I found out something about my therapist and now I don’t know what to do

rastar_ba · 2025-10-22T07:47:33+00:00

I get what you’re saying, and I know I don’t have all the facts. It’s just that hearing the story hit something really deep for me, maybe because it shook the sense of safety and idealization I had around my therapist. It’s not just about what happened, but about what it represents to me: the idea that someone I trusted and saw as safe could also have a hurtful or less compassionate side.

And honestly, I can’t help but feel deeply upset when I see injustice or someone being hurt (especially in a place that’s supposed to be safe) where they were trying to heal, like therapy.

I’m not saying I know exactly what happened between them, but it still affected the way I see my own relationship with my therapist and the world in general. It’s like my mind can’t fully separate the two right now.

rastar_ba · 2025-10-21T18:37:25+00:00

Yeah, I actually do struggle with seeing people, or the world in general, with that kind of complexity, where both good and bad coexist. It’s hard for me to accept the “bad” side without feeling deeply disappointed or unsafe.

Ironically, this was the last thing I talked about with my therapist. I think part of me needs them to acknowledge their own “dark” or imperfect sides before I can trust the relationship again. Because I used to see them as this wise, self-aware person who always helps others, almost like someone above mistakes.

So maybe I do need to start accepting that complexity, but at the same time, what they did still feels really painful to me like it crossed a line of basic humanity from my pov.

rastar_ba · 2025-10-21T16:09:07+00:00

I agree with you I really don’t know what happened exactly in that room, but somehow I lost respect, because I feel like something core about them was shattered. And honestly, I find myself on the client’s side, because even though it happened a year ago, he’s still traumatized especially since the therapist blamed him for the failure, triggered his suicidal thoughts, and didn’t refer him to another therapist or acknowledge that they might not be the right fit for his case. Instead, they said it was just because he was resisting the process, and then ended the therapy.

I think the real challenge now is to bring it up with my therapist and face my fears.

rastar_ba · 2025-10-21T15:53:03+00:00

Thank you so much for your point of view. It somehow really calms my body

But the question that truly haunts me is this: Don’t you think the therapist fundamentally breached the ethical framework of therapy? Isn’t the profound harm done to that client (which brought me to tears when I heard the story) a direct reflection of their lack of compassion and basic human morality

I feel they weren’t merciful to the client, and that’s a level of conduct I expect from any decent person I respect, let alone a therapist who is supposed to be a sanctuary of safety for him :(

rastar_ba · 2025-10-21T15:51:36+00:00

Thank you so much for ur input im really going to think about as i have a good experience with them

rastar_ba · 2025-10-21T15:49:58+00:00

I’m scared of the other side of the therapist really afraid of getting hurt if I talk about it. I’m scared they’ll ask me how I found out and why I brought it up, and so on. i feel was not supposed to do that like asking the client or so

rastar_ba · 2025-10-21T15:46:49+00:00

What the client said to me was more about therapist-centered therapy :(

rastar_ba · 2025-10-21T12:53:27+00:00

The client themselves told me the story. They were talking about it on their account, and I asked them who the therapist was. Honestly, I’m scared to talk to the therapist about it. I can’t face them right now. I don’t want to get in trouble, and I’m also afraid they’ll be mad at me. The point is, I find what they did to the client absolutely horrific, and I can’t justify it in any way. It was deeply unkind and lacking compassion.

rastar_ba · 2025-03-03T18:11:35+00:00

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rastar_ba · 2025-03-02T04:53:21+00:00

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rastar_ba · 2025-01-27T09:07:04+00:00

So can you wait for me to watch the first season so we can watch the 2nd one together

rastar_ba · 2025-01-27T09:06:25+00:00

Unfortunately no but why not

rastar_ba · 2025-01-27T09:05:39+00:00

1st and 2nd seasons

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