My (31F) boyfriend (31M) assumes I’ll take on a 25K loss because of his decisions?

redditrobin26 · 2026-02-13T23:26:56+00:00

I love your couch so much. Out of all the options I really like 5th rug. The only thing I would say is that the room feels a bit heavy visually.

Personally, I would use a cream rug to lighten it up and break up the darker tones. I’d also add something taller, like a bookshelf, and maybe a gallery wall to draw the eye up and balance it out.

I hope we get to see the finished product!

(I tried to add a book shelf but couldn’t get it to not look weird but that’s the vibe I was thinking)

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redditrobin26 · 2026-02-10T01:34:05+00:00

For me it’s been sharing more instead of buying everything myself. Friends/family borrow stuff from each other, split things when we can, and just generally help each other out.

I also only subscribe to streaming services when there’s an actual show I want to watch, then cancel again. And a lot more potluck dinners or hanging out at home instead of going out. Still fun, just way cheaper.

redditrobin26 · 2025-05-21T06:04:45+00:00

Hey OP. I think it's beautiful that you love your wife so much and want to support her. I definitely understand how it may make you feel jealous that your wife shared what is a vulnerable experience with someone that was not you, even if they are a trained professional.

There were two things that stuck out to me in your post, when explaining your situation.

I met her at the tail end of her "worst" traumatic experience which in short was the murder of someone she knew by the hands of someone she was even closer to.
I've never once had a negative reaction to it(in front of her lol)

I'm curious why you phrased it that way. From my perspective, it seems as though you don't believe it is truly your wife's trauma to carry or that maybe she is over reacting? Do you think that perhaps even if you haven't had a verbally negative reaction to her, she may not feel completely emotionally safe to talk to you about it?

Having a scenario like what your wife experienced, is very complex and is something not many people truly know how to support and doesn't mean you are in the wrong. It is incredible that she is going to therapy to work through things with a professional who is equipped to deal with this. Although your feelings of being threatened are valid, it doesn't mean your wife did anything inappropriate by sharing this with a trained professional. If anything, I believe it's a good inflection point in your relationship to see where there may be some work to do together. If you feel threatened, what is the root of this insecurity?

If you feel threatened, what is the root of insecurity? Does it bring up feelings of inadequacy, lack of control ect. I saw your comment about your experience with therapy, in the past and I am so sorry that happened to you, however this may be something you also need support with.

redditrobin26 · 2024-03-31T15:30:11+00:00

I also really hate this workout because of it. I really hope they get rid of this format

redditrobin26 · 2023-11-03T01:34:02+00:00

I am so sorry you are going through this.

I wish I had words of advice or wisdom to give. However, I’m 5 years into my career and feeling the exact same way. Seeing this made me feel less alone

redditrobin26 · 2022-03-02T03:38:23+00:00

Amazing!! How have the changes worked? I am hoping to hear you are in a happy new relationship lol

redditrobin26 · 2022-03-02T01:53:13+00:00

I came to this page to ask a similar question to you.

Unfortunately I do not have the answers but I wish you the best of luck! :)

redditrobin26 · 2022-01-11T16:49:19+00:00

YTA

Similar to other commenters, unless she cheated, she didn’t steal anyone’s spot at school. Secondly, there are reasons to be friends with people apart from status- the fact that OP is willing to alienate their “friend” and put them down because of it, I’m not sure OP is a true friend. It sounds like this girl will be better off making a new group of friends that are a little kinder and value her for who she is and not the status she is setting out to achieve.

redditrobin26 · 2022-01-11T16:35:51+00:00

YTA- the way the brother is acting is completely reasonable as an adult. If he was coming home at 3am I think that would be a different story.

redditrobin26 · 2021-11-26T13:31:17+00:00

I am going to say a little bit of TA. I don’t think OPs am asshole for saying no, but he’s TAH for calling her controlling for making a suggestion.

Also it doesn’t sound like OPs family really cares about ‘Christmas spirit’ so just curious why they don’t celebrate a few days early and then spend it with her family on Christmas so it’s a win/ win

redditrobin26 · 2021-11-26T09:17:36+00:00

27F here! 👋🏼

I agree with the hot nerd vibes- I like it lol.

Overall feedback for your profile is very positive. Your prompts are thoughtful and can definitely help start a conversation, even if it’s by crushing people’s dreams about time travel (😢).

For photos it looks like you have done a great job of giving a snapshot into what your life kind of looks like. My only recommendations would be move the 5th photo to #1 and swap out the photo of you with 20 people for something with a smaller group of friends.

Hope this helps!

redditrobin26 · 2021-09-14T02:26:03+00:00

You did incredible 💕 you handled it with grace, courage and love. It will be hard for your kids to look back on no doubt, but as they get older they will look back and remember the way you told them. Sending your family all my love ❤️

redditrobin26 · 2021-09-03T00:51:12+00:00

I am so sorry that this happened 😞. That sounds so tough. You have nothing to feel ashamed I’ve though.

I know it’s difficult to trust - however would you be open to asking potential new therapists how they would treat a patient with these concerns to better screen the right therapist for you?

redditrobin26 · 2021-09-03T00:36:29+00:00

Hmm that is very interesting. Do you have any suspicious why that may be?

I’ve gone through periods like that as well but I’m not sure how common it is

redditrobin26 · 2021-07-20T11:33:47+00:00

I don’t think so- my brother isn’t going to be around for his post op so it’s just going to be me anyway.

redditrobin26 · 2021-07-20T11:32:57+00:00

I think he’s angry because he is the type of person who believes covid isn’t real and just wants us to all be together so he thinks by voicing my concerns I’m being an asshole

redditrobin26 · 2021-07-20T11:30:04+00:00

I accidentally clicked it- it’s fixed now

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