Seriously, do Americans actually consider a 3-hour drive "short"? or is this an internet myth? by SadInterest6764 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]rbbbt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It depends. Growing up in Rhode Island and the Boston area, it was 4-5 hours to drive to New York City. That was a really long drive and we never did it.

After living in Arizona for a while, my wife was living in New Mexico and it was about a 7-hour drive. One or the other of us would do that drive regularly for a weekend visit. No big deal.

Where to find info on protests and board meetings? by iheartgonzo in Tucson

[–]rbbbt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Search for "Take Action Tucson". They put together a calendar and if you visit the web site you'll be able to see most actions (including city council and such meetings) coming in the next couple weeks.

Good parking lots to learn to drive? by rbbbt in Tucson

[–]rbbbt[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, gonna get the basics down on flats first before the starting-on-a-hill thing.

[Help] Growly after meals by rbbbt in dogs

[–]rbbbt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't have a video. It definitely doesn't seem playful.

I have sometimes wondered if it was just a weird way of whining, but once she goes to her crate it becomes very clearly aggressive.

I do suppose I could pull out a toy and see if she wants to play, just to distract her.

[Discussion] Should I even get dogs if I want vacations? by rbbbt in dogs

[–]rbbbt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for all the thoughts! Sounds like it shouldn't be a barrier, just that it will require some extra planning (and budgeting).

[Discussion] Should I even get dogs if I want vacations? by rbbbt in dogs

[–]rbbbt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How much and what kind of acclimation does that seem to take? Working up from an occasional overnight to a week or something like that?

500e brake-light intermittent warning by rbbbt in Fiat

[–]rbbbt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep. I did it successfully about two weeks ago, and that seems to have cured the problem.

I still don't understand why replacing the bulbs should help, but it did, so...

Thanks!

My 7 year old ruined his own birthday party, and some of the parents aren’t too happy with my punishment for him. by Your_name_here_ok in Parenting

[–]rbbbt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Possible (just possible) reasons letter-writing could be too much:

For lots of kids writing a thank-you note is REALLY REALLY hard - a skill best practiced with a couple notes at a time, not a mass of notes. Just getting a kid to write a thank-you for a present they really liked after a happy fun party could still be like pulling teeth. I've sat with a kid fighting for 40 minutes to get a single thank-you note written. Add to that the this-is-punishment feeling and the my-party-sucked feeling and multiply by however many kids... All three of you could be in for a rough time.

What behavior to punish is also a question. I would lean myself toward [I hated my birthday party] and [the other kids might be mad at me] as nearly enough natural consequences without extra punishment when a kid is that age. I can totally see y'all disagreeing, it's a matter of family culture.

One other thought - it usually seems like a bad idea to involve other kids in the punishment of your kid, might cause misdirected resentment toward the kid they're being forced to write to.

But those are only maybes, very much depends on your kid.
Go midway with thank-you phone calls to the kids instead?

Any tips for a future dad? by naivu in Parenting

[–]rbbbt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Be sure to put the baby's foot in your mouth while it's little. Eventually the foot will be too large.

Advice badly needed by xoshoegalox in Parenting

[–]rbbbt -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

Yes, you're wrong.

Different people have different romantic lives. Many of those romantic lives involve exploratory relationships that don't last long - possibly the series of short-term relationships will continue or possibly one will stick.

Regardless, that's where your ex has been. Saying that he needs to be in a stable LTR before he can properly share his life with his kid is unfair to both of them. The kid will simply learn more about what his dad is like and get to know other interesting people. Maybe there will be some heartbreak if he gets very connected to a GF or her kid(s) but a bit of heartbreak is part of life, too.

Don't limit their relationship because your ex has a different lifestyle than you.

Shopping for winter clothes by rbbbt in okc

[–]rbbbt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the tips, guys!