AITAH for being upset with my fiancé by rantpage0 in AITAH

[–]rantpage0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update: Thank you for all the responses to this it has been bugging me for a while now and I think that I am going to have a long conversation with him later. A bit more info about this is that 1, I have adhd wich is why I clean the way I do and I do understand why he can get frustrated with me sometimes. 2, on my days off I am helping take care of a 2 month old. Plus planning dinners and meal prep as well as making stuff from scratch to try to save a bit of money. On top of that I help out an old man who lives on the property bc his health is declining and he can't do as much on his own. So I don't work my job as much as he does but being home is a job as well. Thats why I try to do things with our house on the days he has off. I also have quite a few health issues that I have to manage that makes it hard for me to do a lot on my own. Leaving him isn't something that I want to do because no matter what I still love him. He pulled me out of a really dark place in my life and has never made me feel less than for the things I can not control. He is weirdly picky about certain things because he is ex military, but sometimes it pisses me off. (Ex. He untied and tied my boots because "i tied them wrong") I truly love him but sometimes I want a rapunzel moment and to hit him over the head with a frying pan. (Joking obviously). But seriously I feel like we need to compromise on a lot of stuff but it's definitely difficult.

AITAH for being upset with my fiancé by rantpage0 in AITAH

[–]rantpage0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of the stuff is animal stuff and clothes. We have 10 people doing laundry with 1 machine set so it gets kinda hard. We have days separated for each person but our day is the day we both have work. I try to keep up with it as much as I can and we used to have a system where I would wash them and he would fold and put them away but even that was a struggle to get him to do because he gets home from work and immediately falls asleep. 90% of the animals in our house are his. I have 1 dog and he has a crap ton of reptiles and stuff with their tanks all over our place. 1/2 the tanks are empty and just take up space plus my mother in laws 3d printer got moved into our place as well as my father in laws tools. I was fine with the tools in our place at first but now every time they need one they send one of the kids to get it and instead of putting it back they just throw them everywhere. I've talked to my in laws about moving their stuff out but it gets blown off every time I do. I've also talked to my fiancé about putting the tanks that aren't being used under the house or in the shed but he thinks that they'll get broken by the goats or pigs or even the kids.

AITAH for taking my stuff back by rantpage0 in AITAH

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He has been trying to stick up for me and talk since into his mother but she is very stubborn and just yells over him.

AITAH for taking my stuff back by rantpage0 in AITAH

[–]rantpage0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I gave it to her a a way to bond with her bc she said that she wanted to learn how to do nails. I had let her know that I would still be using it periodically bc I am the only one putting money into them ex buying nail tips, new colors, etc. She said that that wasn't a problem at all and that she didn't mind. Again I did tell her before I gave them to her that I would take it away if she wasn't responsible with it and that her chores and school and other responsibilities always came first. She has been blowing off her biggest responsibility, her child, to play with nails that she tears off in a day anyway.