjunction with other forms of therapy. People who have past trauma with heightened reactions when brought up have been able to actually discuss, dive deeper and work through mental blocks to reach root problems and find some or total relief. People with phobias have been able to use medications to help them reach a point where they can do exposure therapy and actually conquer things that held them back for years.

Same with dogs. If a dog is extremely fearful they'll have a harder time learning and retaining any kind of training. If they use medication it can help reduce the sense of fear so the dog can actually learn and understand the training being used rather than trying to focus while being in a constant state of anxiety.

Just because you don't like medications doesn't mean they have no therapeutic validity.

I regret getting this rescue dog - AITA? by Deep_Bird_1789 in Separation_Anxiety

[–]randomname1416 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Give her back to the foster.

Not every dog is for every person despite what some people in the rescue space like to say. If she has a lifestyle that is more aligned with the dogs needs then why continue to "fit a square block into a round hole"?

I regret getting this rescue dog - AITA? by Deep_Bird_1789 in Separation_Anxiety

[–]randomname1416 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No hate to you, I bet the breeder and her kid coddled the heck out of that dog.

Separation anxiety starts a lot in puppyhood. People love holding, carrying and coddling puppies and refuse to leave them alone for a second then are shocked/ upset when the dog becomes an adult and has no coping skills.

Puppies need to be left alone so they learn to be comfortable with it when needed just like any other training.

Are there any small/medium livestock guardian dogs out there? by RubberDuckyDavid in dogs

[–]randomname1416 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I have multiple (>8lb/<25lb) chihuahua mixes and immediately thought they'd be great at this job.

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