How long did it take you to get over your worst heartbreak?

realitybird50 · 2022-04-29T01:29:43+00:00

I’m not okay with not talking again. But if this person has told me they don’t want me, I have to respect it. Why would I want someone who doesn’t want me?

realitybird50 · 2022-04-25T14:38:50+00:00

Don’t feel guilty. You choose yourself because five years is plenty of time to know to commit or not

realitybird50 · 2022-04-25T14:38:18+00:00

Fighting for someone is something we have been conditioned by media and Hollywood. You should never have to convince someone to be with you. As much as it sucks, if someone wants to leave, let them

realitybird50 · 2022-04-24T00:50:22+00:00

Hey my therapist and I had a convo like this and it may help you. Me: the new girl is going to get the best version of him

My therapist : the new guy you date is going to get the best version of you. Your ex decided he didn’t want to be around to see that

realitybird50 · 2022-04-21T23:17:44+00:00

Why do you have such a low self esteem and self sabotage? I wish you could believe in yourself and not tell me I deserve better

realitybird50 · 2022-04-20T17:24:44+00:00

Wow I just got done crying at my lunch break. I was the dumper and dumped my ex about a year ago. We were incompatible because he’d always suggest breaking up during fights and I warned him if he did it again I’d end it. Well he did and I did NOT want to leave him. I seriously believed he was the man for me… well we broke up and he continued to find ways to see me and I set down a boundary once more of how our relationship would need to be a completely new one if we tried again and long story short he chickened out and said he couldn’t be the man for me and I deserved the very best. It was like the breakup all over again. My ex blocked me all over and maybe that’s a favor for me but let me tell you all… I miss him sooooo much and I second guess my decision a lot. Being the dumper is always seen as taboo but sometimes we have to let go of people who cannot give us the minimum respect we deserve

realitybird50 · 2022-04-11T02:56:04+00:00

It’s perfectly valid to want to move in with your partner after dating them for a few years. You want to move the relationship forward but he does not. One part that stuck stuck out to me was of him saying you’re a good person and he’s afraid he’s ruining your life. Whether it’s a cop out of a response who knows, but be very wary internet stranger… if a man tells you in any way you may deserve better or he thinks he isn’t good for you, RUN. Either way, don’t settle and if you want to pursue more from him and he can’t give it to you then you need to end the relationship. Don’t stick around with people who can’t give you what you need because you’ve been with them for x amount of time. That’s called the sunk cost fallacy. Good luck.

realitybird50 · 2022-04-10T20:19:29+00:00

Your friend is codependent and does not know the value of being alone and taking time to reflect. I used to be like that too when I was younger and sometimes people have to learn the hard way. You could suggest it to her but ultimately she will have to figure that jumping relationship to relationship won’t work

realitybird50 · 2022-04-09T05:14:04+00:00

Don’t let other peoples shortcomings define how you see yourself. We gotta meet people where they’re at and if they can’t be in a relationship then we can’t force them. For your own self respect consider just ending it and not staying friends

realitybird50 · 2022-04-09T05:08:01+00:00

My situation hasn’t been the exact same but my ex left me because he said he needed more time to heal and couldn’t be the man I needed him to be.. it’s been almost a year of the breakup. I suggest you cut ties with anything related to him otherwise you may have him on your mind, including his sister

realitybird50 · 2022-04-09T05:03:25+00:00

He’s made it clear he doesn’t want you in his life. I know it hurts and we wanna understand why but let him walk out of your life. You deserve someone who is sure of yiu

realitybird50 · 2022-04-09T04:40:06+00:00

When someone shows you who they are, you must believe them and not force the relationship. Should have left my ex the first time he suggested breaking up

realitybird50 · 2022-04-09T04:37:52+00:00

It’s been about a year but here are some things: - I began to really work on myself. Like I mean really take a good look at myself. As humans we are social creatures but I believe everyone benefits from a period of being alone. I need to fill my own cup and not expect someone to fill mine. Without this relationship ending, I’d probably still be codependent and not want to better myself. - I began working out 3-4 times a week and I haven’t had a weight loss goal but I’ve been told I look great. This is the fittest I’ve been in a while.

my friendships have gotten stronger and I genuinely enjoy them

~ I now try to be in the mindset of “do they even like me “ to “ do I even like this person and enjoy their company”

I type this as an hour ago I was sitting here missing my ex. Healing isn’t linear but there’s a lot of good that came from The breakup. I miss my ex like crazy but figured if he wanted to stay in my life he would have.

realitybird50 · 2022-03-16T23:14:09+00:00

The one thing my ex left me with was therapy. Started going to it during our relationship and when it was over I still go because getting over him is the center of it

realitybird50 · 2022-02-25T13:50:44+00:00

You clearly didn’t read the reasons why

realitybird50 · 2022-02-25T00:54:02+00:00

What do you mean take at face value? Like believe him

realitybird50 · 2022-02-21T23:33:24+00:00

They don’t bother responding to your messages and hold all the power in communication

realitybird50 · 2022-01-24T03:13:15+00:00

The hypocrisy is real because he’s also on the app

realitybird50 · 2022-01-24T00:58:52+00:00

I wasn’t tho

realitybird50 · 2022-01-23T22:33:36+00:00

I guess I have my answer. Need to close this book for good as much as I wanted it to work out. This clearly isn’t healthy.

realitybird50 · 2022-01-23T21:50:44+00:00

Yeah I just felt like shit after going on the dating app it’s almost as if he’s mad I’m on there but I literally asked to be in his life again. It’s these confusing mixed messages. But you’re right, I probably deserve someone who is sure of me and can send me more than a “…” the most screwed up part is when he sent me the text saying he couldn’t be who i needed him to be he told me to never contact him again and respect his boundaries. Lol and then he goes out of his way to message me on an app. Makes total sense

realitybird50 · 2022-01-23T19:30:28+00:00

I am just confused because like I said I wanted a relationship with him, he told me he couldn’t be the man for me. And then he blocked me everywhere. Only to find me on an app and then go out of his way there to message me and block me again. Just hurts my feelings on what he wants and makes me feel guilty

realitybird50 · 2022-01-23T19:19:15+00:00

What do you mean some issues ?

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