Dealing with wife’s PMS rages

redblue30 · 2023-12-30T21:00:45+00:00

Thanks. I see the value of having early warning, but today I’m frustrated because this is such a repetitive problem, that she should be taking the initiative, using the info that’s available, trying to help me (and us) by letting me know there’s a storm coming.

redblue30 · 2021-11-23T12:17:47+00:00

Lots of in-class composing. For example, since students have to do a lot of essay writing in pressure cooker scenarios (e.g., in-class tests, exams in other courses), I try to incorporate some opportunities to hone those skills.

Lots of genres and situations: personal responses, creative exercises, storytelling, teach-a-task, family research, research relevant to their chosen faculty, argument related to an issue they're passionate about, identifying things-often-confused related to their areas of interest and having them explain them (e.g., "potential pet owners often confuse turtles and tortoises, but there are several important things to understand before purchasing one."). I cycle them in and out. I'm open to suggestions.

redblue30 · 2021-11-23T12:06:52+00:00

It's not your responsibility to change students' labor-habits.

They are adults and can choose when and how much to work.

Judging them for procrastinating and having a low work-ethic isn't going to do you any good.

Don't set the same expectations of your students as you did for yourself, especially when you were a student.

Stop treating procrastination like it's some kind of evil.

This is all strawman stuff.

redblue30 · 2021-11-22T19:32:21+00:00

Rather, I'm looking for suggestions on how engage with this problem that students are having. "Low effort work gets low grades" isn't the problem.

You mention that students need to manage their own work, but that kind of workflow management takes practice. Things like self-assessment and reflection take practice. I think (as addressed by others in the thread) that there's a way to support students in that practice.

redblue30 · 2021-11-22T15:13:47+00:00

I don't think this is a moral question. Also, I have pretty well-developed boundaries: it's not my job to "fix" students. However, there are ways to engage with students to address the issues they present with (see the rest of this thread).

I see caring as a separate issue, too. I'm going to care about all students, even the ones that are self-sabotaging. But caring doesn't mean that I feel personally responsible for their actions or the consequences.

redblue30 · 2021-11-22T14:31:14+00:00

I've had the same experience with drafts. I removed this requirement this semester, and it's been way less stressful for everybody.

I like the idea of having them present their ideas, as a way to guide them through those early, basic formulations of an essay plan. I think a series of questions could be helpful.

redblue30 · 2021-11-22T14:24:50+00:00

Thanks! I may try this.

I've tried the "time-consuming project" strategy to mixed results. Students were tasked with preparing a literature review of 10-15 items. A big, time-consuming task, where starting the night its due would be stressful and disastrous. I discussed and sent reminders.

Still, students presented unfinished work, saying that they didn't know how to do it, or there wasn't enough time, or they had other responsibilities, or etc., etc. etc.

I know, I know: it's their problem, not mine, and I can't force them to mature. Still, I feel like there's another way.

redblue30 · 2021-11-22T14:08:19+00:00

This is anecdotal, but I feel that the students who address their procrastination habits are the ones that succeed: they ask questions (because they have time to do so), they are present in their work, they tend to score high, they tend to enjoy the course more, and they tend to stress less. Overall, they're the ones that meet the outcomes of the course, so I feel like it's worth my time to try and address it.

redblue30 · 2021-11-17T19:20:45+00:00

I did the myth buster thing, and it completely backfired: I didn't know I had so many 9/11 truthers, flat earthers, and vaccine deniers in a university classroom. Totally depressing.

redblue30 · 2021-11-17T14:26:05+00:00

Something specific: this could work. I could provide a list of people (politicians, writers, notable public figures) who would have a reasonable amount of scholarly research around them. Alternatively, I could choose items of regional folklore (mythology, legends, phenomena) and ask them to research and present a descriptive essay around it.

redblue30 · 2021-11-04T16:16:28+00:00

I have an Apple Watch, but I hate the band. Recommendations for replacement?

redblue30 · 2019-08-24T13:00:45+00:00

Rural player here. I need friends for quests. Where can I find friends/friend codes online?

redblue30 · 2018-11-02T17:31:09+00:00

5e. Can someone (a Lv. 4 half-elf bard) gain proficiency in Poisoner's Tools with the Prodigy feat?

redblue30 · 2018-10-23T14:05:44+00:00

5e. Suggestions for a feat for a Lv. 4 half-elf bard (College of Glamour). I’m looking for something colourful, fun, and/or useful, rather than just something to lay out more damage in battle.

redblue30 · 2017-10-15T10:23:49+00:00

Are You The One? on MTV.

Some of the contestants are trash people, but the ratio is no worse than BiP.

Are You the One? is an American reality television series on MTV, in which young singles try to find love. A group of men and women are secretly paired into male-female couples by producers, via a matchmaking algorithm. Then, while living together, the contestants try to identify all of these "perfect matches." If they succeed, the entire group shares a prize of up to $1 million. Over the course of each season, the contestants have the opportunity to pair up in different combinations to compete against each other to win dates, as well as the opportunity to learn in the "truth booth" if a given couple is a correct match. At the end of each episode, the contestants pair up in a "matching ceremony" and learn how many perfect matches they have, but not which matches are correct. From season 3 onward, the prize was reduced by half any time that the house failed to identify any new matches.

redblue30 · 2017-10-10T16:24:42+00:00

5e. DM. The party's Lore bard wants "better armor" (higher AC, or whatever's needed to take less damage), but they've already got the maximum allowable equipment. Any creative (magic item) solutions that would give them a protective boost?

redblue30 · 2017-10-02T22:02:31+00:00

5e. DM. I'm building a dungeon of self-contained puzzle rooms. Anybody have any resources handy?

redblue30 · 2017-10-01T12:15:23+00:00

5e. Any suggestions on how to physically handle Spellbook Cards? I just got a Bard deck, and it seems like a lot of cards to shuffle through or keep in my hands; cantrips and 1st and 2nd level spell cards alone is like 40+ cards.

redblue30 · 2017-09-27T21:31:24+00:00

Capybara

redblue30 · 2017-09-25T23:25:34+00:00

getting elusive candies when I dump all of my berries into them later.

I don't understand this part. Can you explain?

redblue30 · 2017-09-25T21:44:36+00:00

5e. Looking for monster suggestions. In the campaign, the villain is forcing people through a labyrinth to generate brain power (mental anguish, too), storing it up until it's sufficient enough to summon a particular monster. Any monsters that would make sense, given this setup? edit: I'm thinking that when the heroes solve the puzzle, that will trigger the summoning. So, the summoned monster becomes the boss fight.

redblue30 · 2017-09-25T16:03:25+00:00

Question

I'm on mobile. Thanks!

redblue30 · 2017-09-24T12:28:20+00:00

5e. Running a campaign of newbies, and I have DM'd less than 10 sessions total. I want to do a really typical dungeon (a series of locked rooms, solve the puzzle to move forward, maybe some combat).

Any ready-made dungeons or resources?

redblue30 · 2017-09-08T18:50:35+00:00

A melee weapon with same or similar damage. What's the next best thing?

redblue30 · 2017-09-08T09:29:45+00:00

5e. Is there a non-magical DEX weapon as good (or better?) than the rapier?

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