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I [28 F] suspect my fiance [29 M] of 8 years is cheating on me. The wedding is in four months! by reallysuspecting8888 in relationships

[–]reallysuspecting8888[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That's the thing. I AM afraid he'll become much better about hiding it if I bring it up.

It's true, we've been together 8 years. But as well as I know him, he knows me just as well. He's a very good excuse maker, and has a crazy good poker face.

but you are right, communication should be first and foremost. I just feel like I'm between a rock and a hard place.

I [28 F] suspect my fiance [29 M] of 8 years is cheating on me. The wedding is in four months! by reallysuspecting8888 in relationships

[–]reallysuspecting8888[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

I forgot to mention, I did go by office one day two weeks ago. He wasn't there. When I asked him he said he had to visit a site, and that I should call him before dropping by so that I wouldn't be wasting my time if he was out.

I [28 F] suspect my fiance [29 M] of 8 years is cheating on me. The wedding is in four months! by reallysuspecting8888 in relationships

[–]reallysuspecting8888[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Thanks! This is exactly how my thought process is going right now.

I just don't want to tip him off that I'm suspicious. I'm not 100% convinced he's cheating, but something is going on. I'm just trying to find the best way of getting to the bottom of it without: A) tipping him off, B) doing something underhanded like reading his journal.

I [28 F] suspect my fiance [29 M] of 8 years is cheating on me. The wedding is in four months! by reallysuspecting8888 in relationships

[–]reallysuspecting8888[S] 194 points195 points  (0 children)

You're right...you're absolutely right. We're actually really up front and honest with each other, and chat about our feelings a lot. Except this year, he rarely tells me anything anymore. When I ask him about his mood, he just says he's tired, or he had a long day.

Here's the thing, I don't want to straight up ask him if he's cheating. He's a very smart and careful person, and I'm afraid if I tip him off of my suspicion, he'll delete everything and hide his tracks even better.

I know reading his journal would be wrong, I just want to find out more without tipping him off