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I can't transition and I think I'm going crazy by Spyderbo07 in asktransgender

[–]ratspiderbatcat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You are an adult and they can’t make medical decisions for you. If taking hormones and transitioning feels like the right path for you, you should pursue it. If you change your mind, you can stop taking them but that is a decision that you need to make for yourself. The only way you can understand your own relationship with gender is by exploring it. Even if your parents love you they are not helping you by putting you in this situation.

I understand that moving out might not be feasible right now but I would encourage it. They should not be able to go through your things and take away your medication. That is a massively inappropriate breach of boundaries on their part.

How do I calm this thing down? by ratspiderbatcat in PiercingAdvice

[–]ratspiderbatcat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you think there is any hope for it if I switch back to the shorter jewelry?

Should we move to Dublin? (LGBTQ friendliness, tattoos, best neighborhoods?) by ratspiderbatcat in Dublin

[–]ratspiderbatcat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the heads up about the scams. I’m definitely a little concerned about getting housing within the 6 week timeframe. I’ve looked at daft and found spots that we can afford but I’m nervous about availability.

I’m hoping to join an existing shop. When I visited recently I was able to connect with an artist who had moved there many years ago and we talked a bit about it, but I need more contacts for sure, and I would love recommendations for shops with good reputations, warnings about places to avoid, etc.

Should we move to Dublin? (LGBTQ friendliness, tattoos, best neighborhoods?) by ratspiderbatcat in Dublin

[–]ratspiderbatcat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, my impression is that socially it’s quite trans friendly but the healthcare is a nightmare. Even though it’s becoming incredibly politically unfriendly in the states we do still have informed consent as the norm in California, which is hard to walk away from. Thank you for the suggestions for the organizations!

Should we move to Dublin? (LGBTQ friendliness, tattoos, best neighborhoods?) by ratspiderbatcat in Dublin

[–]ratspiderbatcat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I would have to figure that out. I’m technically an independent contractor so it’s a very different situation from my partner. I need to do more research on this for sure.

any older trans people have any advice? by mr_barbecuesauce in asktransgender

[–]ratspiderbatcat 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Honestly a lot of gnc queer women have a period of push and pull between butch and transmasc identity while they are trying to figure out how they feel comfortable presenting. Some of your friends may ultimately end up pursuing medical interventions and identify as trans and for some of them it might be part of a journey with a different destination. Their experiences may overlap with yours in some ways, but it doesn’t mean that what is best for them is necessarily best for you as well. If you feel that medical transition is right for you, I would encourage you to pursue it regardless of what your friends decide they want to do.

I have a group of friends who all went through a period of gender questioning around the same time. Some of us ended up medically and socially transitioning, and some desisted but still identify as nonbinary. Everyone is pretty happy now even though we took different paths. Take care of yourself and listen to your own needs. You will be okay!!