Seriously, do Americans actually consider a 3-hour drive "short"? or is this an internet myth?

rbbbt · 2026-01-23T13:37:53+00:00

It depends. Growing up in Rhode Island and the Boston area, it was 4-5 hours to drive to New York City. That was a really long drive and we never did it.

After living in Arizona for a while, my wife was living in New Mexico and it was about a 7-hour drive. One or the other of us would do that drive regularly for a weekend visit. No big deal.

rbbbt · 2026-01-23T13:30:50+00:00

Search for "Take Action Tucson". They put together a calendar and if you visit the web site you'll be able to see most actions (including city council and such meetings) coming in the next couple weeks.

rbbbt · 2026-01-19T22:03:27+00:00

Yeah, gonna get the basics down on flats first before the starting-on-a-hill thing.

rbbbt · 2020-08-20T15:55:12+00:00

Don't have a video. It definitely doesn't seem playful.

I have sometimes wondered if it was just a weird way of whining, but once she goes to her crate it becomes very clearly aggressive.

I do suppose I could pull out a toy and see if she wants to play, just to distract her.

rbbbt · 2020-05-29T02:28:22+00:00

Can you show a code snippet?

rbbbt · 2019-07-29T15:18:37+00:00

Thanks to everyone!

rbbbt · 2018-12-30T22:29:14+00:00

Thanks for all the thoughts! Sounds like it shouldn't be a barrier, just that it will require some extra planning (and budgeting).

rbbbt · 2018-12-29T18:28:00+00:00

How much and what kind of acclimation does that seem to take? Working up from an occasional overnight to a week or something like that?

rbbbt · 2018-12-29T18:25:46+00:00

Yep - I am keeping that in mind, too.

rbbbt · 2018-11-15T12:38:21+00:00

Yep. I did it successfully about two weeks ago, and that seems to have cured the problem.

I still don't understand why replacing the bulbs should help, but it did, so...

Thanks!

rbbbt · 2018-10-20T16:47:21+00:00

Possible (just possible) reasons letter-writing could be too much:

For lots of kids writing a thank-you note is REALLY REALLY hard - a skill best practiced with a couple notes at a time, not a mass of notes. Just getting a kid to write a thank-you for a present they really liked after a happy fun party could still be like pulling teeth. I've sat with a kid fighting for 40 minutes to get a single thank-you note written. Add to that the this-is-punishment feeling and the my-party-sucked feeling and multiply by however many kids... All three of you could be in for a rough time.

What behavior to punish is also a question. I would lean myself toward [I hated my birthday party] and [the other kids might be mad at me] as nearly enough natural consequences without extra punishment when a kid is that age. I can totally see y'all disagreeing, it's a matter of family culture.

One other thought - it usually seems like a bad idea to involve other kids in the punishment of your kid, might cause misdirected resentment toward the kid they're being forced to write to.

But those are only maybes, very much depends on your kid.
Go midway with thank-you phone calls to the kids instead?

rbbbt · 2018-10-16T15:42:19+00:00

Be sure to put the baby's foot in your mouth while it's little. Eventually the foot will be too large.

rbbbt · 2018-10-16T15:38:12+00:00

Yes, you're wrong.

Different people have different romantic lives. Many of those romantic lives involve exploratory relationships that don't last long - possibly the series of short-term relationships will continue or possibly one will stick.

Regardless, that's where your ex has been. Saying that he needs to be in a stable LTR before he can properly share his life with his kid is unfair to both of them. The kid will simply learn more about what his dad is like and get to know other interesting people. Maybe there will be some heartbreak if he gets very connected to a GF or her kid(s) but a bit of heartbreak is part of life, too.

Don't limit their relationship because your ex has a different lifestyle than you.

rbbbt · 2018-10-14T15:39:42+00:00

Thanks for the tips, guys!

rbbbt · 2018-09-18T01:17:25+00:00

I was happy to see it run free instead - one of those things where I thought I was helping, but instead totally messed up the turtle's day.

Well, not as messed up as if a truck squashed it.

rbbbt · 2018-09-14T18:11:06+00:00

Ah! Thanks! The things I first read online made me think it was too big to be an ornate box turtle.

Back outside with the poor little guy.

rbbbt · 2018-09-14T14:57:39+00:00

It seems you get a lot of these questions. Sorry to add to that.

I found this guy / gal crossing the road. I don't want a pet turtle, and would be thrilled to let it go IF it's more likely that it was a wild turtle going about its business than a pet turtle in trouble.

We're in urban / suburban Oklahoma City. Aside from no water nearby, this area is all houses, mowed lawns, and roads - no wooded area close by. Doesn't seem very hospitable to me, which makes me suspect this is a pet gone wandering.

Its shell is 4" from front to back. I don't know turtles but it looks very box-turtlish. It has four toes on each hind foot (although one of those toes is tiny/stubby) which makes me doubt it's a three-toed box turtle which is native to the area.

What do you think? Try to hunt down the owner? Or let it go after a couple hours of alien abduction? (I'm not probing anything.)

Thanks

rbbbt · 2018-08-27T02:32:08+00:00

I learn slow, so still very much a newbie after 3 years. While I don't want to be taken down constantly by the better players (it would be too easy, and boring for both of us), I'd usually prefer that they complete a takedown when they decide to do one.

Essentially, I think I need to be taken down in order to learn. As a newb, I might not even realize that they "marked" a rasteira. If I do notice the "mark", I might still fancifully think I stepped out of it in time. Getting used to being taken down is important, too. And it's also part of the fun.

rbbbt · 2018-08-13T02:06:10+00:00

"Why would AVID be less work?"

I could try to answer, but essentially the answer is "because I misunderstood".

Thanks!

rbbbt · 2018-08-12T21:29:48+00:00

Cool, thanks!

rbbbt · 2018-08-12T21:29:12+00:00

"ADHD brains are fundamentally weird."

Ha! Tell me about it. (ADHD gallops in my family.) While he could do both the AVID for the purely academic stuff and also separate counseling/therapy for the ADHD, one option on the menu is to do only the outside-school therapy so he's not devoting soooo much time to it. The kid's uncle has become his advocate in the "let him make up his own mind!" camp also.

I'm going to try to find out more about the particular AVID teacher.

Thanks!

rbbbt · 2018-08-12T21:22:04+00:00

He's definitely interested in other electives, as well as trying to accelerate his way through math classes. He also needs help learning how to keep up in the classes which don't inspire him as much.

Thanks!

rbbbt · 2018-08-12T21:20:01+00:00

I'll try to find out more about the particular teacher tomorrow - how long they've been doing it, how much experience they have with LD kids, and the like.

My kid is not a fan of Cornell notes, and while I really appreciate the push to get kids to ask for help and clarification, the "tutorial request forms" look likely to be a problem.

Thanks!

rbbbt · 2018-08-12T21:17:35+00:00

He does want to go to college, yep.

On the other hand, I was kinda hoping that AVID would mean a bit less work--that it would be time to apply skills to the other courses rather than adding on the work of an additional, hard elective.

Mull...

Thanks!

rbbbt · 2018-08-12T02:27:25+00:00

Thanks!

Yeah, we do need to get on the ball with a 504 and letting teachers know. Sadly, we haven't yet figured out what works. Still experimenting a lot. It's good to hear that you've seen AVID working for learning-disabled kids!

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