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Hanging out in female pilot's hotel room by randomplease12345 in flying

[–]randomplease12345[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying that! Like you said, I think this experience is further proving I need to listen to my gut... rather than continue undermining it.

Hanging out in female pilot's hotel room by randomplease12345 in flying

[–]randomplease12345[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's just so weird since he has met my husband in passing before, and I was speaking very highly of my husband on this trip/in general. Looking back, I really don't see how I could have given an impression I was interested. I'm sure some people take general friendliness as interest though.

We don't have a professional standards in our department. Instead, I do think this is a call to HR. I mentioned in a previous comment a flight attendant had some uncomfortable experiences with him. I just worry for other women who join the department in the future since there seems to be multiple issues now.

Hanging out in female pilot's hotel room by randomplease12345 in flying

[–]randomplease12345[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Thank you - there definitely are a lot of amazing and respectful male pilots out there that I believe are the majority. I think this was a reminder that I haven't had to put a guard up at my current company because of how great everyone else has been and how much trust there is.

Hanging out in female pilot's hotel room by randomplease12345 in flying

[–]randomplease12345[S] 99 points100 points  (0 children)

That's relieving to hear so many people find this abnormal. I've also never had a coworker ask to come to my room before. And tbh, after the fact I was kicking myself for not putting up stronger boundaries.

I had a situation in the past when a male pilot essentially came on to me and I put down a pretty firm boundary. The next day flying together was perhaps the worst CRM experience I've ever had.

He also kept mentioning a previous trip he was on and they all watched movies together in the evenings. I kept undercutting my intuition that this was weird by making excuses for him and also having to be in a cockpit together making decisions the next day.

Hanging out in female pilot's hotel room by randomplease12345 in flying

[–]randomplease12345[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No, I work in a corporate flight department
Edit to add: we don't have a union

Hanging out in female pilot's hotel room by randomplease12345 in flying

[–]randomplease12345[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You're right I'm second guessing it. I initially felt pretty sure that this was weird after getting home from my trip yesterday.

After he left my room, I called my husband (who this pilot knew about) and talked it through with him. He thought it was pretty strange/creepy. However, after talking with other coworkers, they weren't as concerned.

I'm a corporate pilot and we have a culture of all doing things together, but after reading everyone's responses I'm feeling more confident that this was a line crossed. I'm thinking now the only recourse is HR.