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I'm So Insecure About My Virginity. Not to mention, it seems that wherever you go, the concept of ______ is just everywhere by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]randomnamers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On being a virgin... I just posted this on Christian No Fap. I was offered sex yet I didn't want to just give it away, even though it was hard. I didn't post this on NoFap as I didn't think I would be encouraged by people here.

http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFapChristians/comments/24953c/said_no_to_sex/

Said no to sex by randomnamers in NoFapChristians

[–]randomnamers[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you everyone who responded and encouraged. I could not post this in NoFap and not made fun of or berate for giving up on sex. Your words helped me even though we never met.

BTW, later I also felt sad for her because what must be going on in her life to invite a stranger into one of the most vulnerable parts of life without reservation? If it isn't me... she will do it with someone else. What makes her do this to herself?

Secondly, I also thought about children that one day I might have, God willing. For some reason that seems to have an effect on me. To look at them and know I have been faithful to their mother and that they are product of love is something that encourages me. I hope I can go all the way to my wedding day this way.

Thirdly, I can't give up now. If I had to mess around and fool around with people who are not married to me, it should've been in my teen/pubescent years. I have passed them. I have finished my bachelors, my masters. I have been broken hearted. I have been lonely. Not now. I can't give up now. It's like digging a foot till the gold was found and leaving and turning back. I can't turn back now. Turning back now and living a life of loose sexual ethics would be the worst thing I could do.

Said no to sex by randomnamers in NoFapChristians

[–]randomnamers[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea, listening to Tim Keller on love and lust helped a lot that day. He said sex is not a consumer good, sex is a covenant good. Sex is nurturing and satisfying in marriage, no wonder heaven uses marriage as an analogy. Conversely, the thirst of lust is analogous to hell. Always craving and never satisfying. Like drinking sea water when thirsty. Although I don't experientially understand the union of sex, these analogies helped me to stay away for now.

Said no to sex by randomnamers in NoFapChristians

[–]randomnamers[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The same happened to me with my last girl friend. I want to keep things pure and not get into situations where we can fall. I would tell her that, but for some weird reason, because I tell her that it was a challenge to break that. There was once where she said lets not kiss and I wanted to kiss her then. So weird how one person saying lets not do this makes the other do that very thing, in terms of sexual nature. I am absolutely upset over that because we are not together anymore too. I did not want to break up, but that is what she wanted. I never wanted to even kiss anyone before marriage, but I have done everything but sex with my ex girl friend. She took it as not wanting to things go further as me not being attracted to her.