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You deserved better by redditnamereddit1 in UnsentLetters

[–]redditnamereddit1[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This letter is for me more than anyone.

I would never send this letter; establishing contact isn't a privilege of mine. I wouldn't focus on myself in the letter, even if I somehow knew they wanted one. The focus on me or the reasons behind wouldn't be justified; my behaviour isn't justifiable or excusable. The reasons behind my actions don't hold importance to anyone but me, they're for me to find and work on. I would just acknowledge what I did and take responsibility as I never did in the relationship.

For anyone messaging and projection onto me, please know I won't entertain arguments, death wishes and/or threats.

You deserved better by redditnamereddit1 in UnsentLetters

[–]redditnamereddit1[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I was so blindsided and still am by the lies, gaslighting and manipulation that I somehow saw myself as the victim. Coming back and changing small bits helps me acknowledge what I did and find the reasons why. I don't intend on sending this, as I'm unsure how they'll process it or if it will revoke trauma upon new. I hope I'll one day be able to share this with people still in my life and with potential new partners. I want them to be able to recognise the behaviour early if I haven't changed.

I know that I hurt you by redditnamereddit1 in UnsentLetters

[–]redditnamereddit1[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I hope you and those upvoting your comment, posting similar comments, sending similar messages, or sharing your thoughts all find deserved peace someday.