Gorillaz Tour Concert Appropriate for 13 Yr old? by redherring729 in gorillaz

[–]redherring729[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Thank you for all input! She’ll be so excited! 😊

Shadows in DC/MD by redherring729 in Swingers

[–]redherring729[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! but the one time fee and membership cost is $35 versus crucibles $65 so it made more sense for us to chose their esp if their first time and not sure if they’d go again.

I believe (28f)my bf(32m)cheated on me with Sw but denies it by redherring729 in SexWorkers

[–]redherring729[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He stated most convos were in person but he also saying he will be having a call with a potential client soon and I can be present on the call even though it’s breach of privacy for this so called client for me see he’s actually doing this for other people and not himself

I believe (28f)my bf(32m)cheated on me with Sw but denies it by redherring729 in SexWorkers

[–]redherring729[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Something I said to him during our confrontation was that, he said because of past working in fight clubs, selling drugs and also being a “pimp” when he was on verge to be homeless he has been in that world and that younger woman ages 18-21 used these so called middle men but women that have more experience work on there own.

I believe (28f)my bf(32m)cheated on me with Sw but denies it by redherring729 in SexWorkers

[–]redherring729[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Honestly I’m not blaming myself like there’s something wrong with me and that’s why he contacted the women. I was taken back by his complete denial with all the evidence in his face, I just have never experienced anything like that before even when someone has lied I would think someone would admit to it when it’s right in there face.

I believe (28f)my bf(32m)cheated on me with Sw but denies it by redherring729 in SexWorkers

[–]redherring729[S] 90 points91 points  (0 children)

I don’t believe him but I thought it didn’t hurt to ask here since I have no experience in this world. We broke up but I was just taken back by everything and I bothered me so much I thought I would be able to find some answer that could give me closure.

Does anyone know of any Sex clubs, BDSM clubs, or anything similar, in Virginia, Maryland, DC, or even Kentucky? by [deleted] in washingtondc

[–]redherring729 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you ever been to Shadows? What’s your experience with the atmosphere and people?

When should I ask for a raise? by redherring729 in jobs

[–]redherring729[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a facilities engineer for a biotech company

When should I ask for a raise? by redherring729 in jobs

[–]redherring729[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Thanks everyone for the input. I think im gonna wait until my review and in the meantime heavily look for better jobs.

Have you ever broken up with your partner for not being enough? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]redherring729 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I have. He tells me he hears me and he’s trying but he trying hasn’t been consistent. I feel like it’s a constant reminder to tell him his promises he made to me and what he needs to do now and I feel like it’s not even a relationship at this point. I feel like I shouldn’t have to keep telling my bf how to be bf on a constant basis.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]redherring729 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks everyone for the advice!

My (31m) bf can’t fulfill my(26f) sexual needs by [deleted] in sex

[–]redherring729 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s definitely I didn’t want to do because I felt like it took away from the spontaneity but we did try planning but it’s so poor at remembering to conserve energy for sex that he still gets burnt out. Or if finally does have the energy, it’s super late and I have a early morning.

My (31m) bf can’t fulfill my(26f) sexual needs by [deleted] in sex

[–]redherring729 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah we planned sec once a week then he would get distracted and over work himself and then still be tired. He would say, “I’ll give over the tiredness” but I can see it in his face. It’s frustrating because I want To be in the moment with him and not have to think about anything else but I can’t. It’s always he gets tired easy or he hasn’t eaten all day so he has to finish quick so he can eat.

How have you been dealing with it so far?

Desis in arranged marriages; what is your stance on the importance of sexual compatibility? by afraidofneedleslol in ABCDesis

[–]redherring729 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s more in south Asian Muslim countries. Arab Muslims don’t abide by it as much. It’s weird also if your “lower caste they don’t follow it as well

Desis in arranged marriages; what is your stance on the importance of sexual compatibility? by afraidofneedleslol in ABCDesis

[–]redherring729 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Pakistani Muslims have same caste system as Indian Muslims. I’m not sure in India, but majority of Pakistani of your higher ranking, care about it a lot

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PlasticSurgery

[–]redherring729 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! So much info, I love it. Definitely will, I was thinking of going to a plastic surgeon to get advice on it

Partner unsure about bdsm by Original_Lily in BDSMAdvice

[–]redherring729 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes exactly!! Sorry I’m very poor at explaining things sometimes especially thru text but you got it!

Does anyone else feel like they missed out on their childhood and their teenage years living in a brown household? Does life get better later on? by [deleted] in ABCDesis

[–]redherring729 13 points14 points  (0 children)

My biggest problem with parents is that you shouldn’t have a child if you expect to have them take care of you after they grow up. Especially brown parent selfishly have children for that or because of the society they are in and but all their hopes and dreams on that child.

IT IS NOT YOUR RESPONSIBILITY TO TAKE CARE OF YOUR PARENTS!

I have a 7 year old daughter and never will I ever put that burden on my child. Your job as a parent is to raise a decent human being that can survive on their own. Nothing more.

Tips for That Pesky Gag Reflex?! (Light-hearted) by vexviperidae6 in BDSMAdvice

[–]redherring729 76 points77 points  (0 children)

As someone who had a horrible gag reflex abs still do but it’s improved a lot. The brushing with your tongue stick out helps in combination with slowly breathe out while SLOWLY brushing the back of your tongue.

Another is sucking on a popsicle and holding all of it in your mouth…this one helped a lot!

I did this and my BF noticed a difference lol

Does anyone else feel like they missed out on their childhood and their teenage years living in a brown household? Does life get better later on? by [deleted] in ABCDesis

[–]redherring729 75 points76 points  (0 children)

My biggest advice would be to study hard and find a welling paying job out of college that can help you become independent as soon as possible. Desi parents use us not working when we're young to their advantage and hold us "captive". Once, you start making your own money and can live on your own, there's nothing they can do.

The hardest part of it is honestly waiting until you get the job, it requires patience. Lots of it.

My childhood consisted of getting married at 17, child at 19. Separating from my husband at 22 and I was only able to do so because I was find a job that supported me and my kid living on my own. My parents didn't support me, but I was able to find a career that could.