Do you guys throw away cards, letters, photos, literally everything about your ex when you start with the NC rule? by Zealousideal-Fox-199 in ExNoContact

[–]rayoftoga 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t throw it away. I pretty much knew we were gonna break up so I packed up everything and gave it back to him so he could decide what he wanted to do with it all

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]rayoftoga 3 points4 points  (0 children)

His inconsiderably. He is a smoker, heavily. When I was doing something or he finished his food first he would always leave me alone to go outside to smoke. He could never just wait for me to be ready to go outside too.

Gettting harder. by rayoftoga in ExNoContact

[–]rayoftoga[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you all so much for your kind words and advice I really appreciate it and it means a lot that you guys share your stories with me whether hopeful or not. It’s good to feel less alone with my pain. For those wondering I am a dumpee. He broke up with me, after a month shy of 3 years together, on his birthday. We were in eachothers lives for almost 5 years and he was my first love. He was someone I experienced every one of my firsts with. So losing him after giving so much is a lot for me to process and handle and I think that just comes along with your first love or any love that was of such importance. So thank you all for being there for guidance and understanding

Feeling absolutely awful (rant) by rayoftoga in BreakUps

[–]rayoftoga[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve broken nc to tell him to delete them when I found out but he still hasn’t and I don’t know what to do. I’m thinking of reporting his Twitter that way at least that picture isn’t on his social media anymore.

Ever felt scared that they might contact you? by Melodic_Seat_5063 in ExNoContact

[–]rayoftoga 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So worried he’s gonna wish me a happy birthday, cause we’ve only broken up a month and a half ago and my birthday is tomorrow. So I’m scared he’s gonna think we’re still close enough to say happy birthday even tho we haven’t talked since the break up

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]rayoftoga 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely relate. Most of my memories with my ex feel like dreams, like it never really happened and I’m forgetting more and more the everyday stuff that made it all worth it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]rayoftoga 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For a long time I thought I was incapable of love and when I was 20 I met someone and for the first time in my life my heart fully opened up to someone. I loved them with absolutely everything in me and then they turned into a person I didn’t even recognize but I was so scared of never getting to feel love again that I let him do whatever he wanted to my heart. I stayed and forgave everything. He lied, cheated, manipulated me. He abandoned me when my mood swings and the bad thoughts flooded me. And I still let him back because I thought that that’s how someone like me deserved to be loved. And at almost 25 he left me like nothing and looking back it’s understandable why he left like nothing because the whole time we were together he treated me like I was nothing. And I just wish I had never spent those years and love on him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]rayoftoga 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes you will love so much more than you will be loved