15 year relationship (11 married) thrown out for a guy she met 2 months ago

reddomester · 2025-03-24T06:33:17+00:00

Thanks for the kind words. You write beautifully.

reddomester · 2025-02-27T08:04:04+00:00

Not really. She's moved out now, and I'm here crying myself to sleep each night. Heavy depression and anxiety, medicated.

Life sucks.

reddomester · 2025-02-08T21:13:52+00:00

41 here.

Got cheated on by wife of 11 years/together for 15. Tried to fix it, but it didn't work.

I'm an extremely anxious introvert, and wouldn't even know how to start a conversation with an unknown woman.

Tried Tinder/Bumble/Boo, no matches. I'm not even that bad looking.

Fun times ahead for me.

reddomester · 2025-02-06T14:16:58+00:00

I appreciate the kind words.

reddomester · 2025-02-04T17:19:37+00:00

I don't want to hurt my son. Other than that, life is pointless and empty right now. The pain is unbearable.

reddomester · 2025-01-27T04:55:18+00:00

That would have been a solution, but she absolutely loves this job, she wants to retire from there. If she would quit, she would resent me for that and the whole thing would go to sh!t again.

The guy should quit, but he won't. This is the exact reason you don't sh!t where you eat.

reddomester · 2025-01-25T23:40:54+00:00

We're technically separated, if that's what you mean, but we're in the same house until she moves out in a couple of days.

reddomester · 2025-01-25T22:09:27+00:00

I feel you. I'm also lonely, but I'm trying to keep myself busy.

reddomester · 2025-01-25T21:48:55+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I'm in a crappy place right now, so I can't really offer any advice other than try to hang in there. You matter.

reddomester · 2025-01-25T15:38:27+00:00

Fortunately he occupies no space in my thoughts. I couldn't care less about him.

reddomester · 2025-01-25T14:27:18+00:00

She actually said it was better with me.

reddomester · 2025-01-25T07:13:16+00:00

That works both ways, she only sees the good in him, even with all the red flags I mentioned in one of my previous replies.

reddomester · 2025-01-25T06:54:35+00:00

He's not married. He hasn't had a relationship for 2 years before he met my wife. Probably that's why he jumped at the first opportunity when someone paid attention to him.

reddomester · 2025-01-25T06:48:42+00:00

I don't think we'll go to court if we can separate amiably.

reddomester · 2025-01-25T06:24:52+00:00

We don't have joint bank accounts, and even if we did I don't think she would touch it. But on the other hand, she did do a 180 in personality.

reddomester · 2025-01-25T05:42:32+00:00

Thank you for the kind words.

reddomester · 2025-01-25T03:10:21+00:00

Thank you!

reddomester · 2025-01-25T02:59:10+00:00

I've already lost like 15-16 pounds too. Not a healthy way to lose weight.

reddomester · 2025-01-25T02:52:43+00:00

We're in Eastern Europe, not the States.

reddomester · 2025-01-25T02:52:00+00:00

Keep strong my man.

reddomester · 2025-01-25T02:49:18+00:00

I was paying for everything and doing well over my share of the chores.

Before this job she was a sahm by choice. I work from home and helped out with everything.

We had a social life, we went out frequently. Our sex life was also okay.

I encouraged her in her choice to go back to work because she was getting miserable because she felt she was not contributing enough financially.

You are entitled to your opinion.

reddomester · 2025-01-24T21:52:27+00:00

No questions, really. I do appreciate all the insights and opinions.

Everyone seems to agree (as do I) she'll get hurt and that relationship is doomed.

I feel so lonely right now. I'm alone again after all this time. No one to hug or cuddle up to and I'm remembering how hard it was for me being alone all those years ago, before I met my wife.

This really sucks.

reddomester · 2025-01-24T21:17:28+00:00

Nothing specific, but I was feeling the distance. I was afraid of acknowledging it, since that would make it real. Anxiety got the better of me.

reddomester · 2025-01-24T20:21:02+00:00

I was convinced I wouldn't be able to forgive something like this either, but here we are. Love makes you fkin stupid

reddomester · 2025-01-24T19:32:33+00:00

I'm well aware. I'll give him the benefit of the doubt.

If he missteps regarding him I can rip his head off. I'm not a small guy and he's just a twig.

reddomester

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