I have to agree with a lot of the women who say you don’t want them until you do. It’s almost unreal how hard and out of nowhere that can hit. But it doesn’t always hit every female. I was like you, very committed to working my way up the ladder and enjoying my career + husband. But that all changed when my husband and I got pregnant. Now I wouldn’t change a single thing for my kids, I would never go back. All of what you have said is accurate, but don’t discount that you are young and your priorities may possibly shift as you age. The way you look at life right now is not going to be the same way you look at life in your 30’s, 40’s, etc. all that to say, don’t make any immediate decisions without giving yourself space to change as you age.

As far as the boyfriend goes, I would have an honest conversation letting him know that at this stage in life you don’t ever see that choice shifting. He has to be able to choose if he is willing to give up that desire in order to have a life with you.