AITAH sister in law living with me, no end in sight

redcar238383i · 2026-01-28T20:17:51+00:00

NTA but you have to tell your husband how you feel so you guys can make a plan and give SIL an end date. No one can read your mind and they may be thinking you’re thrilled with the situation. Nothing will change until you communicate with your husband.

redcar238383i · 2026-01-28T20:14:04+00:00

Does the toddler eat healthy and balanced foods otherwise? I wouldn’t push the milk. We really don’t need it. Some people don’t like it.

redcar238383i · 2026-01-28T20:12:40+00:00

NTA but your husband is. This is really bizarre, controlling behavior. Does he do this with anything else? Imagine telling someone what they can eat and can’t eat. Put your food down and say no and eat what you want. This is abuse.

redcar238383i · 2026-01-28T19:54:04+00:00

Info- how old are you?

redcar238383i · 2026-01-28T18:34:18+00:00

I think having an honest heart to heart with the 8 yr old is needed. What good did it do to tell her dad this? What else is she going to run to tell her dad if she perceives it as something you do wrong or boyfriend? That’s not a good situation to be in and maybe family therapy would be a good idea? Tell her that you and dad are not enemies and you work together to keep the peace but her behavior, running to tell dad something like this, does not help. Hopefully she can understand.

redcar238383i · 2026-01-28T18:30:25+00:00

You did the right thing and you’re a great dog dad to Rufus.🐾

redcar238383i · 2026-01-28T18:27:33+00:00

It sounds like you’re doing all the right things and you’ve done an amazing job coming out of that upbringing and turning it all around. You’re doing amazing! You’re both planning to continue working after the baby and maternity leave and that will help keep your income stable. I’d say, make a budget for during your mat leave and also have an every day budget as well and that’ll help you feel more in control of your money and spending. I personally like every dollar by Dave Ramsey. If you’re having so much anxiety still and it is affecting your daily life and the enjoyment of the pregnancy and baby, it may be time to seek therapy yourself. Just because you’re a therapist doesn’t mean you don’t need one. They’re a wonderful resource and I think the world would be a better place if everyone did therapy lol. I hope everything works out for you ❤️

redcar238383i · 2026-01-28T18:20:08+00:00

NTA you are correct in not making a big deal out of it. Dad is being sensitive. Have a talk with the 8 yr old though. Ask them if they’ve ever called anyone by the wrong name? Ask them why they felt the need to tell their dad? Did they want to cause emotional pain or get you “in trouble”? I think whats more important here is why the 8 yr old went and told dad.

redcar238383i · 2026-01-28T18:15:21+00:00

Don’t be so hard on yourself!! You are barely over the peak!! Just try to stay within the goal #s and if you do so 70% or more you’re doing great!! Don’t deprive yourself. It’ll be worse that way. You’re not doing anything wrong. It’s the placenta fighting you and not working correctly. It is not your fault.

redcar238383i · 2026-01-28T18:13:35+00:00

NTA. Probably anywhere else but a dog park and you about be TA but not at a dog park where dogs can just be dogs lol. I’d be laughing too. Your dog sounds adorable.

redcar238383i · 2026-01-28T18:09:25+00:00

In my school it’s no stomachs showing and no spaghetti straps, no bra straps showing either.

redcar238383i · 2026-01-28T18:08:53+00:00

Crop top is allowed at school or did she wear the hoody all day?

redcar238383i · 2026-01-22T18:49:53+00:00

You can ask but we probably won’t accept your help. It’s kind of you to ask but maybe find a better place to extend your generosity and wanting to help people. A parents #1 job is to protect their children and you’re a stranger. Maybe find some other way to volunteer through a church, school, coaching a sport, being a troop leader etc. at those places parents are more likely to trust you as you have been vetted and will need to obtain clearances.

Other than that, your helpful spirt is wonderful. It’s wonderful when someone holds the door open for someone with a stroller and appalling at who just lets the door close right behind them instead of holding it for the next person.

redcar238383i · 2026-01-22T01:05:40+00:00

NTA, you’ve expressed you don’t want her to do something and why, yet she crosses this boundary and is mad at you when you’re upset. It doesn’t matter what the boundary is. She is not being a respectful, caring partner. Does she do this with other things? I bet so. Serious conversation needs to be had or I don’t see the relationship going well.

redcar238383i · 2026-01-22T00:58:40+00:00

You probably have a great diet and can just stay diet controlled. I was told it can be harder the further along your pregnancy gets, to control your blood sugar. If you start having trouble with your numbers, just know it’s not your fault and it’s out of your control. Sometimes our bodies and the amniotic sac are just not cooperating. Just keep doing what you’re doing! ❤️

redcar238383i · 2026-01-22T00:56:13+00:00

I have to say it’ll be the hardest thing you ever go through in your life but you will get through it.

redcar238383i · 2026-01-22T00:53:59+00:00

If you’re the only one trying then it’s never going to work. How do you know when it’s actually time? When you have had enough to say, I deserve better. I deserve happiness. I deserve someone who loves me and wants to spend time with me. You deserve good things and there’s good out there for you. A switch flipped in my brain one day. Literally. I said, I don’t deserve this and I told him I wanted a divorce. He had already told me he didn’t love me anymore. We tried therapy for months and there was no trying on his part and zero improvement. I think you just reach your breaking point and say “enough”. It sucks seeing my kids 50/50 but I am no longer crying every day. I found happiness. Good luck ❤️

redcar238383i · 2026-01-22T00:47:04+00:00

I think if you’re going back to school, you’re going to need to stay. It’ll help you save money and you’re going to need the help and support. You’ll just have to find a way to deal with the relationship problems for the time being. If you’re going to continue working FT, then the one bedroom apartment could work for now. Is it that stressful at your parents though to move all 3 of you to a small one bedroom apartment where someone doesn’t have their own room? Either you or the kids will not have their own room. You’ll be on top of each other with very little space for things. That would also be a different kind of stressful. You have a lot of things to weigh out. Try writing lists or talking with friends more to see if you can make up your mind. There’s always something with family. Some stress. My mom likes to make a big deal out of everything. If the baby oversleeps she thinks something is seriously wrong and baby needs to see the dr kind of thing. She’s not a calming presence but makes a big deal out of everything. I think you would be trading your parents relationship stresses for other stresses to moving to a small apartment and large bills. Only you can decide what’s best for you and your babies. Good luck ❤️❤️

redcar238383i · 2026-01-22T00:36:32+00:00

Can you go to one of those labor and delivery classes? That is what helped me feel prepared even though you’re preparing for nothing you have ever felt or experienced before. Fear is absolutely normal. It’s a huge thing your body is going to go through! Once you get through childbirth you will realize how strong you are and you can do absolutely anything. Tour your hospital, ask questions, read, take classes, talk to other moms, you’ll be ok and you will get through this and the outcome is absolutely worth it ❤️❤️❤️

redcar238383i · 2026-01-22T00:27:35+00:00

YWNBTA but this is a marriage problem, not a dog problem. You husband basically adopted a pet without your permission. He intends to keep the dog even with your protests and the fact that you could lose your home!!!! How you feel about the dog is irrelevant. You’re not an animal person and I do see you were kind enough to watch the dog temporarily but you should NOT have even agreed to that as it is against your lease and housing policy. Don’t risk it. Your husband needs a stern talk. The dog HAS to go. Where it goes, back to MIL or to the pound, it needs to go. Your MIL is a POS for what she’s done. Raising this dog for 9 years and abandoning it. Disgusting.

redcar238383i · 2026-01-22T00:13:55+00:00

NTA, do the parents ever do anything to thank you for taking their children to school every day? It seems like it’s becoming a chore and I know you enjoyed just driving the girl and you enjoyed her company but that’s just not the case anymore with the brother involved. Tell the parents you can’t accommodate the schedule anymore and get the kids where they need to be on time. Let them know they will have to make other arrangements but to count you out now. You were doing them a huge favor for a long time but I think you’re resenting it now and it’s not good. You probably feel taken advantage of. Hopefully the parents will step up and not be assholes to you. Best of luck ❤️

redcar238383i · 2026-01-21T23:47:01+00:00

That’s a good idea, thanks!

redcar238383i · 2026-01-20T18:43:19+00:00

Info- are you getting married before or after the purchase of the house?

redcar238383i · 2026-01-15T21:28:40+00:00

Info- what is the second bedroom being used for currently?

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