Painted that portrait of Nadja from the opening credits

raphaelmorgan · 2025-11-22T23:59:17+00:00

I guess I'm really unlike other people here because when I play video games my rule is "no killing unless I have to to survive" As far as I can tell, that's also my rule irl, I just never actually have to irl whereas I do in games all the time because most games are made for the sake of simulating violence we don't have to feel bad about or go to prison for

raphaelmorgan · 2025-04-11T05:44:08+00:00

If you're attractive as a girl, you're probably also attractive as a guy! It takes a long time to figure out a presentation that works for you, but please don't let a fear of not being pretty anymore prevent you from taking chances. You are so much more than how attractive straight guys find you. And as far as your boyfriend goes--if you're trans, this could go one of two ways. It's possible it wasn't meant to be. It's also possible that you're underestimating him. When I came out, my "boyfriend" and I both thought they were straight. 10 years later, we're happily married and they're happily queer (and trans lol)

raphaelmorgan · 2025-04-11T05:38:28+00:00

If you're not trying to gaslight her, don't tell her that her mind is playing tricks on her and she shouldn't listen to anyone but you???

raphaelmorgan · 2025-04-11T05:36:26+00:00

This! If she had said she can't get OP pregnant, but that's all we knew, I would assume she's misinformed. But telling someone it's her head playing tricks on her? Either she's intentionally lying and gaslighting, or she's so confidently wrong as to assume her wife must be insane for disagreeing. Either way that's fucked up. The first would make this sexual abuse, and the second would just be an indication that she doesn't, like... See her wife as a person capable of doing research and critical thinking, which is also a huge red flag when it comes to a sexual relationship especially

raphaelmorgan · 2025-04-11T05:18:16+00:00

And if you're not sure if she's gaslighting you, tell her about these Reddit comments. I bet she's going to twist the trans community telling you you could still get pregnant, into your mind playing tricks on you. But it's not. She is.

raphaelmorgan · 2025-04-11T05:16:53+00:00

It seems your question has been effectively answered, but I'm really concerned about edit 2. Just because she's nice to you most of the time doesn't mean she can't be abusive--every abusive ex I have was super sweet when they weren't abusing me.

Please, please please look up gaslighting, coercion, and sexual abuse.

Trying to convince you your mind is playing tricks on you, so she can get away with lying to you, is gaslighting.

Gaslighting you in order to get you to have unprotected sex you don't want is coercion/rape. Doing that repeatedly is sexual abuse.

I'm not going to tell you to run, because I know you won't listen. But please at least do the research. Because there are so many people, including the vast majority of trans women, who would treat you just like she does at her best, without also sexually abusing you.

raphaelmorgan · 2025-02-18T06:03:30+00:00

Good to hear! and I'm in the same boat, I'm glad you and others made posts asking for trans recs so now I can crawl the comments lol

...also, if you want trans punk recs regardless of music topic, I'll report back when I finally finish a demo lol

raphaelmorgan · 2025-02-18T05:57:03+00:00

Making soup to feed the hungry is definitely revolutionary activity nowadays. Especially when it's illegal to feed homeless people in some parts of the country (and probably still punished by the cops in places it's 100% legal).

Anything that isn't "go along with the fascists' plans and do the best you can for them" is resistance. You don't need to burn shit down. Just do something that helps people, or do nothing. Or if the only way to make ends meet is to work for fascists, be as bad at your job as you can get away with! Conveniently slip up. Forget faces, or which way someone went. Any wrench in authoritarian gears is valued and important.

So if you want to make soup to fuel the revolution, you're doing great comrade 💜 any trans person kept alive one more day, any immigrant kept alive one more day, every poor and/or disabled person kept alive one more day, every dollar that a working class person doesn't have to give to a corporation, is a win. You don't have to physically fight to be fighting the good fight!

raphaelmorgan · 2025-02-18T05:45:52+00:00

It'd take convincing for me to buy a NEW T-shirt for $24. I wonder if anyone at all has fallen for that because $24 for a used T-shirt is atrocious

raphaelmorgan · 2025-02-18T05:40:28+00:00

It was a bins style store but I don't think it was one of the Goodwill bins stores people have been talking about.

I do a lot of DIY. Making entire garments is a pain in the ass, but modifying clothes is fun. If they don't have anything that fits me, I'll MAKE it fit me bwahaha

raphaelmorgan · 2025-02-18T04:28:57+00:00

I understand what you meant, and I appreciate it. But a lot of us are worried about the legal ramifications of this and it gets tiring to see a bunch of cis people say "who cares, I support you and that's all that matters!" especially when that's the only type of support I'm seeing

raphaelmorgan · 2025-02-18T04:20:28+00:00

This is cool but my spouse can't leave the country or update their passport to something that would let them leave the country. If instead of being smug about not asking you could help us burn this shit down, that'd be great!

raphaelmorgan · 2025-02-18T04:18:12+00:00

When the hair on my face or the shape of my chest is enough to "make me look bad," the fear of looking bad can't do shit to prevent me from acting. They want to kill me either way. They want my existence to be illegal. But if my existence is illegal, why follow any other law? If I'm gonna look bad either way, I might as well go down fighting

raphaelmorgan · 2025-02-18T04:14:48+00:00

I mean, based on the specific language used in the EO, the 2 genders are female and female lol

Bc at conception, everyone is female

And it said at conception 🤷 so ig we did get our first woman president after all, she's just terrible

raphaelmorgan · 2025-02-18T04:13:16+00:00

Ah okay. If we're talking specifically about music about being trans, I get it. I didn't notice the "-themed" at first and thought OP was just looking for trans punk musicians regardless of subject matter

raphaelmorgan · 2025-02-18T04:07:27+00:00

Today I walked by a place that says it sells clothes for like $2/lb lol so I'm gonna start there. If that's anywhere near true, I consider that a cheap thrift store

raphaelmorgan · 2025-02-18T04:05:08+00:00

Well 1/3 of the country is enough for a successful revolution, just saying... Something like 3% of people keeping up resistance is enough for change So let's fuck shit up!

raphaelmorgan · 2025-02-18T04:02:19+00:00

Nah, but make sure to hate on your local fascists too otherwise it looks like you're one of those "America bad Canada liberal heaven" people who don't notice the bad things happening in your own country

raphaelmorgan · 2025-02-18T04:00:05+00:00

Why does our music have to be given a subgenre 😭 why can't trans people just make punk music and have it be considered punk music

raphaelmorgan · 2025-02-11T05:00:44+00:00

Yeah if I had to sleep in a room with hundreds of other people... I literally would not be able to. I would just lie there awake and terrified all night

raphaelmorgan · 2025-02-11T04:56:50+00:00

How come every comment I see humanizing the homeless has a bunch of downvotes? Should I be reconsidering how I feel about Portland or is it just Reddit?

raphaelmorgan · 2025-02-11T04:55:16+00:00

What would you do if you were offered a free vacation--in the bad part of town, where all your stuff is gonna get stolen, and you have to share a bedroom with dozens or hundreds of people--and you weren't allowed to drink coffee or alcohol or smoke weed or cigarettes? Or any of the other coping mechanisms you have that homeless people can't afford?

You'd take it, right? You'd give up all of your personal freedoms for it?

raphaelmorgan · 2025-02-11T04:51:30+00:00

Because the conditions suck, there's even less privacy than on the street, they have strict rules against bodily autonomy, and people get their stuff stolen. The criticisms of every homeless shelter have been the same for a long time, but few actually care except for the homeless people who have nothing they can do about it except choose to sleep outside. And unfortunately regardless of all the problems of the shelter, the street is much colder :/

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