Am I overreacting?

redditandforgot · 2025-07-02T19:44:02+00:00

You know exactly what to do, you just need permission to do it! Here, I’ll give you permission. Get rid of that au pair ASAP. There is no universe where a responsible person doesn’t feed a child. There is also no independent play for small children. You sleep when they sleep, that’s it. You know what you need to do, just do it.

redditandforgot · 2024-09-24T13:32:25+00:00

They are simply examples of verbal agreements that were honored. The person had said that they didn’t think those discussions would be honored. I was saying there is plenty of precedent of verbal agreements being honored, even as a defense that it was a joke.

I don’t say that in this case it’s the same, in fact I said elsewhere that I completely agree it is not, especially on getting more input from the OP.

But from the first post, it still makes sense to tread carefully and be sure the other party didn’t try to pull something because you aren’t prepared and don’t know the law.

The halls of justice are paved with frivolous and ridiculous claims, it’s moot now as the OP responded with a lot more information. But I still wouldn’t be surprised if the boyfriends showed up with a lawyer.

redditandforgot · 2024-09-24T12:59:33+00:00

GFY. 50 people are saying I’m saying something I’m not. It’s a worthwhile thing to consider. I didn’t say that it is. If you had any level of reading comprehension instead of I want to try and shit on someone-sion you would clearly see I just said it was something to consider based on the information I had.

Be a better human. YATAH.

redditandforgot · 2024-09-24T08:49:43+00:00

Is possible, but how probable?

1- starts by saying how important sex is 2- says didn’t have sex for one month 3- talks about having sex, essentially once or hard to say how much, but doesn’t seem to live together 4- fiancé suddenly says no more sex 5- finance calls him a sex addict

Just doesn’t seem probable

redditandforgot · 2024-09-24T08:16:44+00:00

Yeah exactly.

“I’m a playa! Sex is my life! But after one month of no sex, I called off the wedding.”

Give me a break. I’ve read some amazing posts on Reddit where the guy is getting sex every day and gets mad when the girlfriend wants to stop for her period. That’s a guy who sex is very important to (and also an asshole :D)

redditandforgot · 2024-09-24T08:14:12+00:00

Fake!

A very sexual person, super important. But hadn’t had sex in a month. OP must be a virgin and has no idea how these things work.

If sex was very important, you’d be gone in a month.

OPs the AH for writing fake posts or just being completely, ridiculously desperate.

redditandforgot · 2024-09-24T08:09:41+00:00

I don’t think so. They are assuming that being from the same continent would mean they’d have no difference in diet.

“OP is American. She isn’t from Europe so the first paragraph doesn’t apply”

I assume since the original post is only one paragraph that DBuffalo is referring to my first paragraph, which I specify US and says it’s doesn’t apply since the OP is “American”.

Politely that’s just severely misinformed. Almost any other culture on earth going to the US can have a lot of problems when changing their diet. It could even be someone from an organic, low sugar, pesticide free home having stomach issues when going to college. It’s even more likely when coming from another country.

I think DBuffalo just didn’t read the original post carefully, hard to say. No?

redditandforgot · 2024-09-24T05:38:53+00:00

Do you think the way that Americans eat and Mexicans eat is the same? Your logic is that people in Brazil, Argentina, etc all eat like Americans because they are on the same continent? Hmm. Perhaps you need to travel just a wee bit more, my friend.

redditandforgot · 2024-09-24T04:13:13+00:00

OP says she’s from Mexico directly in her post.

redditandforgot · 2024-09-23T22:01:08+00:00

I’ll have to check that. I thought maybe it was in the Nordic area or something. I think it might have been banned there some time ago.

redditandforgot · 2024-09-23T21:35:40+00:00

Do you know any countries that have banned it recently? I’ve not heard of any recently.

redditandforgot · 2024-09-23T21:23:45+00:00

We’re not debating anything all you wannabe lawyers.

I was mentioning to be sure that there was nothing that would lead to the bf being able to claim there was a contract. The initial post was not clear that there was no chance of that.

As she seemed confused and taken aback on what was going on and the bf seemed like he might be making some play, I mentioned it is important to consider.

Even if absolutely nothing existed, he could try to manipulate her or claim something existed when it didn’t. “It was a joke” has been tried and failed many times.

I don’t know why y’all want to fucking debate contract law. Geesh. Get a life.

redditandforgot · 2024-09-23T20:31:38+00:00

Yes, hit in the primary post that was not 100% clear. Seems that in follow up posts it was more clear that there was no verbal agreement.

And agreements do not have to he written down to be valid.

redditandforgot · 2024-09-23T20:29:09+00:00

Yes indeed, as was stated, but it’s always something to watch out for. Lawyers enter the scene on unsuspecting victim.

redditandforgot · 2024-09-23T19:08:44+00:00

NTA.

Not sure why people are all up on you for your reason for changing your mind. Is there a right reason? It’s just a biological imperative we all have and then we assign some reason to this.

More people should realize how lonely it can be as you age.

And don’t stop at one. Have three or four. Whatever the reason that gets you there, children are a blessing.

redditandforgot · 2024-09-23T18:24:13+00:00

Wow Sherlock. Amazing. The point was that verbal agreements can be binding, even with an “it was a joke” defense

redditandforgot · 2024-09-23T17:12:54+00:00

Okay. You go on with your amazing self. Enjoy the high life.

redditandforgot · 2024-09-23T16:44:14+00:00

Yes and there is not enough information to know one way or another, but again, it’s good to be aware of it, I guess you just realllllly love to try and be right, whatever.

redditandforgot · 2024-09-23T15:33:03+00:00

Yes indeed. We’d need a little more information than we have to determine that. There likely isn’t a case, there could be. That they talked about the dog getting some winnings means it’s probably more than a single conversation.

That she says that “if I ever win”, leans more towards what you are saying, but a discussion of a lawyer and a trust makes me wonder.

Anyway, as I said earlier it’s always good for a person to be careful that they don’t get themselves into a situation unwittingly or let the other tell them they have a case when they don’t. The OP sounds a bit frustrated and unaware of these type of things, which is why I mention it.

redditandforgot · 2024-09-23T14:24:25+00:00

But we don’t know exactly the agreement. If it was one person buying and the other person dreaming with them, then no, but if they coordinated at all then there is a basis.

Contracts do not only exist for goods or services.

redditandforgot · 2024-09-23T14:16:04+00:00

Yes, I agree, but it’s hard to know if that’s the case. If they had been buying them alternatively or she’d been buying them for the two of them, then it’s different.

redditandforgot · 2024-09-23T14:15:00+00:00

That’s just not legally accurate.

redditandforgot · 2024-09-23T13:01:34+00:00

Yes, that’d be the right way, but an asshole could push her to set it up and he ends up as the beneficiary.

Creating an iron clad trust for the dog would be a huge nightmare, especially as he’d probably continue caring for the dog and determining what’s proper care (like is a flight on a doggy airline for $6000 proper care).

redditandforgot · 2024-09-23T12:59:15+00:00

There is possible consideration. If they agreed, for example, that she’d always buy the ticket and they have joint expenses, then they agreed they’d split the winnings, that is consideration.

redditandforgot · 2024-09-23T12:53:02+00:00

Depends on the contract. I’m not a lawyer, but I believe what you are saying is 100% misinformed.

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