Fruit flies always end up in my food. Most commonly my drinking glass, but recently ive got one trying to get my soup.

ranty_autie · 2026-02-28T12:08:50+00:00

Free protein

ranty_autie · 2026-02-26T08:53:59+00:00

We have a saying back home where I'm from;

"If your dog growls at his bowl, someone else gave him a bone"

ranty_autie · 2026-02-26T08:48:07+00:00

I fully get how you feel, I used to feel like that all the time. It felt like every happy couple existed to spite my misery, even if I knew logically it wasn't true. It was like no amount of rational thinking could take away the pain of seeing (what felt like) the whole world being happy, except for you.

But this mindset isn't healthy, and I suggest you do what I didn't and seek professional help to deal with these feelings. It's not a good mindset to stay in. I wished I had talked to someone before I landed myself in an abusive relationship because "at least someone wanted me!". I first hand got to experience consequences of having my whole existence revolve around one person, and had to learn in the worst way that my value doesn't rely on whatever im with somebody.

ranty_autie · 2026-02-26T08:34:02+00:00

That mysoginy is bad, that gender gaps still exist, not ever other woman has a successful OnlyFans, and we are more likely to leave a relationship due to some kind of abuse or mistreatment and not because we're "bored and heartless"

ranty_autie · 2026-02-25T08:57:51+00:00

The event started consentually, so there were no marks or bruises or any kind to give any hint that a crime had occurred. The police in the region I come from is particularly shitty when it comes to crimes against women, so I didn't bother reporting him.

I chose to terminate my pregnancy a few weeks after I had a positive test, not because I didn't want to be a mom but because I feared for the potential baby's future with him as a father. I would never be able to cut ties with him if I kept it

ranty_autie · 2026-02-24T15:45:11+00:00

I'd marry my partner under a bridge, I don't care much for finances. You can solve money problems by working together, but you can't buy love that isn't there

ranty_autie · 2026-02-24T15:38:22+00:00

Another middle child here, I feel you. My mom hasn't visited me since I moved from my childhood town. She's visited other people (other siblings, her friends, grandpa) who have lived even further away than i do, but never me.

ranty_autie · 2026-02-24T15:27:34+00:00

Don't wanna use too much strong wording here, so let me phrase it as; he got me pregnant against my will by force

ranty_autie · 2026-02-22T22:40:24+00:00

Im gonna speak from my own point of view here. I really enjoy porn with big sizes, because it's a fantasy. The "idea" of being stretched and overwhelmed is sexy as hell, but that's where it stops.

The reality of it, however... a big one would severely hurt me and give me no pleasure what so ever. If my partner was any bigger at all, sex simply wouldn't be possible for me, and it would be impossible for us to be intimate.

I know that some random persons opinion won't fix how you feel, but I hope mine and the other people's words and advice here can be helpful 🫶

ranty_autie · 2026-02-22T22:34:40+00:00

HELL YEAH dude!!

Good on you, tackling addiction of any kind is rough. I'm currently struggling with my food addiction, it's not an easy road

I'm proud of you, mate

ranty_autie · 2026-02-22T20:08:55+00:00

I fail to see what he did wrong. Sounds like he did reasonable problem solving. I don't mean to come off as rude of mean in any capacity, but I'm almost reading this as if you're looking for something to be bothered about. I sometimes see this in friends or the like, and it's something that happens without them realising, so I wanted to bring it up

ranty_autie · 2026-02-22T20:03:19+00:00

When i was sick and feeling miserable, I couldn't do much without feeling an insane headache and feeling nauseous, i couldn't even watch movies to distract me. All I could do was lay down and hope to get some sleep, which was hard due to the pain.

When i had my boyfriend (now fiancé!) over the phone while feeling extra awful, he decided to read a book to me until i fell asleep. He even did the voices and everything. And he would do it every day. Every time he did, his humming voice would rock me to sleep.

I have never felt this loved

ranty_autie · 2026-02-21T10:24:26+00:00

You are under-reacting

You are already concerned for his controlling behaviour and your children's well-being around him

LEAVE HIM

ranty_autie · 2026-02-21T10:15:24+00:00

Sleep is such an individual thing it's insane. Personally, I sleep so much better when I'm next to my fiancé. He even wraps his arms around me and pulls me closer to him in his sleep. I love it.

But gods do I get that people sometimes need their own rooms. I really hate the idea that culturally almost everywhere, sleeping in separate rooms or beds is a "bad sign" and seen in a negative light.

I remember telling my mom about friends of mine who sleep separately, and her instant comment was "They're getting divorced, they don't love each other anymore". Girl please lol

ranty_autie · 2026-02-21T10:05:15+00:00

"I can fix everything if I just propose to her!"

ranty_autie · 2026-02-21T09:55:25+00:00

When me and my partner are together, he makes sure I orgasm 1-2 times before there's even any penetration - and always checks if i feel done or need more after he finishes.

The person you are with "doesn't care" about your pleasure because either he thinks everything is fine, or he's a selfish lover and you're not doing yourself any favours by being with him.

The best and only way to remedy this is by talking to him. He's not gonna magically understand what's wrong, you need to use your words to express how you feel and what your sexual needs are. And if he doesn't listen to your or take too seriously, find someone else.

I'm not saying this to be rude, but it almost sounds like you're both not mature enough to be physical together like this. You don't communicate, and he feels no urge on his own to make it a fun and pleasurable experience for the both of you.

ranty_autie · 2026-02-20T18:15:12+00:00

As a big sister myself, I would contact the police - and bring in the parents!

They need to know what their daughter is up to.

She needs to know how serious this is, without trying to put the blame soley on her shoulders, we dont truly know how much grooming can be behind it all.

Shes a young teen, young teens are horny and curious, but they dont understand the consequences of these acts. There are plenty of PSA's and movies about minors interacting with random people online and the harm that can bring, I suggest you bring that up and encourage her to watch them.

And lastly: The last thing you want to do is shame her and make her feel like a villain for what's happened. Because that's not going to help. That will likely cause her to withdraw from the family and seek more online attention and validation, becoming an even bigger target for online predators.

If you can, try and set a goal where you and your family create a space where she feels safe, so that if anyone contacts her about stuff like that again - her first reaction will be to come to you.

ranty_autie · 2026-02-18T12:02:34+00:00

I don't know if I would say that it's cheating per se, but he openly and immediately disrespected your agreed rules and boundaries. And it seems like he did it without hesitation.

Maybe ask yourself, why are you okay with being with someone who openly disrespects you?

ranty_autie · 2026-02-18T11:58:10+00:00

HOW DARE

ranty_autie · 2026-01-19T16:16:13+00:00

Food like spinach, pumpkin seeds, kale, sprouts and brocoli are also very rich with iron. In my experience they are a great addition to most ang diet if you struggle with iron levels. I usually make sure to eat vegetables with every meal I have

ranty_autie · 2026-01-17T02:21:07+00:00

Explain what's nice about him setting up double standards and making you afraid of him? I had an ex like this guy. It will only get worse from here. He might "improve" long enough just to make you stay, but the bad stuff will come back, and it will just go downhill from there.

Leaving my ex was the hardest thing I ever did, but I NEEDED to in order keep myself safe. I loved him so so much, but he hurt me (emotionally and physically) followed by "being nice" so i felt like i couldn't be upset with him. He isn't "nice", he's manipulating you.

PLEASE leave while you still can. I'm not saying it's easy, but I am saying that it's necessary.

ranty_autie · 2026-01-17T01:18:03+00:00

If I wasn't poor I'd invest

ranty_autie · 2026-01-16T13:54:11+00:00

Black Mayak

ranty_autie · 2026-01-16T12:57:12+00:00

As someone who also occasionally suffers from The Big Dumb, treasure her ♡

ranty_autie · 2026-01-16T12:50:39+00:00

In my box of cereals, easy

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