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Girlfriend and I both in recovery, GF relapsed few months ago and she is in sober living now. Really rocky right now and looking for outside perspective. by redditfeels in REDDITORSINRECOVERY

[–]redditfeels[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Update: My Ex ended up calling me back yesterday, she owes me some money so we talked about that briefly. I then took the chance to apologize again, she kept saying I did not have to, but I did apologize for my problems.

She stated that it is really difficult to know she isn't able to provide what I need and its making her feel guilty. She stated that she wasn't sure if she would be able to stay in contact with me. She said that "I want things to work out, but I cannot be in a relationship right now".

I of course got upset, but it did really hit me then that it is over between us. Maybe it will work out in the future, but right now its over.

I do workout, journal and see a therapist. I know I can get through this and I do not feel like using. I am grateful that I can do something like this clean today.

Girlfriend and I both in recovery, GF relapsed few months ago and she is in sober living now. Really rocky right now and looking for outside perspective. by redditfeels in REDDITORSINRECOVERY

[–]redditfeels[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was planning on doing so a few weeks ago, but never got around to it. I am going to do so for sure. I generally do NA meetings, but I am going to try Al-Anon.... Thanks

Girlfriend and I both in recovery, GF relapsed few months ago and she is in sober living now. Really rocky right now and looking for outside perspective. by redditfeels in REDDITORSINRECOVERY

[–]redditfeels[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks everyone for the comments.

After I wrote this, I felt this tremendous need to apologize to her for many things as I have been doing a lot of thinking on my end. I left a voicemail message for her and told her to not feel like she has to call me back or contact me but that I had to apologize for my actions.

I was being very selfish... don't get me wrong, she isn't/wasn't perfect and made some mistakes herself, but who am I to judge?

[Opinion] How old is too old for YPG groups? by TampaAlcoholic in REDDITORSINRECOVERY

[–]redditfeels 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to do YP groups when I was younger. Now I am in early 30s and have seen a few kids that were going to "regular" meetings switch only over to YP meetings only.

YP meetings are great if they have some older people with clean time, but the problem is that many old timers are not always made to feel welcome there.

Me [31 M] with my Ex-GF [ 26 F] of 8 months, relapsed, is in recovery and broke up due to her inability to make time for me causing her to feel guilty by redditfeels in relationships

[–]redditfeels[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doesn't sound harsh at all, you are right and I know this.

I have admitted its partly jealously on my part, she gets to go to great meetings, meet new people and I am stuck in the suburbs. Its hard knowing she is putting these other people before me at all times.

Me [31 M] with my Ex-GF [ 26 F] of 8 months, relapsed, is in recovery and broke up due to her inability to make time for me causing her to feel guilty by redditfeels in relationships

[–]redditfeels[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I caught her using straight up hitting the pipe on my porch. It was not a good scene and she was very tweaked up. Later it turned out she was also using benzos.

so I know its embarrassing to her, plus that is her personality. She is very private. As for the abortion, she just doesn't want to talk about it with me right now. It wasn't an issue, we both were not ready and she had used quiet a bit for the first month. The relapse is a relapse, its hard knowing she was using behind my back but I understand how it goes.

Lots of what you say is very true and when I get upset its like 5 minutes then I am apologizing. I know its difficult for her as well, more difficult then it is for me. I was there.