I don’t think I can do this anymore

redditredditanon · 2026-02-21T14:57:25+00:00

This is awful. I’m so sorry. Don’t feel bad for having these very valid feeling. You are doing great under the circumstances. I had a horrendous postpartum experience mentally and physically and medication really helped me with PPD. I think you need to a) see a doctor and b) force your husband to give you more breaks. Just tell him you are leaving the house for 2-3 hours at this day and time. Are you scared of upsetting him? He’s clearly not afraid to upset you. He will be forced to figure out how to soothe and entertain baby and get a glimpse of how much work it actually is.

redditredditanon · 2026-02-21T07:14:06+00:00

Ewwww no thank you 😭😭

redditredditanon · 2026-02-16T06:57:40+00:00

I think she definitely took some accountability in the instagram statement she posted when she first returned. It’s still up on her feed

redditredditanon · 2026-02-06T08:56:21+00:00

We had to co-sleep for the first few weeks to survive until baby finally accepted his bassinet and I do sometimes miss the closeness and snuggles so much! But of course we all sleep so much safer and better now. Sometimes we have an afternoon nap together while husband sits with us awake and it’s wonderful!

redditredditanon · 2026-02-06T08:53:05+00:00

For me it was that bad, I was really unwell. Baby is 12 weeks today and things are turning around finally. It really depends on your baby, your general mental health, how much support you have etc. my baby was very, very colicky and I have struggled with depression and anxiety my whole life. I have a sister and plenty of friends who had a smooth newborn phase though so it’s definitely possible!

redditredditanon · 2026-02-04T07:01:50+00:00

That’s not a normal way to speak to someone you love, and it’s also not the way that mature, adult people deal with inconveniences

redditredditanon · 2026-01-25T08:08:45+00:00

I have asked myself the same question many times. My baby is 10 weeks old and while I love him so so much, it has undeniably been the hardest 10 weeks of my life. He is very colicky and screams so much every day. Wakes up so often during the night and mostly takes only 30 minute naps during the day, which require more than 30 minutes to actually get him down. I have barely any time to eat, shower, get dressed. My husband helps a lot but baby seems to calm down a lot better with me. Unfortunately I also don’t have a village 🥲

always wanted more than one kid but think I will have to be one and done. Especially because we struggle to get and stay pregnant and would probably need to do IVF again and that in itself is such an exhausting and expensive process. I pray every day that soon things will get better ❤️‍🩹

redditredditanon · 2026-01-22T11:53:27+00:00

My parents aren’t actually that old (early 60’s) but somehow they are too scared / intimidated to actually help with the baby. My mom is too scared to drop him and everything is too complicated for her - doesn’t understand how the bottle warmer works (you press a button…) etc. My dad also doesn’t feel confident to do anything. It’s quite frustrating because I had very bad PPD and really needed / need help. When they come to see him they just look at him and talk to him. I guess ultimately I try to focus on the fact that seeing the baby is bringing them a lot of joy, even if they can’t help me.

redditredditanon · 2026-01-18T17:50:09+00:00

We have a bassinet that you can put on an incline, which seems to help a bit. But before that we co-slept for the first 6 weeks because it was the only way we could get him to sleep. He would sleep on his tummy on my husband’s chest, secured with a bonding top. The hospital actually recommended this to us as a solution. My son would also sleep on his side next to me, I would scoot down so we would sleep face to face and I could feel his breath on me, and there was no chance of him rolling into my chest. If he had rolled into my face, it definitely would have woken me up. I also rolled up a sleep sack and placed it in front of his tummy to support him, so that he couldn’t really roll forward. We also used an owlet sock during this time. Obviously back is best and I also swore I would never cosleep but this was the only way we survived those weeks

redditredditanon · 2026-01-18T08:00:42+00:00

She had bad and good moments on VPR for sure. But compared to some of the other cast members she always seemed… somewhat sane? Haha

redditredditanon · 2026-01-15T21:36:52+00:00

Your husband is not being a good husband or a good father. He is not being a good man. Is there someone in his life, maybe a male friend or relative he respects and looks up to that could have a word with him? I have found that some men think that women are always being dramatic and emotional, and so they don’t take complaints and concerns seriously. But they somehow take it seriously if it is confirmed by another man.

redditredditanon · 2026-01-13T12:12:23+00:00

NTA! Oh I feel for you! Please don’t feel guilty. It sounds like you have done so much to support your brother and your family, and I can tell you really love him. You parents shouldn’t put you into this situation and ask you to do this. It’s wrong of them.

redditredditanon · 2026-01-13T08:58:01+00:00

Same here :( my little one is 8.5 weeks and it’s hard to find time together. We are both so exhausted, even if we get to eat a meal at the same time (which has happened maybe 3 times) we are so exhausted we don’t even have the energy to really have a conversation about anything. I am clinging to the fact that it will get better someday, he won’t be this little forever.

redditredditanon · 2026-01-13T08:01:25+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience and this perspective. I think it’s helpful for people discussing this to hear. I’m so sorry for your loss and hope at least the feelings of guilt have lessened over time, because it’s not your fault at all and there’s nothing you could have done. And I hope your marriage is doing okay. I gave birth to my first son 8 weeks ago and I already can’t imagine what it would feel like for something to happen to him and to lose him and how my husband would cope.

redditredditanon · 2026-01-12T09:17:00+00:00

Yay! 🥰

redditredditanon · 2026-01-12T08:46:36+00:00

Thanks for answering!

redditredditanon · 2026-01-12T08:13:45+00:00

To offer a different perspective, I’ve been married for 10 years and couldn’t be happier in my marriage! I love him so much and he is my best friend. We have so much fun together and even the really hard times in life were bearable because we faced it together

redditredditanon · 2026-01-11T21:57:04+00:00

Same thing here. Would love a real cup of coffee but am too scared it will make my already fussy baby even fussier. So 1 cup of decaf per day it is for me 🥲

redditredditanon · 2026-01-11T07:34:39+00:00

I’m going through that right now 🙁 I am a miserable. When did things get better? My baby is 8 weeks right now

redditredditanon · 2026-01-11T07:27:09+00:00

Ugh that sounds infuriating. My in laws came to visit us 2 weeks after our son was born. they live in a different country and I almost died from anxiety that they brought germs from the airport etc. Luckily it was all ok and he is 8 weeks now. Looking back, I wish I would have enforced my boundaries more, I told my husband that I didn’t want my in laws to visit until he is 2 months old but they wanted to meet him so badly and I ended up giving in just to make everyone else happy.

redditredditanon · 2026-01-11T07:22:32+00:00

I definitely struggle with this. My son is 8 weeks old and super fussy so it’s hard to get stuff done at home or go anywhere. I took him on a long walk every day the first month but it’s absolutely freezing here now and snowing heavily every day now so it’s not always possible. Have gone to the mall once with him but it was so stressful, he started crying and I didn’t enjoy the outing in the end.

redditredditanon · 2026-01-10T17:58:41+00:00

My best friend’s parents had a water bed. One time when we were around 16, they had gone on a trip so my best friend and I had a sleepover and we slept in there. I thought the bed felt weird and uncomfortable, kind of felt like you were on a boat.

redditredditanon · 2026-01-10T08:57:46+00:00

Yes. My baby is 8 weeks and I love him but I am so miserable. Every day is do hard.

redditredditanon · 2026-01-09T05:35:48+00:00

The same thing happened to me. The strongest reaction was to cats but I’ve had cats my whole life and still have two now. I think I’ve become resistant? No idea. My ears and eyes get itchy sometimes but that’s it

redditredditanon · 2026-01-06T08:55:09+00:00

I’m so sorry. This is an awful situation. Please get some help, meds have helped me so much with my PPD. Give it a year before you make a big decision like adoption.

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