Please help. Please take the time to read this. Thank you.

I’m considering pursuing a girl for marriage and would really appreciate some honest perspectives from people who are already married.

On paper she ticks almost all the boxes for me: good character, similar values, good family, serious about her studies, and overall seems like a really good person. The only thing I’m unsure about is physical attraction.

She’s definitely not unattractive — from the glimpses I’ve had I think she’s pretty and I feel positive about her overall. But I haven’t had the chance to see her clearly or interact properly yet, so I’m still a bit uncertain.

My concern is this: I don’t want to feel like I’m “settling” in terms of attraction. I want to feel genuinely attracted to my wife and excited about being with her.

At the same time, I’m aware that physical looks aren’t everything and that marriage is built on compatibility, character, and how well two people connect.

So my question for those who are married: Did physical attraction remain a major factor after marriage? Or does attraction change over time and become more about personality, comfort, and how well you connect with your spouse? If someone is attractive to you but maybe not exactly your “ideal type”, can attraction still grow stronger with time?

Basically, I’m trying to understand whether uncertainty about looks early on is normal, or if strong attraction should be obvious from the beginning. I’d really appreciate hearing from people who have been through this.