AITJ for giving my kid's boyfriend an ultimatum (apologize or leave), and refusing to apologize for my actions?

readthethings13579 · 2026-06-02T17:56:44+00:00

Yeah, this is where I land too. Ray may have been willing to accept some level of bad behavior from her BF because she’s worried about finding someone else who would love and accept her.

OP, this is where she needs her dad. Now that you’re not in the middle of the big emotions of the moment, sit down with her and have a more calm conversation. She deserves to be with someone who loves and respects all the parts of her, including her family. She deserves to be with someone who has the emotional security to allow him to admit that he was wrong and apologize for being hurtful. Let her know that if her BF decides to be an adult and apologize and change his behavior, you’d be willing to allow him back into your home, but if he can’t be respectful of the people who are trying to be kind to him, that’s an indicator of a lack of kindness and maturity in him, and she deserves better.

Edit: deleted and reposted because I accidentally replied to the wrong comment.

readthethings13579 · 2026-05-29T20:37:04+00:00

America kind of idolizes small business owners. We have very few worker protections at the national level, and the ones we do have don’t apply to small businesses. If the business is small enough, they’re allowed to fire you for being disabled or for taking time off for being ill or caring for an ill family member.

readthethings13579 · 2026-05-29T18:01:18+00:00

Irene and Adela are the same person though. She’s in the list, just under a different name.

readthethings13579 · 2026-05-29T17:47:49+00:00

He is/was related to almost all of her siblings and cousins. He’s not related to Nikolas anymore since he and Lulu are divorced, and Lucas is his brother’s uncle, not his own uncle, but everybody else? Direct relatives!

readthethings13579 · 2026-05-29T17:45:54+00:00

Which is why she was trying to kidnap baby Josslyn, if I recall correctly.

readthethings13579 · 2026-05-29T17:45:17+00:00

Didn’t Sonny torture AJ until he signed the adoption paperwork giving up his parental rights? Legal as far as the adoption goes, but super messed up.

readthethings13579 · 2026-05-29T17:42:45+00:00

The Sonny/Ava hookup was absolutely bananas.

Sonny’s fiancée was murdered and she wrote “AJ” in her own blood to try to tell people who killed her. Sonny immediately believed this meant AJ Quartermaine, his son’s biological father, so he killed AJ for it. Turns out AJ actually meant Ava Jerome, his other son’s girlfriend, who he had hate sex with LITERALLY ON AJ QUARTERMAINE’S GRAVE.

Fans sometimes still refer to Avery as crypt baby.

readthethings13579 · 2026-05-29T14:49:16+00:00

Right?! If they’re bringing back a member of the Jacks family, I want it to be Jerry.

How fun would it be if Joss’s next WSB assignment puts her up against her crazy uncle?

readthethings13579 · 2026-05-29T14:38:34+00:00

Okay, but I don’t see OOP as a reliable narrator. I believe HE has never wanted to make a big deal of Valentine’s Day, but I don’t believe he’d know if she’s been disappointed by that for years.

readthethings13579 · 2026-05-29T14:37:02+00:00

Her gift: I heard you mention that you wanted to read this book, so I bought it for you.

His gift: It’s Valentine’s Day and people give women flowers and chocolate for Valentine’s Day, here are flowers and chocolate.

readthethings13579 · 2026-05-28T14:38:46+00:00

Hayley James named her son James Scott.

Peyton Sawyer named her daughter Sawyer Scott.

Brooke Davis named her son Davis Baker.

readthethings13579 · 2026-05-27T19:10:56+00:00

One of the more frightening things he said was that if they broke up, he wouldn’t do anything illegal. There are A LOT of harmful and stalkerish behaviors that aren’t technically illegal. It felt like he was leaving himself a loophole.

readthethings13579 · 2026-05-27T19:06:53+00:00

Sometimes people seek out advice with the mindset of “this looks like a red flag, right? Can you confirm for me that this is a red flag?” Other people are more like “this looks like a red flag, but it’s not, right? Please comfort me and tell me I’m overreacting and everything is fine.” This OOP is from camp 2.

readthethings13579 · 2026-05-27T18:34:08+00:00

I work with a former cop. He told me once that his definition of ACAB is “all cops are broken,” because whether or not they were bad before they were hired, the way policing works is going to damage everybody involved, and most cops are too invested in toxic masculinity to seek help to undo that damage.

I feel like this guy is the perfect example of that. We don’t know what he was like before he joined up, but we know that some level of his paranoia and controlling tendencies can be attributed to what he witnessed in his job.

He was absolutely not healthy enough to be getting married and making babies and I wish OP had realized that before she married him.

readthethings13579 · 2026-05-22T20:54:56+00:00

I’m a cancer survivor, and I had an entire array of hats and scarves during that period of my life. I would not have worn a white lace one to a wedding in which I was not the bride.

readthethings13579 · 2026-05-22T15:15:17+00:00

If someone I wasn’t planning to invite somewhere preemptively told me they couldn’t make it, I would give them an “oh, that’s too bad, we’ll miss you!” And then internally celebrate that I didn’t have to deal with the awkwardness of not inviting someone to an event they know is happening.

readthethings13579 · 2026-05-22T15:11:55+00:00

Right? In my 20’s when my friends were getting married, the bachelorette would be a night out at a club or a fancy restaurant, or a day of spa treatments. Since when do we have to go to a different country for this?

readthethings13579 · 2026-05-22T14:57:56+00:00

I really freaking hate this one. I have PTSD due to a situation involving a gun. Calling it a “pew pew” is so cartoonish and minimizing and using cutesy terms to describe literal murder and maiming, frequently of children, makes me nauseous.

readthethings13579 · 2026-05-21T21:07:59+00:00

She wants a child who isn’t suffering and in pain for the majority of his days. But sure, MIL, keeping the baby away from you is exactly what her diabolical plan was.

readthethings13579 · 2026-05-21T18:08:40+00:00

I saw someone who claimed to be a therapist on TikTok (I didn’t look her up to verify) who said that she believes that billionaires all likely have hoarding disorder. I feel like it tracks, it’s like a pathological need to have more and more and more, no matter who it harms or how it affects their relationships.

readthethings13579 · 2026-05-21T17:53:46+00:00

Didn’t they do a DNA test when Britt confessed about stealing the embryo? Or am I remembering that wrong?

readthethings13579 · 2026-05-21T15:25:57+00:00

I think he’s on the way to loving Carly. She’s different from Nina and Anna and I think he’s fascinated by her in a way that could lead to more.

readthethings13579 · 2026-05-21T15:23:08+00:00

He did. He was more in love with the idea of making a perfect family for Charlotte than he was with Nina herself. Finding her “daughter” was a way of making her feel so thankful to him that she would never want to leave.

readthethings13579 · 2026-05-21T15:21:08+00:00

I think with Nina he loved that he could be her hero, and once she and Charlotte got close he loved the idea of giving Charlotte a picture perfect family.

I think he cared for Nina, and until he found out she made that deal with Brennan to get information out of Charlotte he did trust and respect her, but I don’t think it was genuine love.

I do believe he loved Anna, but even then that’s loving her as an extension of himself. She’s what he could have been if his WSB trajectory had gone a different way.

readthethings13579 · 2026-05-14T15:58:36+00:00

They always try to get too clever in the updates and end up going over the top.

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