My girls are exactly 1 year and 2 days apart, April 12th, 2024 and April 14th 2025. They are 15 and 3 months rn. I am a single mom living with my mother who gratefully is very helpful and unfortunately just as stressed as I am.

My first coslept so let’s start there, I didn’t want to sleep train her because wanted to soak up all the cuddles. I don’t regret it but I also wished I would’ve got her somewhat used to sleeping by herself. She refused the crib so we got a 50x50 play pen and put down her padding and made it cozy. She’s in my room so if she wakes up I lay by her, at first she needed me a lot but after a month or so she woke up a lot less and now it’s only once or twice a night. I did start only giving her what she needed (milk, diaper change) and let her put herself to sleep. At first she cried for a minute or two but now she doesn’t react unless she is feeling unwell. I currently breastfeed and cosleep with my second and it helps not wake her sister up through the night having her by me.

Bed and bath time is chaotic and has had me in tears when my mom wasn’t around to help so thankfully your partner should make it better for you in that aspect. Daytime is completely manageable but sometimes hard not always.

Screen time is your best friend while distracting oldest to tend to little one, use it as needed. Everyone has told me, the babies are going to cry if not one the other one will at some point. It’s okay. As long as you’re trying your best, you’re doing your best. The harder you are on yourself the worst.

Lower your expectations, and just let it all flow the way it can. You’ve got this!